Am i too young?

mike thats kinda mean she seems to be trying to help...and either way good or bad its the thought that counts

 

I think he was kidding . . .

Travis, I envy you. You are young and living life. Enjoy it my friend! You are too young to be in love; that will come with time. If you enjoy your time with her, then make your move. If you wait much longer, the situation will get weird, and she likely will see you as no more than a friend. But don't fall into the trap of mistaking your attraction for love. Just enjoy it for what it is. Keep on having fun, but don't take the love thing too fast. You will have plenty of time for that when you get older. Your grade school years should be spent learning and getting to know as much as you can.

 

All I can say is please please please for your heart AND hers, don't tie yourself to one person all throughout high school. When you get older, you very well may resent yourself for not giving others a chance. Two of my friends got married directly after high school and ever since has been a secret hell for them because as they entered the "real world," they saw what they had been missing out on. Everyone thought they'd last forever, but they've really grown apart. Find who you are before you settle down, you're only 14.

 

well said kinky

 

Well, now she changed her name to blackheartbitch. Why not take a person at face value when they present themselves in such a manner? If someone chooses the handle "untrustworthy", then why trust them?

You have to realize where you are, there are a lot of predators in this world, and they are much easier to spot in person because they are generally very unattractive people who are extremely bitter over this fact. However, online it is impossible to see who you are dealing with, and for someone as young as you, it would be wise to be more cautious. I think that the thought that counts here is that this was someone who was trying to manipulate a young naive mind in a harmful way because he/she/it is envious of you. Why else would she want to discuss such matters in private?

I could be wrong, but I'd give it only about 15% odds. I've been online since I was 15, so I am not speaking from pure speculation here.

 

Indeed, it is excellent advice.

Although I would add that playing the field isn't necessarily the best idea at this particular moment, but don't let her tie you down for more than a year or 18 months. I'm not saying dump her by the side of the road after a year, but rather that if she really loves you then she'd let you date other girls too. After about a year, the rush and high of the first stage of love will progress too the pair bonding stage, and you are too young to get stuck in that yet. When the pair bonding stage sinks in, seek another high.

 

Well, now I feel guilty for coming down so hard on that guy who previously said precisely the same thing about Travis being too young to be in love, although your message is much more complete and I agree for the most part with the rest of what you wrote. However, I simply can’t agree with the notion that he is too young to be in love. It is extremely clear that he is, so that is an utterly futile point to try and make, self-defeating in fact, since it is so obviously false, and so tends to nullify all of your other good advice.

You simply can’t ask a thoughtful man to be thoughtless and uncaring. It is advice that can’t possibly be heeded. I would say that the way to turn what you are saying into practical advice, is that when the rush and high of the first stage settles down into the calmer second stage of pair bonding, that it is absolutely necessary for a young male of such a tender age to have a wondering eye.

My favorite episode of Father Knows Best, the only one I can actually remember, dealt with this theme. The son had a long term relationship with his girlfriend, and it had gotten to the second stage where things had settle down into a pair bond, and being the handsome lad that he was he ended up getting into a new relationship with a pretty little blond, but he doesn’t dump his old girlfriend. He asks both his older sister and his mother for advice about the matter, and they both advise him to pursue them both, and that if they really love him they will put up with it. As it turns out, when they both find out about each other, the new blond girlfriend is furious and has a huge tantrum, while his old girlfriend is understanding and makes no demands of him. In a very moving flashback scene where, in his mind, he compares both of his girlfriends to each other, and then to his mother and sister, the manner in which the editor and producer sequence his stream of memories makes it clear that he sees a parallel between the love that his mother and sister have for him, and the love that his old girlfriend has for him, while his new girlfriend doesn’t measure up.

Most of the shows came from real life scenes from Robert Young, the guy who played the father, and from the life of the producer. This episode seemed particularly realistic and was very moving to me when I was young. There will come a time when you need to start comparing and contrasting relationships, and if your current girl friend turns out to be something that should last much longer, then she must be able to tolerate this. It is something that is absolutely required for your emotional development, and if, when the time comes, she is too resistant, then she doesn’t really care about your long term emotional health.

 

Easy there killer. Everyone is giving a point of view. We all look through different windows. You make an excellent point, and I think people really respect it. Others may have a slightly different. Plus, I think we agree on many points. This guy seems very smart; he can sort through different opinions.

 

try your best man, i felt like you last year too, after a couple months it didn't work so good, i'd personally put it down to infatuation, but if you feel like its love don't let us tell you otherwise neh?

 

And that's what I thought about my friends who got married straight out of high school. Three years later, they spend every waking moment making one another miserable. Even the most perfect of couples don't always turn out that way once they hit the real world together.

 

Go with it! You'll learn one day whether it was love or lust, for now, just enjoy it. Youth is fleeting.

 

Theanarchist666x: fuck it
Theanarchist666x: im going to tell u something because it dosent matter anymore
Theanarchist666x: ive been in love with you since the moment i saw you standing there next to cassie ur everything i could ever want and ur the most bestiful girl ive ever seen and i could never find another person as perfect as you are and kelli they say love has no bonds....well i beg to differ....not only does the distance ruin us ever being iovers....but u dont even feel the same so i just feeel better getting this off my chest
dansehallcrasher: i dont know what to say

Thats the convo we had on aim...im not even gona say anything else just tell me if it was a good thing to do that...please...

 

i'm 15 and i know i'm in love. i've been with my boyfriend for almost a year...and it took me 3 months to finally realize it. he's helped me through the hardest time i've had in my life. hes tried to help me love myself. i can't tell you if you really love your girlfriend. Noone here can. Love is what you feel.

 

I just wanted to give him an example of what happened to my friend. This is the happiest they've been, even more happy then when they were high lol. My point is things could really turn out nice or they could turn out really bad, however, age isn't always the deciting factor. A martrige of two people who are middle aged can be more diasterious than one where they couples are young adults (I got that from a talk show, something or other). The point is, so many people are quick to jump on this and said, "there's no way they're in love" when just about 65% (roughly) or all married couples admit that they are not truely in love and the majority are older people. Just because they are young doesnt mean that they cannot be in love.

 

Depends upon whether you think Romeo and Juliet were in love or not, because that's pretty much what you're experiencing. Hormonal love. Now I'm not going to say it's impossible that you're really in love along with the hormones, but just know that it's hard to tell the difference. The best way to find out is to see how long you hold up agains the test of time, which takes patience.

 

Your girlfriend's handle is anarchist666? Not a good sign. What's that all about? Is she a Satanist?

 

it's seems pretty obvious that's his handle, not hers.

 

ya its mine, and deram scholzara i held out 7 long ass months to tell her how i felt. Deffenatly an accomplishment in my eyes.

 

i feel the same about my boyfriend and we were in love 2 months into the relationship and were only at 3 months and some days. So i would have to say just tell her you love her because its true. Everything you said shows that you love her alot and you need to let her know.

 

All I have to add is some people fall in love for the first time while they're still very young, some people fall in love later. A fourteen-year-old falling in love? It's possible. And I think falling in love always involves hormones, no matter what age you are.