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yeah, you'll likely start putting on weight naturally in your twenties. most do. even my friends who were put on protein shakes and crap like that. if ou're healthy, it doesn't make any difference.

 

who cares what you weigh as long as youre healthy and happy with who you are?

 

...exactly. like i said, its a two way street.

 

I just found out that a girl in my 11 year old daughter's class has been purging!

She's not overweight at all, but not skin and bones either. she looks like a normal weight. Her mother pressures her to be thin, telling her that she weighed 98 lb when she got married, and the child is already over 100.
Isnt that the saddest thing? These parents want their kids to be "popular" and look good, and to hell with real accomplishments. :stunned:

 

Exactly.

 

Things like that make me sick. I've seen it, heard about it and everything, and it makes me want to kill. I don't even have kids yet, but if/when I do, if I have a daughter, you would NEVER catch me saying something like that. Or even thinking it. My mom and I are like best friends, I couldn't imagine her poking me and telling me I'm fat or something when we go shopping for clothes and stuff (she's the only person I like to shop for clothes with...).
But I've known other girls with moms like that, too. I knew one girl whose mom told her she was "getting fat" all Winter (she's always been underweight, not on purpose) and then, once she started playing soccer again in the Spring, her mom told her she looked disgusting because she lost so much weight, and yelled that if she didn't gain a few pounds, her prom dress would be too big and just look absolutely horrible on her.

Things like that make me really, really disappointed in womankind sometimes. Not to say all of them are like that (obviously, my mom is practically my best friend) but the idea that ANY mother could treat her daughter like that... kinda makes you wonder what's really going on these days.

 

I guess the reason they do it is purely out of jelously. Its a bullying thing. They just dont think that they can loose the weight so they pick on others to mask their discompfort about themselves.

I see it alot with loads of girls at my school. It's the first insult they come up with when theres a brawl between the groups of them.

It's a sad thing to see actually.

I just say who cares what size you are. It doesnt matter. There are so many other things you can be concerned about.

 

What I hate most is that I can't be skinny without everyone thinking I have some sort of psychological issue with my weight. I eat more than my boyfriend does and yet it's hard for me to stay over 100 lbs. You basically get a nice middle finger from me if you call me anorexic.

Having hyperthyroidism is a bitch and it's hard enough to deal with WITHOUT people thinking I have some sort of mental disorder too.

 

Well... where to begin with this topic is the question. Recently I have found myself in a situation that I never ever thought I would be in. From a young age us females are taught about the dangers of eating disorders and the dangers of obesity. I have always been over weight... Not over weight in a 10lbs here or but obese. I swam, played soccer, volleyball, and softball, didnt eat, worked out and still managed to stay over weight. Until I was 17 years old I was the biggest girl usually and dealt with the name calling and glares that are associated with being over weight. I tried not to let it affect me and to be completely honest, the only problem I had with my weight is that the only attention i got from the opposite sex was from guys nearly eight years older then me because my weight and my height caused me to look much older than I am. Last year (im now 18) I finally started a kind of relationship with someone my age and even though it was not directly for him, the fact that a guy was showing interest in me who was my age, made me want to look better. So i started working out hard core, eating WAY WAY WAY less.. and slowly but surely started to shape up. However, Im a southern girl and I love my food... eating lean cuisines and or not eating at all kind of gets blown out of the water around holidays and family outings. Eventually, I just came to realize that by throwing up everything, I could eat what I want and not worry about how many calories I consumed. I know the health problems associated with my actions, but by doing this, I feel better about myself and its helping me lose weight, which i desperately need to do. Ive lost 60 something pounds, and 40 of that was the healthy way, but its just to hard. Until I reach my weight goal I will not stop doing what I am doing but my issue is now that my best friend who is dangerously skinny is doing it as well and has struggled with it for awhile. Since I have it under control I never even thought that it was an issue for her until she knew that I was doing it too. Shes gotten to the point where she is so tiny its ridiculous, and shes getting sick, but how am i to step in and really question her about it when she can throw it in my face that i do it as well. She realizes its a problem and its taking a huge toll on her life. She is no longer happy and is constantly depressed, and what can i do to help her out?

