I had a blissed out two years with B. & then things turned sour. We broke up in december, but not really. We've suposedly been working on working things out ... but... he's been sidestepping it & making no changes. I feel like for him, only if it's important to him, is it important to the relationship, iow - his way or not at all. I've put up with it for too long, and my resentment is building. I'm starting to hate him - the one person who I ever really loved, who loved me back. I'm going to put it one last way - because, in spite of it, when I remember how it used to be so good, when it was good, and how i really thing we had (have?) potential to be great partners, if he is only willing to work on us & work on *himself* - instead of just believing 'magic will happen'. I want to make sure, before I walk away, that i"m giving him every possible chance to try to work things out with me, if that's really what he wants I'm going to say - I really meant what I said about A, B, C & D. I want you to know that if you continue to ignore this, I'll take it as a sign that you don't want the same thing I do from the relationship. Perhaps you all can send some extra love into the world, maybe some will head our way. I'm gonna try to do the same. I want a loving partner, and I want him to have a loving partner, if that's what he wants, even if its not me. I though this guy was going to be my 'life parter'. I'm gonna be so sad.
I don't really understand what it is you're expecting him to change, but maybe you're asking too much? It's never good to try and change people to suit yourself-- if you two don't "go together", or you can't get over something about the other person, then it's best to just move on and do your best to let go... then again, you might not be talking about anything like that, in which case, talking to him is the best thing to do... good luck with that! Hopefully things make a turn for the best, if they don't, well then, they weren't meant to be and you're better off...
I'm asking him to come to my house since for two years I always went to his. I'm asking him to call me in advance, instead of at the last minute, and a few things. You know, boyfreind vs FWB. But I want to let him make it clear to me that hes willing or not willing to do these things. (like, part of the problem is that I always say yes when he calls at the last minute ... so I have to stop doing that ...) but, I'm really really sad. Its basically realizing that its time to ask for a divorce.
i am sooo sorry; i myself have gone through a similar experience, but probably not 1/10th of what you are feeling right now. all that i can say to you is that your worth more than he is giving you, and to not lose hope.
I agree, sorry if I sounded harsh before-- you definitely deserve way better than that! If he doesn't start making some sort of effort to change that, you're right in ending it-- all the relationship's doing at that point is hurting you
