Ok my girlfriend and I fight alot because she is kinda controlling in ways and bitches at me alot because im a typicle guy and i do guy stuff. but The problem is she keeps thinking id be happier if we broke up so i should break up with her, She keeps telling me to break up with her. WE will fight and say i think we should, ok You break up with me, But for me it seems to scared to do it. Weve been togather for 14months or so. and its starting to piss me off a little to much
its just going to get harder the longer you wait. Unless ofcourse you actually want to stay with her. in that case, you gotta make sure you shower her with affection so she knows you want her. Otherwise, get the fuck out and treat her like a hissing cobra
she might be testing you. some of us do it unconsciously some of us consciously. she might just want to see how sturdy you are. if you'll stick around.
I UNconsciously started pushing my fiance away a couple of times in our relationship. I just started getting real bitchy with him and I couldn't understand why. It was like pms, but stuck around for like 3 months. But I realize now, that I was probably just trying to see how hard I could push before the wall would cave. Basically how sturdy is this man? Luckily he stuck it out and I got over it and relaxed, but I fear I broke his cool exterior cuz now I get his dirty side too but that just makes it more real (I hope). we had one other period, months afterwards, where I started saying "well why don't you break up with me" after fights. I didn't understand why, it just came out in emtional bursts. I think for the same reasons as my sudden bitchiness. If she is like me, or how I was, then she's insecure, and wants to test you. She may not even be aware she's doing it. I was sooo afraid of something going wrong between us, b/c in other relationships something would, I got scared when nothing did. It was a NEW feeling, having a guy stick around and be a decent man, that I did not understand it or trust it. I was scared if "IT" happened way down the road, it would hurt me too much, so better to have it happen now, before I give him my whole heart. Does that make sense? But he did it. He's still here and still loves me. And I'm finally secure.
Ok basicly you sound like my gf. Thats what i think shes doing and shes not noticing, Shes been doing it for about 4 months though, but im sticking it out because i want her and shes my 1st and actualy TRUE love.
maybe your giving her a reason why she choose to break up with you...number of months you've been together is not enough to measure your love to her..do something that would made her realized and feel that she is important to you..sometimes you must to give up something for your love ones I'm pertaining to guy stuff...if you love you girlfriend, you're willing to sacrificed and give up everything for her..
Duck---sounds like you are not ready for a real relationship. You are more interested in "guy stuff".
