i fantasize about making love with a girl

i fantasize about making love with a girl when i am having sex with a guy.

i am single at the moment but i have been having casual sex with a friend of mine (male).

we used to date so its pretty unhealthy for us to still be having sex. thats besides the point.
lately when we have been going through the foreplay stage i am imagining that he is a girl. i can see it in my mind and when i play with his nipples i can almost feel them as fully formed breasts.
and if he is "down there" i cant stop thinking about girls.

now i know i am bi. but i have never really felt like this before.
i think i am starting to sway towards being gay more than straight.

does anyone else feel or fantasize about things that confuse them?

 

I for one fantasise about many things that confuse me sometimes

Im sorry to hear youre confused. Its good youre thinking this through so much and coming to some conclusions

Good luck

 

Lucky bugger .....

Anyhoo, I hit reply to say something intelligent.

I think that you should find out why you are fantasising about girls - and I'm not saying that just so I can fantasise about you and a girl - I'm saying that because it will remove any doubt from your mind about your sexuality. I was once confused about my sexuality, and so the next threesome I had I made sure it was with a couple where the bloke was bi-curious. He was, and he went all in. This is when I found out the I'm in no way homosexual. I was completely aware that I could get involved if I wanted, but I was absolutely deterred by the whole experience.

But I had to know for sure. It's definetly a good way to find out for sure.

 

Sounds like your turning lez, and lez only. Which is a darn shame judging by ur sig pic!

 

Moonshine,

You need to think this through and reach a conclusion on where you stand before you engage in relations with this gentleman again. Activities of this nature tend to bind people together and if your suspicions come to the forefront as true, both this person and yourself would feel badly and upset. Being honest and true to yourself is the best way to discourage hard feelings and sad times.

 

You said it yourself ....

" we used to date so its pretty unhealthy for us to still be having sex."

Your brain is playing with you because deep down you know that you shouldn't have sex with this guy anymore.

Get out and start looking for a new guy for yourself, only then you'll know if you're really turning to girls or not.

 

Your confusion is nothing, my fantasies are much worse. Don't get worked up by it.
You may not be predominately lez nor 50-50 bi but somewhere in between. See thread [thread=214535]Sexuality Rating Scales[/thread] to see where u are on the spectrum. This may change throughout your life as u meet more ppl.


As far as your current sexual relations w/ your ex... that all determines on the level of understanding. How well does he understand where he stands if u meet another. He may be able to handle it very well but it does demand a good discussion to make sure.

There are benefits to having a fuck buddy, ie. friends w/ benefits.
A partner u've dated is already familiar with your erogenous zones and the sex is more likely to be satisfying than engaging in casual sex w/ ppl u’ve never had sex w/ before.
The upside is u get to have fun while still maintaining your single status. The alternative is engaging w/ casual sex w/ some1 only to find out u don’t want a relationship w/ this person and end up hurting her feelings. There could be much worse alternatives if u decide to satisfy a high sex drive.

The downside is if you two spend too much time together than u (and he) will miss opportunities.

 

*Waits for her to give me a call*