Guys (males) -- what did I do wrong?

I thought things were getting better in my fuck-buddy relationship but I guess I was wrong.
He called me a week ago, a little drunk, and asked me over. I came right there, and let him fuck me for about three hours (in seperate intervals between night and morning). I gave him all kinds of things (oral for about half an hour), let him do all kinds of things - anything he wanted, including unlubricated anal and sex without a condom (stupid, I know, but I know we're both clean and my cycle was not at the dangerous point). He said he was falling in love with me and the way he said it made me think he meant it (he's a bad liar).

But in the morning he complained because I had bled on the sheets. And in the time since, we haven't "talked about it" (our relationship) like he said we would. Now he is going home for the weekend and I am leaving for a week right about the time when he is coming back. I'm tired of this nonsense but I don't know what I did wrong.

Is it because I can't deep throat? Or that I screamed when he first got into my ass? (he said he liked it, but I'm not so sure) Or is it because ... what? I'm not a good enough whore?

What do men want? They say they want whores, but then they get someone like me who is not a whore but is willing to pretend to be one, willing to do whatever they want and never complain, and all they can talk about is blood on the sheets.

 

Sometimes your posts really make me wonder if you're being serious..

 

What you did wrong was to get serious about your fuck-buddy. I've never heard of one of those "arrangements" working out.
Why buy the cow if you're getting the milk for free?
Maybe you should have some respect for yourself, instead of "letting him do whatever he wanted" to you...you are not an inflatable fuck doll....

 

i agree with the last sentence especially.. .you are worth more than this, you are better than being some sex toy

that said.... it sounds like hes reconsidering something. maybe his own sexual desires, if what he did got him off but made you bleed perhaps hes thinking theres somethign wrong with him. perhaps hes realizing that this relationship is unhealthy for -you-, mentally and physically and is trying to figure out wehther to cut it off or alter it or what to do

 

a fuck buddy should be treated just like a FUCK buddy! nothing more, nothing less. PERIOD

He doesn't define the person you are, neither does your sexual competency!

 

If you behave like a whore you should expect to be treated like a whore.
But if you want to be treated with respect, start acting respectable.

 

unlubricated anal? why the fuck would anyone want to do that?

 

yeah^^^^, why?

 

Uh, in this particular situation, you're not asking what men want. You're asking what an asshole wants. The guy wants sex. He's getting it. Therefor, he has no reason for him to work on anything. You want something serious. Find something serious.

It doesn't matter how long a fuck-buddy relationship has been going on. You can't successfully convert it into a real, loving relationship. If you have, it was never a fuck-buddy thing in the first place. It was a loving relationship masquerading as a fuck buddy, physical-only relationship.

 

Be the person you were meant to be and stop with all of this silliness. You are better than this. What are you getting out of this arrangement besides hurt feelings? Every thread you make about this guy you sound more and more brainwashed. Stop playign the victim and take control of dining someone who treats you well-or be alone and take care of your issues so you can find someone who treats you well.
I don't know what went on in your life, but somethingbad had to have happened to make you this way because in the past you didn't sound like this kind of girl and I don't think this is really who you are.
Please stop or at least stop making posts abou it because it makes me really sad for you and I know it makes other people sad too and there is nothing we can do because you don't listent o anyones advice.
You need love-maybe not even love from a guy, but from your mom, a puppy, a cat, a friend (platonic one).
HUGS

 

Umm....you have not given him a single reason to view you as more than an object. Men do not fall in love with objects that are there for their enjoyment. They fall in love with someone who respects herself, has her own opinions and places value on herself as something more than a fuck-toy. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but you're getting all you're gonna get from this dude. How in the hell is this arrangement even REMOTELY beneficial for you???

 

My best guess is this.
He scared himself when he started talking about love.
He regrets saying anything about it,
and doesn't know how to tell you,
so he is avoiding you and the subject.

Best of luck in a tough situation.

 

unlubricated anal??

jesus. what were you thinking?!

