in a tough situation, any ideas what to do?

i have always believed that i am male since i was bout 3, two of my old doctors even knew this while they were treating me for depression. when i came off my old ant-depressents a couple of years ago my doctor asked me how i felt about the whole wanting to be male thing and i just said it wasnt an issue anymore, that was a complete lie. when i saw counsellers and everything they would focus on other things never the transgender part,so i lied just because i didnt know what to think and that because no one was talking about it then it must mean i was lying bout these feelings. but now im 20 and the whole thought of being a male has come back out from hiding. i feel so sad when i see myself in the mirror, when i used to dress as a male i had so much confidence and felt normal but sad to take the clothes off and see what was underneath. i really want to speak to a doctor about this and see what they say but im so scared that he will say its something else or that it wont be taken seriously or nothing will be done or he will say im lieing because its been so long since i told them that i wanted to be male. what should i do? should i go speak to someone or should i not bother? any ideas of how i can get them to take me seriously for a change

 

First of all, I want to apologize if I'm not of any help because I don't have any experience with doctors. (I'm almost completely "in the closet" about being a trans.)

I do have to say I feel the same way about a lot of the things you do. (just in that I'm mentally female, not male.) Especially about the 'feelings coming back' thing. I guess it's true, we can try to suppress them, but they're never gone.

My advice (taking into account what I said in the first paragraph.) is to go talk to your doctor. If he thinks your lying so be it. You won't know unless you try, and seeing as how seriously mentally painful something like this is, you need to try.

 

Pretty much agree with everything in the above post.


I have had experience with doctors, and i have to say, they haven't been a lot of help to me. After about 2 or 3 years of battling, i finally got prescribed hormones. But the treatment after that has been pretty poor. My main problem was being sent for electrolosis treatment, and then being told i couldn't have it. That totally devastated me, and ive been given no real help since then.

It probably depends on the doctor you're seeing, and the clinic you attend the quality of care given to you. I feel with the right medical support and treatment, i would definitely have a quality of life now. Instead of which im just living a constant nightmare.

I have no idea how you get them to take you seriously. Because at my clinic, one doctor i was seeing took it very seriously, and accepted everything i was saying. Then after a while, another specialist joined, and he seemed to question "what i am" a lot more. Probably because i didnt fit into the narrow stereotype that most other people with my condition seem to.

Im sorry im not much help, but my experiences with doctors and the like hasnt been very good at all.

 

i had a sex change withch went rong i hav e 1 tit and 1 ball and my dick shrank 13 inches

 

Hiya
Im only young at 15 but I do have experience of annoying doctors.
I think going back to a doctor and telling them how you really feel would definately be a very good first step. Then seeing a psychologist would do good too. Just make sure you dont hold back and really tell them how you feel. I think that will probably be the only way theyll believe you. And if all goes badly and they dont, keep trying and dont give up. Go back and speak to them or seek a different opinion.
I hope all goes well
Amy xx