...i'm so lonely and tired and i blew it with the girl at work she was interested in me and she gave me wide open opportunities to go to talk to her when she was alone and i let them go by 'cause i didn't know what to say and now we don't even look at each other when we walk by anymore and oh gosh it's been six years since i've been with a girl and i'm so ridiculously, unreasonably timid and i just don't know what to do and i don't know why oh it's just so tiringgggg i'm bored and alone
no idea why. I recently read this page and it basically sums me up to a tee. i don't know if i have anything "to lose", per se, but i'm sure the fact that i have psoriasis doesn't give me any kind of esteem-boost. yeah, a girl might see my face or the way i dress and think that i'm just her style or something... but eventually she's gonna have to learn that under all those clothes i'm covered in gross fleshy scales and lesions. but that's no excuse i knew a dude that had psoriasis worse than me and he ALWAYS had really hot girlfriends. he just had a great, charismatic personality that everyone liked to be around. i don't have a fun personality. at least, not around girls i'm attracted to
no one can make you love yourself. not even a girl. thats the real issue here isn't it? sorry if I'm asssuming. I don't know. But when I was growing up, I was soooo shy I wouldn't talk to anyone, and ran if someone talked to me. I mean I would freak out. But I kept pushing myself when I was uncomfortable in a social situation, even if it caused me sooo much pain at the time to do so, to take the chance, and after alot of work and many years I eventually outgrew it. I can now say probably for the first time I am not shy. I am not shy. It's kinda nice to say. But yes I think you can most definitely work on that.
Finding another person with psoriasis might not be as easy as it seems(?? - I actually never met one, that i know of). Don't limit your options, Drain Zone, especially if you're having a difficult enough time meeting people as it is. You probably didn't blow it with that girl as badly as you think you did. And I'm not just wrecklessly telling you to throw yourself out there. Think about it. If she was interested in you to begin with and you're so sure of this, then that probably hasn't changed just because she walked by you and you didn't act on it or something like that. She's probably flipping out over you the same as you are about her, wondering why you're not looking at her and such. Doesn't really matter what you say to her when you first approach her, as long as you speak slowly and confidently and don't fidget with your hands and don't avoid eye contact. It's extremely hard to juggle all these things at once while trying to hold an intelligent conversation, I know, but if you focus hard enough on doing things properly you might be too busy to be nervous! Good luck, and get laid. Six years is too damn long.
do you know that if you swimb in the sea it clears it up? i've got family members that had it really badly i dono how it works maybe it just gently removes all the rough patches sault is a mild abrasive after all try it sault added to bath water don't work for some reason but give that a go there skin is totally clear now you will find someone who will love you for you regardless of whether you got rough bits cut bits exma it really doesn't matter if you love someone you can see past it trust me take it from someone who knows..
My mother had psoriasis, and doctors told her to try a tanning bed. I don't know why, but it's supposed to help clear it up. Besides that, gain some self-confidence. There are plenty of girls out there who want a decent guy and don't care about anything else but how well you treat her.
Hey I read in your profile that you have your own house and you are 25....well that is a pretty good start to be our age and have a house of your own.....you were able to do that and you are going to make a little skin thing keep you from living life....come on....you gotta fix whats on the inside, because the outside really doesnt matter that much. Coming from me, a girl, I'll let you in on something.....a few times I have hooked it up with drop dead beautiful guys....I mean perfect males......and then I realized that there was no filling in that eye candy....totally empty inside. Focus on letting the good from the inside spill out and overshadow that little bit of "flaw" you have on the outside. Mwah!
see a chinese herbalist about your psoriasis - one ofmy friends had it bad in high school and the lotion crap with tar or wahtever did nothing fo rher, she drinks this (slightly icky tasting) tea every day and her psoriasis has gone down incredibly, its barely even there anymore like others have said.. you have to learn to like yourself before you can feel confident enough to approach other or to expect others to like you for who you are. i mean, if you dont like yourself, how can you ask others to? im certain there are people out there who like you but there will be more/it'll be easier to see when you lik eyourself as well
wow this thread really took off...which is slightly embarassing for me but ok. as far as my psoriasis goes, i've tried just about everything. i did the tanning salon thing which i didn't care for but stuck with it. after several months of leather-skinning, i saw no change whatsoever in my psoriasis. in march of last year i vacated to iceland with my sister. while we were there we went to the blue lagoon spa, which is slightly known for its psoriasis-healing abilities (it's extremely salty - looks like milk). i had a good time soaking in the pool for a few hours, and although my psoriasis didn't really clear up at all, it definitely changed. it became... i dunno... smoother and less annoying? but only for a few days. they sold a whole bunch of expensive lotions and stuff in the shop there but i didn't get any of them. to keep my psoriasis somewhat at bay, i'm currently using just this shitty, greasy topical ointment crap. it's gross but it kinda works... sometimes. it sucks because it makes my skin reeeeeally thin so i get cut and scratched and ripped open (once) really easy. when i get bruised it bleeds through the skin :vomit: so yeah i'm rambling and now you know WAY more than you ever wanted to about me. i will say though that i'm not really that hard on myself, i don't think. i usually have some confidence when talking to people i don't know. but it becomes a completely different beast when that person is a love interest. that lack of confidence and insecurity in addition to my words coming from the body of a flesh-infected zombie just puts my chances of success to pretty much zero. i'm just realistic. it's not worth me saying anything to this person i just have to move on and forget forget forget before i seem like a stalker or something. some of you had very, very insightful and kind things to say and i want to acknowledge that because it's very cool of you. hipforums rules.
Really -go online and find a female near your age with psoriasis - she will understand what you are going through...
Mate you are not stupid. Have you ever concidered that your behaviour around girls you like might have something to do with your 6-year sexless period? My ex had a 3-year "dry season" and when we met he couldn't even make eye contact,.We met like 5 or 6 times before I desided to kiss him cause he was "too shy".And he didn't have psoriasis to blame. About your skin condition,I trust you know all about it,therefore you know what bad mood does to it,don't ya? Next time you see someone you like do just one thing; stop thinking of what will or might happen!
