when is it reasonable to get a divorce. im not sure if i love my wife anymore and i have found a few things out about her for the first time in our three year marriage. and how do you deal with such a thing as her freaking out, her family, your family. its a tough situation but i think im comin to grips with the fact that i made a huge mistake, and i feel awful about it as well.
What made you want to marry her? Is that gone, compromised or a lie? How so? Can you live with yourself if you cut the ties that bind? Will you feel better about yourself if you do? These and other questions should be answered by YOU.
When you both want one. or When the marriage counseling doesn't work. or When one of you catches the other in bed with someone else. or When you simply can't take it any more. or When you discover that she has spent the rent / mortgage money, for months, on drugs, or gambling, or just blown it.
infidelity or insanity. that is, if the two were married for the right reasons....which is sickeningly rare.
That's like saying if someone got cancer you would leave them. In sickness and in health; right? I think infidelity, someone treating you like crap on a regular basis or physical, sexual or regular verbal abuse. Love, honor, respect and obey...if any of those are broken then the deal is null and void imo. The person at fault is violating a legally binding contract.
I agree that is pretty disrespectful and shows a complete lack of caring for the other person. You're breaking not only the obey part of your vows, but also the love part because putting your family at risk financialy is not love.
