Hmm..help me out, you guys. So my boyfriend and I were going out for about a year when we broke up over several different reasons. (Other ppl interfering, too many complications that were practically impossible to sort out, etc.etc.). About a week later, we got back together and broke up again the next day...this time it was he who did the breaking up but I was in agreement by that point anyway. We were very much in love, we both knew it, but unfortunately it ended in a very very rocky manner. So here is the problem: Lately (for a few days..not consecutively but in the past week or so) Ive been having dreams with him in them (not dirty or anything..its just like, he shows up in them and we talk or something like that..) and thoughts about him too. Not so much wanting to get back together with him because with the people he hangs out with now it just would never work out (hes changed a LOT since we broke up) but just random thoughts about things we used to do together, things we used to say, places we used to go...our first kiss, etc. Can anyone tell me why I might be having these thoughts? Nothing significant is going on in my life right now...im not stressed or anything like that...but he lives in my neighborhood (we basically grew up together) and I see him occasionally too. Sooo...whats going on? Can anyone help? =) thanks so much
maybe you would find a wiser answer in the dreams forum but i will give you my thoughts lol. But it could be a number of different things.... You obviously do not feel like you want to get back together with him, but after spending a year of experiences with a person you care about it is probably very normal and natural to have "images" of your s.o. in your dreams. It just means that you still think about him. And that is pretty much it. But you said it yourself, you dont see a future. And the fact that you said he has changed a lot since your relationship might contribute to the fact that you feel like you dont need him anymore. Also, the fact that you guys occasionaly run into eachother may trigger some memories and stuff a day or two after the run in. Maybe even 4 or 5 days after the run in, you could have dreams of him. Dreams are CRAZY. I usually dont take too much by them, but i dont remember like ANY of my dreams. But the ones i do, are just absolutely ridiculous. Once i woke up and remember a dream i had going shopping for Michael Strahan football jerseys (New York Giants Defensive End) with Donovan McNabb's mother (New York Giants Defensive End). I think it was becasue of those chunky soup commercials.....i saw like 4 in a row one day, and then i think i dreamt of that crazy ass scneario in the mall. shopping with McNabb's mother lol. So i dunno, i just know dreams are crazy shit and not take them too seriously lol
haha thanks. what you said really makes sense. i mean, if i dont have a future with him and i dont want to and i dont worry about other things like that then those dreams are just passing. its no big deal. id love to hear some more opinions though, but thanks!!
