When I have sex with my gf, it tends to be quite boring most of the time. I guess what Im looking for is some suggestions to make our sex life better. Most of the time we are in missionary and all she usually does is lay there like a log and it gets boring fast, but she orgasms all the time so she doesnt really have to do much but for my benefit its kind of bland. She refusses to be on top and doesn't do oral and barely gives hand jobs, like once every couple months. Is there anything that can spice up this sex life?
we only do missionary mostly because I bleed in any other positions. I understand that's a sacrifice he makes so when I am not having dental issues I am pretty liberal with the head. Hand jobs imo are stupid and I HATE giving those. Maybe if she doesn't like giving head you should lay off. I know when I have been asked to do it in other relationships it made me want to do it even less. For constructive ideas...maybe sex at the beach, lake or forest. Or where there's a slight possibility you can get caught. ...or maybe you just need to do more to gain her attraction. I know this sounds awful but part of the reason I am soooo attracted to my fiance is because he showers me with affection and tries in the relationship. Maybe instead of being more demanding be more attentive.
Try putting a pillow under her butt and then do the missionary position. Try it with your upper body in the upright position, your arms extended, and your weight on your knees and do 100 rapid thrusts in 2-3 inches. Try the "sets of nine" - PM me if you don't know what this is. Have a mirror by the bed so you can watch yourself. Give her oral. There are lots of ways to spice up your sex life, even if she is not that aggressive in pleasuring you. She gets orgasms easily during intercourse, which puts her in the top 25-30% of women. The rest cannot get orgasms from intercourse alone, or at all. Consider yourself lucky.
Try doing oral on her. Maybe spice things up by trying new locations or tuying her to the bed or something kinky like that.
if all your doing is missionary i doubt she is orgasming everytime.....just penetration doesn't do it for alot of women, but anyway there are so many things to do in the bedroom but even more in the kitchen or shower or the park or ect..........
maybe it was mistyped but i do go down on her and other such things its just its boring when it comes to everything else
I know that I am different because of a tilted vagina or something like that but the ONLY way I orgasm is missionary (or through oral/manual stimulation). I simply can't cum on top, further it is uncomfortable for both of us since I'm tilted. If he would just sit in a damn chair it would work.... but enough about me. On to your problem. Foreplay was mentioned, it is a good idea. Look up some things to do. It sounds to me as if she isn't quite sure what to do. Maybe you two could read a book together to get some ideas. Make it fun, not a chore. You could try dirty dice or something or take her to a sex toy shop, or whatever and see what she gravitates to. Or try the romantic approach and light candles and give each other massages before hand then slowly move into it. How about talking dirty, there are all levels to this so start out with something light and see how it goes over. Mostly, you really should be trying to communicate your feelings about this to her in a non threatening way. Don't do it while either of you want to have sex or have just had sex, do it on a long car drive or something. And don't approach such as "our sex life is boring" ask her about her fantasies or something playful. She might have some sexual hang ups that you just don't know about. The best way to handle this though is to talk to her about it. I know it isn't as easy as it sounds, but once you get started on the subject, it gets much easier.
Realize, someone else may be very happy & pleased with what you find to be so very boring. Is stimulating, great sex very important for you to be happy in a relationship?
she sounds like shes uncomfortable with sex. do you guys ever take baths together? That could ease her up more. or playfully talk in bed after sex and laugh. Once shes comfortable, she wont be laying there like a log. some people are self concious and nervous and If shes so tensed up like that she probably is afraid she will be bad at it. When she does go down on you, let her know you really like it and that shes making you feel good, and tell her how sexy she is, maybe a little dirty talk? Give her a ego boost!
take the time to feel and caress and kiss every inch of her body. slow, gentle. take your time. hard for most guys to master, but with practice and just a little time, fun and works wonders. don't even make sex the ultimate goal, just being close to her. sometimes you can intergrate a game into it, like, when you are pressed against her, try to sycrnoize your breathing with her, small details like that.
