ive kept my belief that love is something to be shared, and i think that as long as you're safe and comfortable with the person, the situation, etc and you arent compromising yourself in any way that it isn't "skanky" or what not to love someone (or many someones) that you are not neccesarily 'in love' with, but what do you think? i want opinions? how many is too many? how fast is too fast?
bad is an oppinion, in our society today you'll have a few people who would be quick to call you skanky if you pass a certain number, but who cares what they think. after all if you don't have something nice to say don't say anything at all. So who's to say, whats too many, thats for you to decide. But if your gonna do it with a bunch of people,i think being really safe is the key, cause with free love you can get other free things that are not so nice.
I think as long as you are comfortable with it go for it, its your body, be safe and have your own rules, nobody else should tell you what is right or wrong. Sometimes you just gotta live by the attitude of if it feels good/right do it.
I agree. It's your body. I think sex is a beautiful thing, and it should happen regardless of any conventional "rules."
Ditto. People should be free to be whoever they want to be and nobody should be defined by labels. Have fun!
I think that one must remember that it may be difficult, at the time, to recognize the line where you cross from "just enough" to "too many," and also that the more you do this, the more likely it is that you will come to feel you have been used. Do you really think that each guy you share your "free love" with is really this hippie cool dude who is all "yeah, I'm there with ya, man," or more likely some horny typical guy who is all, "cool, sweet, I scored with that hippie-chick, bros!" I think it's naive to believe this is about anything more than "you're horny," and like many people you are naturally attracted to the large variety of guys you see around, just like I could easily find any number of girls I see around worthy of having "free love" (i.e. unattached sex) with. Maybe stop calling it "free love," because that ain't really what it is. It's unattached sex so that you don't have to deal with anything more than the physical sensations you desire, even if the activities don't fill any void of being wanted, loved, desired or needed for who you are. Let's be honest, here: you can pretend you are "wanted and desired" because the guy was willing to fuck you, but is that really the right kind of wanted and desired? How will fucking numerous guys who don't really care any deeper about you than your vagina is long fill anything inside you mentally? How will it do anything more for you than masturbating with a picture of them would? I mean, apart from the obvious risk of disease and pregnancy. I just read that 1 in 4 people over 18 in the U.S. has genital herpes. That's, um, one of the incurable ones. And it is very easy, according to research I did when I was checking up on my own health (totally clean, thankyouverymuch) for guys or girls to NOT EVEN KNOW they have the disease, because sometimes the symptoms are very tiny or easily mistaken for other things. And people don't have symptoms for HIV, you know. Don't expect that every guy with HIV will be gaunt with sores all over his skin. And don't expect any guy who knows he has HIV to be real keen on never having sex again, which he might fear will happen if he informs you he has it. Some people even maliciously spread it. I have read articles about people actually charged criminally for doing that. All of that said, it is eventually your choice how promiscuous you want to be. But let's not call it all this euphemistic bullshit like "free love." That was a lie and always will be. It's promiscuity, often by those who can't or don't know how to handle a real, committed, love relationship. I have had the "fuck-friends" thing with several people. I find it is not worth the hassle and I would much rather limit how many women I have sex with just to find the right one to love and be loved by. Blue skies, -Jeffrey
Excellent point. That is not something that people can just turn off. It happens -- and when it does, it can be a very painful thing to feel, and to cause. Blue skies, -Jeffrey
its good to see you girls are good free lovin hippies as for the men on here who are all self centered egatistical pricks who'll get gelous at the drop of a hat.set it free it will always come back to you
I think you have your homilies mixed up. No one ever said, "Set it free: it will always come back to you." They said, "Set it free: IF it comes back to you, it's truly yours, and if it doesn't, it was never yours in the first place." Wouldn't it be nice if it "always" came back to us?! Blue skies, -Jeffrey
Some people don't see "Free Love" as unnattached sex. For some it is being attached to more than one person, for others it is a wild ride with the goddess Diana in the temple of spirit...thank god there are so many ways to view the world. Some people will never find their "one true love" so they have to take what specialness their one life will offer them.
im a hippie dude who respects and embraces the idea of free love. i dont think its a bad thing as long as the two involved have enough knowledge about each other, their ideas, beliefs, desires. enough vital information can be shared in a day, which leaves many the possibility for the night to be quite wild. although i have never experienced one of these hip chicks who express their right to give and recieve free love. my area is not known for generating free spirits, but im always up for meeting free spirits. its why most of my friends are dispersed throughout the east coast. i love free love, i give it, and im not a womanizer. there is nothing more attractive to me than a female with a sense of her independence and an understanding of the pressures of this male chauvinistic society and her nonparticipation in it. im not in school, and all of my friends are, so im always up to chat, and if youre talking free love, my love is always free, and im pretty confident its good. ever coming through nj? my arms are open! feel free to IM or PM me! FEEL FREE!
