ok i have no idea what to do with my life right now, but let me tell you my story from the beginning, becuase what i have been through has showed me where to and not to go in my life. I was born in New York, and my mom is a HEAVY alcoholic, and i have no idea how her and my dad got together, it must have been great sex or something, becuase i see no other way how those two could wind up together. My dad works 24/7, and has a good job, but i couldnt live with him for the last 10 years becuase he goes back to his homeland of India(i am half indian), to see his sick parents a lot of the year. Once my parents seperated when i was 5, i moved about 5 times back and forth between living in boston with my mom, and living in New York with my dad. Then somehow, i cant remember now, i ended up lving with my aunt and uncle in Rhode Island inbetween all that. Once i ended up back in Boston, i experienced crazy shit. Me and my sisters were all 10 or under then, and we would be home alone pretty much all the time, becuase my mom would be at bars, and when she was home, she was drunk, and the one night i remember good was one night when she was drunk pulling on my sisters hair, and locking herslef in her room. Finally, my grandpa let us me and my sisters go live with him, and i lived there for 6 years. My grandpa got back into alcohol, so i moved out one day and lived with in the houses of my friends for my freshman year of high school. Beginning of my sophomore year, i moved back to boston, with my old foster family i used to live with in boston, and my mom lives in the next city/town over, cambridge. She is now homeless, due to alcohol destroying her life. She is very smart but she always gets back into alcohol somehow, even after all the detox's she has been too. She recently was drunk, and fell off the City Bus and broke part of her neck, and she is in a program for homeless people, who need medical attention. She is only in there for another 2 weeks, but she will have to live in th shelter after that. My 2 sisters do not talk to her right now, due to all she has put them through, and i am all she has. I know that if i dont do something to help her, she will die from alcoholism soon. Im just wondering if anyone else on here is in a similar situatuon, or if anyone else has any advice on how to help her, becuase I know i want to do something meaningful in my life, and if i made alot of money, obviously i could help her, and i used to get amazing grades in school, but all of the moving and stuff brought me down, and my grades arent amazing any more, but i am still going to college. So i have no idea what the hell to do with my life now tho. I want to either be like a sports broadcaster, Movie producer/director or w.e, or a music producer. Those are my 3 loves, sports, music, and movies. and i love my family. and i love weed. But im sure plenty of you have been in a situation when you are at the age where you are going to be headed to college, and you didnt know what to do with your life. So any advice?
Right now im in college and havent got a clue what i want to do with life. Dont sweat, just do what you enjoy doing and everything else will all fall into place mate. Happy toking.
im not saying i got problems, im just givin you my background, becuase you have to learn from your past, like maybe it would be good for me to go to college on the other side of the country or something, to get away from all the stuff i described, and not to mention the bomb ass bud out west lol. But ill just kep a positive attitude about everything. Im trying to change my life by being positive about everything now, as it helps a lot.
Sorry, I didnt bother to read the whole post. It need some spaces lol. My dads moving out west to get away from everything, I might join him a few years down the road.
Dude, you are young (not to say I am old lol). You have plenty of time to decide what you want to do. I am about to go to college and I got no clue, just hoping it falls into place
ive been in college for almost a year and, although i know what i want to do with my life, i haven't had any classes that have anything to do with my future. i mostly have just had english and history and computer classes. you don't "need" to know till your second or third year of college.
/\ ok thanks lol that actually helps so i dont gotta be stressed figuring outmy major. Lots of people dont find their major until midway through sophomore year right?
sorry to hear about your mother. i'm in college and have no clue what the hell i wanna do with my life, and i'm already entering my 2nd year. you have A LOT of time to think of what you wanna do with your life you can be whatever you want, don't let your mom bring you down, just do what you wanna do but about your mom, i would have a very serious talk with her and tell her exactly what you feel and how bad her alcoholism has brought you down.. i'm sure it will make her think twice.
Depends what college you go to. Some make you declare majors earlier than others. But anyway, just because you major in something doe snot mean you have to do that for the rest of your life. Many people switch majors or even do other things that have nothing to do with what they majored in at college.
What alot of people going to school dont understand is, highschool and college for the most part are not there for you to learn history and why the civil war started School teaches you HOW TO LEARN, how to process information and how to apply it, so find somthing you like, lean towards it, work in that industry, and if u dont like it, move on in terms of your mom, it's hard to say it, but if she cannot accept help from her own family, friends, clinics etc, and continues to go down that same path over and over again, sometime in the future it may be best to cut her out as your sisters did if she cannot realize what she has been doing to her family since day one, she may never do it, no matter how much money you earn or the treatment centers you put her into, she has a illness, and she may die before you or anyone can do anything about it, focus on succeeding in your own life before trying to mend hers.
first your mom has to want to be sober, if she wants it bad enough then you can start to help her, but if she doesnt than shit hasnt gotten bad enough for her yet. Your sisters kind of have the right idea, but at the same time not talking to your mom would probably drive her to drink more than she is. The best thing that oculd happen to her right now (this is how it sounds to me) is that she either; A: go to a rehab center, or B: get arrested and forced by the court to go to rehab or AA. Sometimes alcoholics/addicts have to hit rock bottom to want help, and it sounds like she just about there.
