I'm with a 14 year old

This is a really interesting topic, and there have been some wise, insightful posts made here, on both sides really.

My two cents are as follows... 14 is pretty young to have sex, but I think I could've handled sex at 14, in the right situation, even though I didn't lose my virginity for some time after that.

I started hooking up with girls at a young age. I would rather not discuss the details, but I will say I have asked myself at times, was it a mistake, or did I benefit from it? It's really hard to say. It's certainly shaped my views on relationships, the opposite sex, love, sex, and many other things... I don't know if I will ever really know what the net effect was, because I will never have a chance to do something else. But, I can say that it can have long-lasting negative effects that *cannot be understood or perceived at the time of the relationship/sex/whatever.*

On the other hand, I think it could turn out fine... it could blossom into a beautiful lifelong romance which is perfect for both of you. It's such a complicated issue... but I will say that the danger is there for it to be bad for one or both of you. Who knows if that is actually the case. You (the original poster) probably know best, in your heart, but your judgment is clouded because you are involved in the relationship yourself.

I do have one question for you though, and I think answering it will do a lot to clear up exactly what's going on here... before I ask, let me say that it is not accusatory at all, even though it might sound like it. That said, the question is, what exactly was going on in your mind when you were 17 and decided to start a relationship with a 12 year-old? Was he just that amazing of a person? Were you struggling in your peer group (I don't mean that offensively, gosh knows I haven't always fit in)? What was the deal?

 

Well if its a 40 year old (or someone in there 30s) and a 14 year old, I guess its quite weird. but its not a huge age gap. Weve all heard of relationships in which the 2 are 4 years apart in age. you dont think "Ew, he was 17 when she was 12" . but since I believe in reincarnation, why would age matter? its only the age of this one body.

 

reincarnation or not, a fourteen year old boy is not at the same maturity level as a twenty year old. A fourteen year old boy isn't even fully developed. If the situation was reversed (20 year old male, 14 year old female) hardly anyone would approve.

i honestly don't care what this woman does (or if this is even a real relationship). If she thinks a boy can give her what she wants than so be it.

 

if a twelve year old is as good as you can do, then your one ugly bitch...

 

lol.. and i thought i had problems when i did it with a kid 2 years younger than me.. lol.. and i felt bad about it too.. however, i only let it happen once.. you on the other hand, let it happen for 3 years.. lol. for shame.

 

lol @ this pedophile...

 

I'm not sure exactly what a 20year old has in common with a 14 year old.... ?

 

wow this is the most disturbing post i have ever seen. This is wrong on so many different levels.

 

This coming from a 16 year old...


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Here's my thought on it;


I personally would say that you should be with him if you truly desire to. I personally wouldn't date someone so young at your age, but that's me. What you're doing isn't right under the law and moral expections of social interaction, however, you shouldn't let the goverment's laws and other's morals cloud what you want. You want to be with this boy, then so be it.

But, there are things I would like to address what I notice in this thread.
Why is it that when the boy is 14, he's written off an immature punk and can't handle the relationship? Fourteen year olds can be just as mature as someone in their 80's, just because they've been on the Earth for a shorter amount of time doesn't mean that they aren't wise and mature enough to handle sex and love.

In most online forums, why is it that people bash and talk about killing men who are in sexual relationships with teens and preteens? Then when a woman, like in this case, is in a relationship, there's no talk about killing or overly rude statements directed at the said woman? Talk about a double standard! Women can be pedophiles as well as men. Is this view of 'Women are the weaker sex' so strong that we leave ourselves blind to the reality that women can be preverted/evil/corrupt to the extent that a man can be?

What's up with this 'That's sick/weird/nasty' agruement? It truly isn't nasty, given that the boy is saying "okay". The only thing I see wrong with this relationship is the fact that someone may find out and it ruins the woman's reputation, and the boy would be treated like some kind of sorry kid with the old "It's not your fault" thing from parents and therpists that the parents may force him to go to.

That's my view.

 

I think thats totally wrong....

simran

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what IS the definition of "wrong" after all?
must we succumb to the so called universal ethics that are being loaded onto our brains since birth?
if something seems against YOUR OWN ethical code, and you keep doing it, I think only then you are "wrong"
and EVEN BY SAYING THIS, I am being subjective.

love needs no confirmation.
just be.

 

but if you love someone you have to let him grow and find himself

when someone is not old enough or mature enough to make big decisions, and when he is not aware that he might be harming himself and his future you should help him

presuring him or encouraging him to something risky for his future is WRONG, and that's not subjective

 

I still think it's awesome. Give him a high five from me, too.

 

This coming from a 20 year old...


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even more sad that your 20 and talking to younger people, wait arent you the pedophile?

 

white boi, shut the fuck up... and please no longer direct your posts in my direction...

 

LLLOOOLLL!!! @ your fuckin face...

 

I think it is very wrong.

 

You must be an extremely desperate woman. Are his parents aware that this is going on?

 

thats the coolest 14 yr old on the block. But if his parents find out, you are going to jail