 

What the blood means?
Do you really love this guy?You should be more attractive to hold his heart in you not in your ass.Guys like hot girls to fuck,and sometime i dream i can have sex with a whore,just a dream.But nobody wanna marry a whore.
Be yourself.You know you are a pretty girl,if you like him ,you should win "Love" not ask for love.
Go have your hair cut,and take off the glasses,change dress,you are a pretty girl.


Damn,that guy is lucky.

 

Well call me closed-minded (im not by the way), but i have exactly the same thoughts, and the same question

Youre talking about love, apparently he did but he was DRUNK and fucking you in the ass without lube, so that should have been brushed off as nonesense. So its YOU thats talking about love. What does love have to do with being objectified and "letting him do what he wants" with your body

Also, is there any particular reason you want a baby from a man youre not in love with at this time? I mean i assume you do, right...i know its a tad preachy and you know your stuff, but then you know theres a chance you could be, and you accept that, right?

 

Suncatch,

You have only done one thing wrong: you have made the mistake of thinking that you can win someone's love and commitment by going out of your way to please them.

That simply doesn't work. In many cases, it can do the opposite because if someone thinks you will do anything for them, they will see you as needy or easy and you will lose their respect.

If this guy was serious about you, it wouldn't matter what you did or didn't do in bed. If he had a major problem, he'd tell you.

This is not about sex, I would imagine the relationship is just a bit one-sided and you're reading far more into it than he is.

It's extremely kind of you to do what you have done for this guy, and any guy who respected you would appreciate that. But you shouldn't need to do anything you don't feel comfortable doing in bed; certainly not to win someone's favour.

The bottom line is, if you don't enjoy it, don't do it unless you're in a solid relationship with a lot of give and take. And if you find something unpleasant, don't ever do it.

I suspect that the overall problem is a lack of self-respect to some level. I think you should respect yourself to the level where you don't need to do anything to please someone else unless it is part of a balanced, caring relationship with give and take. And you certainly shouldn't feel you can win someone's heart by giving sexual favours.

In any relationship, if you're giving more than taking, there is a problem.

All the best and good luck,
Dizzy

 

fucking a girl in the ass till she bleeds is hot

that or im a perv but if i am , i prefer the term sexual diviant

 

yes. you're a perv.

it's spelled deviant.

 

it sounds like your trying way too hard to please him. Try pleasing yourself more, you deserve it. And you are an extremely gorgeous young woman, so im sure you will not have a problem finding men who are physically attracted to you. Just dont be an actress, and be yourself, show your true personality and let the pieces fall into place. If you need anything, send me a PM and i will help you out, or if you just simply need someone to talk to. I think you will make some guy extremely happy, and extremely lucky. But you have to understand that you deserve someone special, not just a fuck buddy.

 

A lot of people in this thread have already posted specifically about this particullar guy who is your fuck-buddy, and the specific incident you described. Maybe something can be said about the wider comment you made that 'guys want a whore' (sorry if that wasn't the exact wording, but it was something along those lines).

Most of the males I have had conversations with about what they 'want' make a huge distinction between what they want PURELY sexually, and what they see as 'relationship material'. With females GENERALLY (this is a generalization, it doesn't apply to all females), what we see as sexually attractive are usually the same qualities we look for in a potential partner. However with males (another generalization), there is a break there. Sure, if they just want sex they might be happy to have some skinny thing with big tits to fuck every which way (or whatever their specific preference is). However, as a girlfriend, long-term love type thing, they want something totally different. Love, respect, intimacy, friendship - all those qualities that make for a great relationship.

One more thing...it doesn't sound like this guy cares for you much at all, not even as a 'fuck-buddy'. If I had sex with someone, even if it was JUST a fuck-buddy and they were bleeding, I wouldn't be concerned about the sheets. I'd be concerned about THEM. He sounds totally selfish. YOU DESERVE BETTER. Even if you just want a fuck-buddy, find one who at least treats you like a friend who is there for mutual fun and who cares about your wellbeing.