I've been with my boyfriend Rich for a year and a month now. he's 20 and im 17 in 4 months he'll be 21 and ill be 18. well this april we are moving in together and i guess he said he wants to propose to me in 2008 sometime (of course i don't know when) so when we got married i'd be 19 and he would be 22 well anyway WE know we are made for each other and i never want to be with anyone else. but i feel like people don't take us seriously just because i'm younger. i matured very early and had long term relationships before and nothing has ever felt like this meaning im way past the lust thing, i got that all over with in middle school. i just wish people could believe in us and put age a side i always had a feeling my whole life that i would get married young and start a family in my early 20's. it's not impossible. i just wanted to get this off my chest
Good luck! It ain't easy, god knows it ain't easy, especially at that age. I met my husband when I was 17 and he was... dun dun dun... 20! We weren't even together for a year before we married. He asked, I said yes. Not long after, we moved in together, and at 18 and 22 (last Summer, July 8) we got married... sure, we had to listen to a lot of people bitch about how we shouldn't do it, we should wait, we're young, etc. His own sister didn't come to the wedding (and we wanted her kids to be our ring bearer and flower girl) because, she later told me, she thought that it was wrong for us to be getting married so soon AND so young. Now she says, seeing us together (she lived in a different town, and does again now, but lived here for a few months this Spring), apparently we're the kind of couple that makes people want to puke, the kind of love that you just don't see often enough any more. So don't let them discourage you. You're smart enough to know what's right, go for it! And here's to marrying young and still being sure you're going to live happily ever after. Sure, we struggle more than most couples, especially financially, but at least we're there for each-other, no matter how hard we have to struggle just to get by sometimes, at least we get to struggle together.
First and foremost: Good luck! And to share a story....Well, I'm 17, my boyfriend is about to turn 18, and you know what? Whenever my friends say that it's "creepy" or "weird" that we're so devoted to each other, I just smile and shrug. We know each other. We've both been in relationships - we're not totally naive. We won't get married until later (probably during or after college), because a wedding right now just isn't feasible and we want to be sure of everything, but the second he looked into my face one night a few months ago when I was upset and said "Babe, calm down, college can't do anything to us, we've got 80 years to be with each other," I relaxed and realized that he was right. I can't explain it. Luckily, my mother understands - she married my father a scant few months after meeting him, and they were both young. They're still together. Sometimes you just know. Could you be wrong? Yes, but it's no reason for people to put you down. Even if you are wrong, people have to live their own lives and make their own mistakes and learn from it. And if you're not (as I suspect you aren't, and myself as well), then isn't that just the most amazing thing? Love is for celebrating, not ridiculing.
wish you all good luck and the best........... it your all decision if you want to get married so do what your heart tell you don't listenning to anyone else
Wow, that's a hard decision and I wish you all the best, because, you know what?... Whatever you do it's about your life and if it doesn't turn out right, it's all about your mistakes you can learn from some day..... I know I couldn't get married so soon, but who am I to judge?...And who are those people to judge?...Your families just wish the best for you, but they have no right no interfere....
Yeah - good luck. I also dislike the stereotypes people place on relationships with large-ish age gaps. I'm really happy for you and I hope everything goes well!
I got married when I was 21, and my wife was 19. We were married for 27 years. So it is possible, but the od's are stacked against you. Good Luck
