i feel used.

so yeah. i met this guy. and we did it - the first time we met, and the second time we met. and i only ever met him twice.

and then today, i told him that i shouldnt do that kinda stuff anymore.
and he said.. oh okay, was fun tho...

uhh. yeah. its like.. atleast be a LITTLE bit upset about it... lol

fuck him..

 

You chose to have sex with him. Why do you feel used?

 

thats true. but i actually kinda likedddd him.

he doesnt seem to care. thats why..

 

Oh, yeah I can see how that could sting. But he probably figured you were just an easy fling and didn't get too wrapped up emotionally in it, and probably thought the feeling was mutual.

 

oh fuck, you're right.
you know what?

next guy i like.. im doing the 3 month rule. no matter how horny i get. i dont give a shit. lol 3 month rule. no ifs ands or buts.

3 month rule being... with somebody and not have sex until 3 months into the relationship. hows that.

 

you seem a lil immature. Sex isn't everything. Your the one that wanted it make the bed you laid in.

 

3 month rule is definitely a good one

 

i think the 3month rule is a good idea.

I can definatley see why you feel used. But thats the risk you chose to take. If you liked the guy then you should of found out how he felt about you first. Dont get emotionally wrapped up unless its a boyfriend or sumthin. The guy was just after a quick fuck. Make the next guy wait.

Naima

 

how can you know if you like someone the first time you met..you were horney and you fucked not once but twice and you only saw each other twice.your angry for him not being a little upset...he didn't even know you he knew your pussy..you had no time for emotion it ws strictly sex...are you surprised?

 

similar situation for me in a way, but the other side of the coin.

i recently was introduced to a girl through a mutual friend. I really liked her, but everyone told me she was wrong for me. long story short, it kinda got sexual via im text and phone even before we met, and less than 3 hours after we met first time we were in bed. thing is, when we met, we were at a large event, and we wanderd around, just me her, my best mate and his girlfriend.

as we were wandering around it was excelent, we got on really well, holding hands, cuddling etc, i was realy happy, thinking i had finaly managed to get something i've lacked for so long - a girlfriend. later that night we had some awesome sex.

next morning, i got up before her (it was absolutely baking in the tent) when she got up, she gave me a huge hug, a kiss..............then pretty much never spoke to me again.



she acted like i didn't exist for the rest of the weekend, and we have hardly spoken since.

i felt really guilty, she has had some issues, and i wanted to show her that not all guys are dickheads, but also part of me feels used, she got what she wanted, and that was that. i really wanted to prove to her that there are some nice guys left, but i haven't been with a girl for about 5 years, so with her leading the way, i didn't put up enough resistance, and didn't take much encoragment to end up in bed. i guess she still thinks that all guys are only nice to girls to get sex, and that REALLY bothers me.

 

I've never been subject to the three month rule, more like the three day rule.

 

yeah when i started dating my boyfriend i told him i wanted to take it slw, maybe wait a month or so...psh. 3/4th date we couldnt wait!

 

If you didn't enjoy the sex, then you were used...

 

exactly

 

When I was single it was generally a two week to one month rule with me, unless I already knew her.

 

i dont have any rules... if she wants to fuck then we fuck... If she doesnt then i bounce.

 

Don't feel used...what's the point?

You learned a lesson and if you don't want how you feel to happen again, then you either A) get over it and just have sex with the guys when you FEEL like it or B) Take it as a lesson and be more careful about who you share your body with.

 

you used him just as much as he used you..... 3 months is an awfully long time you need to think more practical and maybe not set deadlines.... honestly If a girl sleeps with me the first time I meet her I usually count her out of my book as someone im going to get emotionally evolved with.... Think of it from his point of view....

 

I believe people should do things when they feel they are right, but of course this determines the course of the relationship.
How well does he know you and how well do you know him?
What else have you shared, besides sex?
I think this things work differently with everybody and if you are looking for something meaningful, It's usually a good idea to share your soul more than your body with the person you are interested, but I dont think there should be a rule
Rules are boring and we usually end up breaking them. Find a middle point between your instinct and your reason

 

well, yeah i've learnt my lesson..
and i know 3 months is long, but it'll tell me whether he likes me or not, and not just in it for the sex. stuff like that.. you know..
and yeah, we do know quite a bit about each other, we dont have much in common, except for this one band we both love.

anyway, i've decided on the 3 month thing, and thats final! lol