My best friend who we will call john is in the marines will be coming home in the next week after a year and 1/2 deployment. The problem is that right before he left we realized that we had filling for each other. He was great about said it would be best if we forgot about it till he came and for me 2 just date and all. But I never really found anyone that I felt the same way about. We have talked/emailed/imp on a constant basis senece he left. The problem is that when he gets home I no he will want 2 have sex after such along "dry spell" he is really hot and could find a # of willing helpers. But he has mentioned doing it with but in a joking kind of way 2 keep me from filling like I have 2. The thing is I am a virgin I don’t think I would have a problem sleeping with him but should I? He would never talk with me about because he would want 2 pressure me into it he is also 7 year older i m 18 he is 25. And if I do decide 2 sleep with him how do I behave and how do I keep him from filling guilty/like he took advantage of me?
First of all,don't panic. You need to stop thinking about what he wants and thinks and focus on what you want.Meet him,see how it goes,see how you feel and if you really want to have sex,just do it.
its my personal opinion that you should give your virginity to someone you truly love, not someone who you like or have feelings for just because he gets back from far away. not to mention either of you could have changed tremendously in all that time (particularly with him being involved in a war and all)
I agree with crystals, I think you are being a little naive there. Its up to what you want. Since you have reservations you are probably not ready. Sleeping with him just so he doesn't sleep with someone else is not too romantic and if he does he is not all that into you in the first place.
of course I read... why, are you unable to comprehend the obvious fact that internet communication is VERY different from regular face to face interaction, and that it's easy to lie online, OR that (and this may be shocking to you) being involved in a war changes pretty much anyone who's involved in it?
pff Moron. communication online gets to the point, you Discuss things.. which are to do with each other. People`s Mind`s connecting...??? whatever
communication over the internet is no tnearly as meaningful as real, face to face interactions... i don't really see that as a difficult concept to grasp
That's not true. Communication over the internet can be just as meaningful as face-to-face interaction. It's what you say that matters, not the medium that you use to say it. Besides, when you talk to someone online, you still make an effort to communicate. It's hard to just "run into someone" on IM, and if you want to talk to someone, there's no better way.
alright then, obviously im wrong. when i had dated someone online and finally met them, they were completely who they said they were, acted compeltely as their msn'ing suggested they would. they were a creepy ass alcoholic freak who liked using others, he was a true gentleman. and teh same with every man who i talked to for a while online before meeting up, they didnt lie about themselves or withhold information, or have patterns of behaviour that annoyed me that couldnt possible be transposed to msn or the internet. obviously my MULTIPLE experiences on this matter are all anomalies
I'd have to say that you shouldn't do it. What you should do though, is masturbate more... make sure you've popped your own cherry, 'cause you probably don't want to have to deal with that your first time. It'll also make it less painful.
