The 'rents have me on a leash wont let me do anything unless they know personally those all around me.I dont know how to arrage that since i KNOW they wouldn't like y friends, even tho i love them all. its like living 2 lives.i also am not allowed privacy because "we dont keep secrets", alittlemiserable Wat do ya say?
i guess i shouldnt be complaining... they are very obsevant. they see almost everything. i still dont agree with the privacy issue though.
Couple of control freaks. You're in the process of growing up, and they don't want you too. I'm not saying they should let you run free, because that would be the OTHER extreme. Some privacy is necessary.
You can fight it if you want but it really isn't going to change anything. You are better off figuring out a way to be self sufficient at 18 and tuffing it out for 4 years. I agree everyone should have some privacy, however its up to your parents to make those rules at this point in time. Usually the more mature and understanding you seem the more freedom you will have anyway. Fighting just makes everyone involved misserable, IMO.
You could also consider this idea. This will take courage, and maybe some stupidity Pick something you do that is VERY private, Something that would embarrass them, Then do it with the door opened, and make sure that they see it. Then remind them that "we dont keep secrets" Also, make sure that you look in all their drawers, and catch them doing VERY PRIVATE things. Make sure you get caught. Then give them the same reminder.
Not much you can do about it. Us parents usually try and keep our kids safe. It is important to know who you kids are hanging out with. The early teens are a really impressionable age whether those of you who are teenagers beleive it or not. The problem with many parents is trying to be in total control when you can never be, leading to kids sneaking around and lying. It is unfortunate when parents are closed minded about who they approve of when it comes to their kids friends. I'll admit that I have a low tolerance with the baggy pants, gangsta look. I have tended to judge a kid on their dumb ass pants rather that the actual person. I feel bad for you about the privacy thing. Everyone needs some privacy. We've givin our kids privacy until they proved or showed us that we better snoop around. With four teenagers only one has ever lost his right to privacy. I've said it before that negociation and clear, open discussion gets you a lot further than being a pissy teenager. I'm not saying you are one, but I have a feeling we've all been there. Good luck.
