New House? And Loosing My Friend's?

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what would your grandfather want you to do? would he want you to wallow in the sorrow of his passing, or celebrate the fact that even though hes passed his family has been able to give you a great opportunity andn a great house

as for your friends, well, if you arent rubbing it in their face or anything then they arent really your friends. if you keep bringing up how you got the house for free and theyre in dire straights financially, thats just rude

 

no, i don't rub it in at all, in fact they didn't know the fact of the matter till one of them overheard me talking about it with my mom.

It isn't something we tell everyone, in fact, we just like everyone to think
that we pay a mortgage like everyone else for the sake of conflict.
They just rub it back in my face, out of no where, when they can't deal with their own life, and kinda take it out on me? But i dont know why. but you are right, they werent really my friend's anyway's.
No, my pap wouldnt want me to be sad, in fact he would want me to go on with my life, but it is so hard, for me to no think about him, when he is all around me everyday.

 

Those folks ... aren't friends, they're acquaintances.

Sorry.

 

Like Allonym said your grandad wouldnt want you to wallow in sorrow but maybe if you talk with your grandma more then it could help, its jus a suggestion but she must've been close to him so maybe that could help...

 

Well, I have been in a similar situation. The house we live in was also bought for us, no payments, but we made up for it with all the house tax, insurance, etc. So it worked out about the same. Hubby and I also had to deal with jealousy issues from former friends... that's exactly what they are, just jealousy issues. What is even more mind boggling is that I have a plethora of health problems that make my life a living hell, so yeah having a paid for house helps in that area one less thing to worry about, but I would give that up in a second if it meant my health. Yet some people still have the nerve to bitch about us having our house paid off. Nevermind that I can't do what they can do and take for granted.

If you are being modest about it, and they act like that, they aren't worth being friends with anyway.

 

Sometimes it can't be avoided though. People actually have asked us what our mortgage payments were in the past, I guess to compare with theirs or something I don't know why people really feel the need to bring it up, but anyway, we came to dread that question and the following reaction when we said "Well, um actually we don't have a mortgage..."

In retrospect hubby and I really should have just said "We don't really like to discuss our finances with people."