I'm currently a college student, and i live with my parents. They are always snooping around my room, reading my journals, listen in on my phone calls (sometimes if a guy calls and my dad answers, he won't even give me the phone, instead he'll tell them that i'm not there). We don't have a lot of money, so i've been working since i was 14 to pay for myself & help out, cause i mean my parents have 4 kids, thats a lot! if i bought anything for myself, my dad would have something to say about it. Then recently they decided that they don't want me to have a job at all, reason being "students are supposed to be poor", and i can't drive, so that's the end of my job. To make matters worse i have a wisdom tooth coming in, and w/ no $ to pay for it, i'm gonna try to ride it out with meds, but my dad doesn't want to help me buy them. well call me spoiled but i think thats fucked up, i can't even sleep. All this stuff i mentioned happened recently, i'm not one to go diggin in the past, cause one, thank god it's over, 2 because i'll be here venting all day. I'm so sressed, sometimes i just start crying, i don't believe in suicide anymore, but i am still so unhappy. I moved out before but, it made my mom so upset, i felt i had to come back. They make me feel like everything i do is wrong, I'm finding myself becoming more and more reclusive, just for comfort reasons. What you do?
i wold move back out, it is selfish of your mother to want to keep you in that house forever. your in college now and this should be a time for you. not them! get that job back and try to explain to your parents why you are leaving. if they wont listen i am sure they still understand, they were 19 once too...
get out of there then.....get another job and just do things to make yourself happier, not your parents. id starting bitching at them for everything
First thing you need to do is talk to one of your counselors at your college. Let them know what is going on at home and get their suggestions. You should not be going through this. You said you moved out before, but since it upset your Mother you moved back home. You have to think of your needs and your happiness. Your Mom should not be looking for you to fulfill hers. Follow your heart and instincts and do what you feel is right for you. Don't worry about anyone else at this point. Please talk to someone close to you and get their help. God Bless You. Love, Jackie
I would tell my dad to fuck off for snooping through my shit, your dad sounds like a real asshole to me. if you can support yourself get out of there. and this parents not wanting you to have a job?!!!! WTF, I'm sorry but if my parents did all that shit to me i'd beat the fuck out of them, i am not a violent person but it sounds like they are contolling everything you do. thats not right. I just had a wisdom tooth come in last month, if i didnt have any meds I would have been in agony, it was pretty bad even w/ meds...blah blah blah, your parents are assholes, i'd get the fuck out Your parents are lucky they arent my parents cuz I'm sure they would have gotten the shit beaten out of them and I''d be in jail
They sound to controlling, you should move out and my sister has 8 kids now thats alot!. peace and good luck
yeah you do need to get out of there, but i'd stand up to them and quit letting them push you over. The only reason they keep pushing you around and coming up with all these rules is cuz you dont' stand up to them. and if it gets you kicked out then so be it. that happened to me and i had to go live with my guy and his family for a few weeks til' i found a place. but i'm sure you have friends or family that you could crash with til' you got on your feet. you are a grown woman trying to make it in this world and the first step is standing up to your parents. quit letting them get the best of you. your old enough to tell them off if you have to...and yeah it'll be hard to stand up to them if you havent done so already, but hun once you do it, you'll realize you should have done it a long time ago......make us proud!
They have manipulated you to the max. You left before and through manipulation they got you to move back. Now who's life are you living yours or theirs? I would move out and stay out and I would try to get meds for wisdom tooth from the school infirmary, usually a college student has access to medical care at school. If you go to a doctor explain to them what your financial situation is. Sometimes asking for help is the start of finding a solution. There has to be a nice oral surgeon somewhere who would take the wisdom tooth out and let you pay for it in payments or something. All doctors have a closet full of medicine that they can give away at their discretion, maybe not pain killers but ask and maybe you can get that from the school infirmary. Make today the day you start living to please yourself and not your parents.
I left home when I was 14. Parents are fuckers. I would take an axe and bring 'em down. Hope this helps.
Move out. Your parents will see their faulty ways as mine did. Hard reality is you don't have a car so this limits you to may extremes. Talk to them about how awful this all is and follow through with leaving. Happened to me this past year and now I am back and things couldn't be better.
Do random large amounts of different drugs, and pass out in a place where they will find you, make up some little suicide note about them riding you so hard and not letting you live your own life and/or letting you breathe and you feel dead so might as well be. Then they will be nice when you get out of the nut house 2 weeks later.
That's crap. Don't let your parents manipulate you. It sounds like they're having a hard time letting you grow up because you can take care of yourself better than they can. Get a job, get your own car, get some roomates and move out. Easier said than done i know....i need to take my own advice.... im very similar to you except i quit college last fall after my first semester...i live at home, work full time, pay for my car n all that....and they gave my car to my sister so she could go to college...which is crap b/c she's never had a job in her life and ive been working since i was 16. so, shit happens. you have to take control of your own life, you and me.
Okay, is there any way that you could learn to drive? If you could, you could by a used car really really cheap (buy from the classifieds in your newspaper, NOT a dealership...dealerships are always jacking up prices unnecessarily so they can run their shop). Once you learn to drive and get your own car, you should start looking for a place to live. Don't let your mother guilt trip you--she will get over it, and if she doesn't, it's HER problem. You need to understand that you have control over your own emotions, but no one else's. Finding roomates would help with the cost of housing--do you have any friends at college that could room with you? Also, if you don't have a job at the moment, look into the Federal Work Study program. If you used FAFSA to pay for college, you should be eligible for it. It gives you up to $2500 a semester and you can get an on-campus job so transportation isn't a big deal. You are an adult now, and this is YOUR life, not theirs. You have more power than you realize. Good luck, Kate
