hitting is bullshit

i find it personaly totaly unacceptable to ever hit anyone, even to the point of being attacked for my wallet in CDG airport in paris, i still did not stoop down to that level. i can defend myself if needs be without throwing punches.

it is simply beyond my understanding to hit a woman, i dont care what she has done, there is simply no reasopn to do it, doing so would be a failure of the part of me that controls emotion, i'd go outside and punch the wall before i hit another human. (and have done)

as for peoples preception of me being 'soft' because i refuse to resort to violence? i simply dont care, as i said, i am quite capable of defending myself or my family / partner, and have done before. it just takes a bit more restraint, and do not ever allow the red mist and testosterone to controll your actions.

if your aggression is stronger than your moral bounds, you are a dangerous person, and should seek help.

 

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I second this.... enough said...

 

Uh huh, and when a woman has sex with a lot of guys she's seen as a slut, meanwhile a guy who has sex with a lot of girls is seen as a champ/hero (whatever you want to insert there).

The world is full of double standards.

 

I dont wanna sound sexist or anything. but Im tired of the fact that when females get mad they can be way too cruel, overly cruel. they pick at you and pick at you and dont stop in a position where if it where a male talking to a female, he would have most likely stopped, in fact he most likely wouldnt have even gone that far. its like they liek to make you feel like shit, they hurt you then rub it in your face. Ive got 8 siblings, all of them (but one) have had many girl/boyfriends. every break up the guy is upset and not really making a bunch of stabs at her, but shes making countless stabs at him. Even Shuar (Amazonian tribe) noticed that women can be like that and they would train less female Uwishin(shaman). and yes, I know about pms and all that jazz.

and saying that guys are sexists is a sexist thing to say. sexist!

 

You just pointed out a fundamental difference between the sexes congradulations. Yes, chemical make up can make people react differently to different situations. Yes, women are more emotional then men. You must realize that men have been trained to hold in their emotions, so OF COURSE the man is going to stop. Women were never taught that, so, to a man, a woman's emotions seem far more severe when compared to a man.

I think either instance, either holding your emotions in or being too emotional is a bad thing. You can thank society (not necessarily women or men) for what has become of them.

The only thing I can think of to cure this problem is meditation and yoga!

 

I wish I knew how to not be so emotional... I never am unless their is need, but my emotionals are so pure and unrefined it confuses the typical man. I'm not convinced it's a bad thing, but it is a hard thing to be "overly emotional" when dealing with people who are not, and do not understand.

do we have a choice or is it our dna? or training?

 

your right this is quite confusing from a mans point of view

 

I know what you mean. I have the same problem with my boyfriend...ex-boyfriend (he decided to break up with me yesterday, but I have no idea what's going on...I live with him at the moment---talk about a fucked up situation) Rather than just be understanding he wants me to change who I am. I know it's hard to control emotions, but, if you're willing, try meditating and yoga, it is known to help quite a bit...and I know I always feel better after doing so.

As for it being in our DNA. Yes...we have higher amounts of estrogen in our body compared to a man, but I'm not sure if that has anything to do with increased emotions or not...

 

it's 2007, everybodys equal. Hit a bitch if the circumstances call for it.

 

its a matter of breeding ... men who are raised correctly would never dream of striking a woman no matter the provocation ... sometimes its done as a result of continued whining, moaning and taunting on the womans part ... if after all this provocation a man does hit a woman it is still unforgivable ... personally i believe every woman is a lady until proved otherwise and like children, women should be seen and not hurt ... maybe i'm just old fashioned ...

 

women can be just as abusive as men. legally, its all wrong. if a man hits a woman or visa-versa.as in,if your wife is kicking your ass and you call the police, she will be in just as much trouble as you would had you hit her.

 

what do you guys think about a woman giving her old man a smack for talking trash or being stupid or whatever. Do you count that? I don't mean anything hard, more like a warning... well I don't have a good word for it, but I hope ya'll get what I mean.

Men usually laugh when women smack them anyways, so it doesn't seem that bad. And I'm not talking about a sucker punch.

 

this is very dependent on the situation.... in a heated conversation I would say no..... that would piss any guy off enough to pop their cork after already being pissed off..... after saying something smart just in regular conversation.... then its alright and prbly for the better.... pain is easier to understand than some decoded message...

 

that makes so much sense to me...

i.e. quit drinkin and only smack him when he doesn't know he's being a jerk

 

prbly the only thing ive ever said that makes sense!!! but ya know everyonce in awhile we just need to be put in our place!!

 

I believe if someone regardless of gender is gonna haul off and hit me, unless it is in a playful joking manner then they should be prepared to recieve the same in return. Hitting someone is wrong and stupid, and unless you are looking for a fight or know how the person will react don't hit them, instead resolve the issue with some other less violent means.

 

you never hit a woman most men who hit women or abuse them are afraid of another man and would never pick a fight with one....they are usually cowards...but back to the subject hitting a woman is never right it a line you do not cross............but it not right for a woman to hit a man either not cool at all

 

Totally agree, hitting either way is wrong and not cool.

 

so you are saying if a women used all her might and slapped you across the face you would hit her as hard as you could back?

 

One hard slap probably not, but if she were attacking me in an attempt to harm (repeated punches, hard slaps, kicks, scratching) then probably yes. Though even then it probably wouldn't be with all my might, it would probably be enough to get her to stop.