i'm a bisexual guy, 22. two years ago i met a guy in one of my classes at school. he was the first guy to show interest in me. it was all subtle under the radar flirting, but i felt somewhat of a connection. i really liked him, and was very attracted to him. he was straight "acting" and so am i, although i don't act, i'm just who i am, but anyway, on the last day of class, after a few months of all this going on, he completely stops and barely looks at me. i had planned on asking if he wanted to hang out, but because of his sudden change of heart i couldn't work up enough courage to do so. i have not been able to forget him, and i know a situation like this is rather delicate and accurate speculation would depend on all the details, but if you had to speculate, why the hell do you think he did what he did? at first i thought i'd done something wrong and i beat myself up over it, but now im starting to wonder. is it possible for a guy to go through a bisexual phase? or maybe he just wasn't ready for a relationship with a guy? it was very frustrating and kind of depressing, because i really liked him. what do you think?
I'm not sure what month school finished for you but if you have a way of contacting him I would try and arrange to do something together.It doesn't have to be anything big, romantic or anything like that. Just something to get you two together for a bit. Invite him to a movie, invite him over to play some video games, or just ask him if he wants to hang out some time. You will be bound to talk about something. Me, personally, I wouldn't push anything onto him. I wouldn't confront him or anything. Just enjoy the time you spend with him and eventually, if he is interested in something more, one thing will lead to another. What's the worst that could happen? One thing is for certain, doing nothing usually results in nothing. If you really are serious about him then you'll have to muster the courage to ask him if he wants to hang out or I guess wait until school starts again. Good luck
Thanks for the advice, but this happened two years ago, and what I left out was that I did ask him to do something. Called him and asked him to go to a movie. If you're wondering, I just got his number out of the phone book. He said sure, then never called. One would think that would mean he wasn't interested, but his behavior face-to-face suggested otherwise. I know its kinda lame to still be thinking about all this almost two years later but I've had a hard time forgetting him. I've also never really had the chance to tell this to many people, so I thought maybe getting other opinions from people who are comfortable talking about this sort of thing might help. I've accepted the fact that nothing is ever going to happen between us, since time has passed and I never see him anymore. I'm just trying to understand why a guy would act interested, then do a complete 180 on me. I think he was just going through a bisexual phase or maybe he was too scared, I just don't know. Maybe I should just move on and forget it, but it's hard.
I think that you're probably correct, that he was bi-curious at the time of your encounter, and that the feeling passed. I had a similar situation with a friend, and I am almost positive that he was bi-curious earlier in our friendship, but then I missed the chance, or he wasn't courageous enough, to act upon it. Then, the feeling passed. As for forgetting about him, that might be more difficult to do.