 

you can tell when someone is healthy but the way they look, their skin, their attitude, their walk. i'm the only fat person in my whole family, but i'm healthy, too. they are also healthy. some people just won't gain weight. but these starlets we're forced to look at, the ones that used to be healthy but are now grotesque is a bit much. they're not foloing anyone, they're killing themselves and we're watching it..

 

Agreed. I look happy and healthy. Definitely not on the verge of death... *shudders*

 

I was going to star a thread the other day about something similar to this.
Right now I am in summer school at the college I go to, and there is a girl who has been driving me absolutly insane with her beliefs about raising kids, etc.
She is barely 20 and has NO kids, I should mention...
At least once a day she talks about how important it is for a girl to look good. If she doesn't, she's going to be teased. She is forever making me and my husband (who also goes to school with us) feel guilty about the fact that we are not rich and can't buy our kids fancy ass clothes like she has. She was telling me how she's going to be "responsible" and wait until she can afford to buy her kids expensive clothes before she ever has any.
But that's just the tip of the ice burg. She spent 4 hours talking about how it's "alright to be friends with ugly people" but that she's going to do everything that she can to make sure that her kids are only friends with pretty people, since that will make their lives so much easier. (and she managed to slip in a few comments about how I should take her advice to make my daughter's life easier, since she was beautiful growing up, and that it musta been harder for me....sorry, but I missed the memo that I was suddenly "ugly")
THEN (and this is the worst part), we were talking about babies (since I am pregnant) and I was talking about how curious I am to see what my new son is going to look like. She says, "you'd better hope you have a pretty, unhariy baby." I shot her a look like, "what did you just say?" So she defends what she says by saying that if she, "ever had an ugly kid she would ask to trade it in." Or, that she would, "rather have a beautiful dumb kid than an average smart kid." Or, that if she did have an ugly kid, she would, "save up so she could afford all the plastic surgery that kid is going to need."
This just goes on and on.
The worst part is that even though she doesn't have her own kids yet, her older sister has 2 (about ages 6 and 10). Not only is she the "expert" on how to raise kids because she lives with her sister, but she talks about how her neice has back hair, and every night she sits down with her neice and older sister and tries to convince her sister to take the kid to have that lazer hair removal.
The mind boggling thing is that she's not a dumb girl. She has a brain in her head....but I can't believe that she would think that it's a good thing to talk to her children or neices and nephews like that!

In relation to the OP's post, I think that it's people like her who are really the problem. It's not the "skinny" or the "fat" girls (that has it's own issues to be delt with in realtion to how the how extreems treat eachother...and I could write an essay about that), but it's the obsession with looks.
So many girls have already posted in this thread saying how no matter what they do, they can't gain weight. That's because it's the way their body is built and works to maintain itself. If you take care of yourself, eat right, and exercise, it should not matter how you look. You're healthy. Forget about men, society, other girl's comments. You're healthy, and you're going to feel better because you're taking care of yourself. In turn, you gain more confidence, which is SO much more attractive than a girl who has been so pressured to look thin that she has lost all sense of life, energy, vitality, and just feels like dirt because her body can't work. I guess the words that sum this up is, "ignore people, be happy with who you are, and take care of yourself!"

 

Except people's ideas of eating right and getting enough excercise are horribly, horribly skewed.

 

Being yourself, whether it be: short, tall, thinner or bigger...is SO much better than being a sick-looking Paris Hilton. She's nasty. A friend of mine has an eating disorder, even though I dont think she would admit to it. Shes a stick! and NOT to be rude, because I love this girl like my sistah, but man! I dont have anything against skinny people, or bigger people. Im a big boned italian chick.

We cant help who we are. Anyway, sorry for getting a little off topic, but society (and Hollywood) finds the trend to being sickly TOO skinny a fashion! It's CRAZY.

 

so, um, why the hell do you associate with her again?

 

^^^she's in my biology class (there's only 3 of us) and she doesn't stop talking

 

When I was a teen I was constantly hassled and hated because I was so thin. I wasn't trying to be thin, in fact I tried to gain weight but nothing worked.

Now, after two kids, people still think I'm think but I'm in the more normal range and I'm more accepted.

It's alarming to me when people are so fat and this is easily 80% of all adults I see or when people are too thin. However, I tried to look at it this way, it's none of my business, they are probably doing the best they can given the givens.