I'm a virgin.

Yes, I'm a 21 year old male virgin.

I've had oral sex once, and I've fooled around a bit. I've only ever had two real girlfriends.

I'm too damn shy, and I know I could get alot of women if I get my foot in the door. I'm decent looking (I think) and I know I've got a much larger then average penis. But I just don't know where to start!!

(I don't drink/go to bars)

 

First of all, nothing to be ashamed of or anything like that. Not that you are ashamed, but really, people make such a big deal about it, but, there's a LOT more to life than sex.

Sex is good for one reason - the connection. I think a lot of people would be better served to focus more the connection and less on the sex.

It's funny, I can be very socially awkward at times. I don't really have "game." I don't dress particularly well, either. But, I've never had problems attracting members of the opposite sex. They just come to me. I swear, I don't have to do anything. All I do is keep my eyes peeled, and talk to people who interest me. If you're nice, well versed on a couple of fun topics, and know how to make someone laugh, you're golden. It's really so much easier than people make it seem. Just meet as many people as you can - talk to them, engage with them, them know (subtly) that you're interested, and everything will fall into place so easily that you'll look back and laugh.

At least that's how it's worked for me

 

Just be honest and don't think it's the end of the world if you do something dorky. As someone who is probably a huge dork, women tend to like guys who can laugh at themselves... it puts them at ease, I think.

 

Thats your first problem lol

 

I'm a virgin, too. I just haven't found my special someone yet.

 

i used the internet to find most of my bfs

 

Don't worry about it... Just wait until you find the right person at the right time. Don't be ashamed---you're not even that old.

 

thass how my girl got me


but really, you jsut have to get up the balls to make your moves.
don't care so much about what people think
and if you fuck it up, so what?


PS, I loled at the penis thing

 

Well I am cellibate and proud of my virginity

 

That's actually the biggest problem here!..
And, you know what?....Self-confidence means everything!....Think about that....

 

A proud celibate 15-year-old male virgin, swinging too far in one direction can be dangerous.

Pride in will or pride in inexperiance?

 

cool pic. dude. i love godsmack. im a virgin aswell, and also proud of it.

 

Cheers, godsmack are cool.

Anyway, im not saying there is any rush to become active what i am saying is i can see the danger in becoming too attached, sex is a natural healthy thing that shouldnt be discarded. The problem is most people get obsessed but i think it is also unhealthy to become obsessed with not having sex.

There is a big difference between describing yourself as celibate (which is a major life choice) and "just not currently interested in sex" or "not currently ready"

I wonder if too much pride in such a thing would harm an individual once they met the right partner and lost their virginity, or worse, give up a potentially wonderful experiance due to an inability to let go of an attachment to self image.

im not saying you 15 year olds should be running around like rabbits, the world has had enough of that. What i am saying is there is no shame in losing your virginity, when you decide you're ready.

 

It bothers me that 15 year olds are bragging about being virgins...I mean, shouldn't be a given that most 15 year olds are? Not in this day and age, I guess. I'm proud of you two.

And yeah...if you really want sex that badly you need to get yourself out there. There are clubs and stuff...you don't have to drink. A nice bar can be fun...and guess what? They serve soda and water there. Need to try new stuff to meet new people, guy.

And...I also lollered at the penis thing. How does having a big penis get you laid? Sure it might keep certain kinds of girls coming back for more (I myself prefer average over big...too much is much too much.), but how does it get you sex in the begining? Do you go around flashing your huge erection at women in hopes that they're sleep with you?

Pervert.

 

19...virgin.

Doesn't bother me at all, actually, maybe I'm just weird, I'd rather meet the right girl/lady than have a quick shag.

 

The best lay I ever had was a virgin before me. Keep that in mind.

Granted, I was also a virgin, and the first time was far from the best because I screamed at him and he stopped. Haha...anyway, don't sweat it, I really admire people who wait. I sometimes wish I had, but at the same time, I'm not gonna sweat it because my life choices landed me where I am now, and while I'm lost and confused, aren't all 20 year olds? And by god, I'm as happy as someone lost and confused can be. Just live your life and find what satisfies you, no need to rush into sex just because of your age.

 

Fwew, I could never be celibate. I lost my virginity at 13, and I can't think of life without sex. Not that I'm addicted, just that I couldn't imagine how it would be without it.

 

God, don't tell him that. I fucking hate the bar/club scene. Bunch of slimeballs and perverts with only one thing on their mind. We NEED more men (and people in general) who don't drink. Everyone and their mother drinks, esp at this age. It makes you boring.

 

i go to the bars but i certainly dont go there to meet men and im more likely to blow men off than to acutally want to dance with them. i go to dance and have fun with my galpals, not to deal with the drunken slutty men there

 

When I was 17 I started college and I was a virgin, but I didn't really disclose that information often because I was under the impression that I was the only one. A friend hooked me up with a guy who I eventually ended up giving it up to, and he already had a kid and everything. Within the week I met at the college someone else who told me he was a virgin and that since had maintained his virginity for so long, he figured he may as well wait for the right person. He was 20. I felt like crap. Don't feel bad. The main problem may be that since you are too shy, you need someone to approach you, but someone bold enough to approach might be too overwhelming for you.