non cruelty wedding ring

me and my bf are talking about getting married. he's poor as shit (don't bother me in the love department, but would probably fuck us if we had kids too soon, so taking preventions). Anyways I feel it's time, and he does too. I want to marry him and him me.

but I want to pick out the ring. 1) I saw that movie blood diamonds and my bio teacher told me she had a wedding ring made, not out of death, since marriage should be life renewed. and 2) obviously I want to like it.

so no diamonds. or blood diamonds at least. I like them other than the lives they take and I don't want to support any industry that kills.

it has to be made to last a life time so hopefully I can wash my hands with it on (one day, if all works out well, I might be too senile to take it off

tell me what you think, and it can costs like 150 or so. not whatever real engagement rings cost which I think is more.

and another thing. whats the difference between and engagement ring and wedding ring. is it just to rake up more money?

 

If you want a ring that lasts a lifetime...go for the wedding ring tattoo-its as permanent as you can get-& you can wash your hands with it on! *: P Some couples choose not to get the engagment ring, then again some couples both get an engament ring.

The diffrence between the engagment ring and the wedding ring is traditionally, the man gives the woman the engagment ring as a sign of commitment to her, and the wedding rings (typically bands) are exchanged at the ring ceremony during the wedding to consummate the marrage.

Hope I helped at least a little*: )

 

diamonds that you get at the store are not blood diamonds. Most of those are sold on the black market.

 

usually the engagement ring is the one with the big diamond or gems on it. A wedding band is usually plain or with a couple of diamonds. You could do with something less traditional and get a colored stone set in gold or a plain gold band. There are a lot of alternatives.

 

you could look at promise rings instead if you still want a stone in it,or look at plain bands (stoneless)

 

Aren't there rubies in North Virginia where you're from?

 

they are sitll pieces of crap that aren't worth nearly as much as they are sold for

if I get engaged to the girl I am currently dating ever, I would look into getting a silver (or white gold if I have the money) ring with each of our birthstones (emerald and ruby) on either end of some other stone (thinking pearl maybe, moissanite, I dunno)
but of course, before any of that, I would discreetly figure out her view on the 'diamondless' idea before hand

 

What is your birthstone? Or his? My wedding ring is sapphire (and two tone gold with diamonds) because both my children were born in September.

I would go for a basic band. It is hard to find a good quality ring for that price unless you buy used (which isnt a bad thing if you find something you like) Another option is to buy something cheap and replace it for your anniversary (or when you renew vows).

Sometimes you can find a good deal online for a stone, and you can have a jeweler set it. Or go to a rock and gem show if they have them in your area.

Congratulations and good luck.

On a side note I think one that creating a "new" tradition is invaluable. You and your fiance may have a great solution (matching necklaces, rings made from something odd, and so on) outside of societal norms. Like the ring tatoo idea, it is so different than standard traditions.

 

I did not get an engagement ring, and I don't like diamonds anyhow. Our wedding bands are just simple sterling silver bands. To me, its not the ring itself, but the meaing behind the ring. Maybe one day, I will add a birth ring, with our sons birthstones and maybe ours, to my ring finger.

 

Not true. Most of these diamonds are smuggled into other countries to be exported out with legitimate diamonds. The governments of these countries just claim they are mined there.

 

Wow, thanks for that link, drumminmama, I think that's where we'll get our wedding/engagement rings now.

 

good luck with that...I just got the most beautiful engagment ring today. It's a princess cut n the center with two smaller ones on each side and a pave diamond band-the diamonds are clearer than any I hav ever seen in my entire life.
To tell you the truth I didnt even look at the ring when he asked me today, but if before he tried to sell me ont he diamonds are bad thing I would be upset that counter culture ideas and a propoganda film were more important than the moment that solidifies our future.
If it were TRUELY a money issue though I would have been good with a white gold wedding band-I think that's a very classy route to take if an engagement ring is a problem

 

testing the waters on an opinion isnt the same as convincing though... my bf out and out asked me what kind of rings i liked but then again i tld him i wanted to marry him hehee. its probably gonna be like a year before he proposes so ive got time to direct him twoard what i like.

when i was perusing the sitse though, some of htem had really pretty promise rings (to the OP) that were still pretty cheap. admittedly the one i liked the best was the most expenisve promise ring ($300 canadian) but i apparently have expensive taste

 

I shit on the counter culture, and was against diamonds way before Blood Diamond ever came out (and haven't even seen it yet)
diamonds aren't worth shit compared to how much they are sold for
and there are many way prettier gems out there if you ask me
and I love how a simple material matters to you when 'solidifying your future'
personally, I want a girl that would accept a fucking onion ring as an engagement ring (yes, that was a nod to the Simpsons) she should care about me and beign with me, not some stupid fuckign jewelery

 

that too
I just mean like, sometime bringing up how much diamonds suck, and seeing what she says
maybe if I see a (non)diamond engagement ring at the mall talk abotu how pretty it is see what she says
stuff like that, ask different questions and compile the results seeing if she would want a diamond or not

 

that approach (bitching about diamonds) would annoy me personally. a polite questioning of what she thinks about diamonds, if maybe you two want to see blood diamonds together, etc would work a lot better than a ratnn about the evils of diamonds and how theyre overpriced

 

oh, but I bitch about EVERYTHING
if it really annoyed her, she woulda dumped me long ago =P

 

I really don't know, I live too damn close to the city. but if I was going for red I'd probably do my birth stone, which is garnet, unless rubie means something special.

I'm also into crystals and stuff and their 'spiritual' properties... if someone knows one appropriate.

 

so do you just put aside the engagement ring when married? I have seen people wear both but usually only one... the boring wedding ring I guess you could say

that seems like a waste of money... since we don't have much to begin with.

the tattoo thing is interesting but not for us. I have one but he's told me he'd never get one.