sex and "I love you"s

if it feels right i say go for it

 

My opinion on this and it's just my opinion, that's all. Is that you need to be thinking more about whether you love her or not? Don't say it cause of the moment, say what you feel. Maybe it's all these fears of whether or nto you will say it at the right moment or if it will add pressure that really matter to you and not the sex? If she doesnt say it back, well at least you said what you felt and if you wanted to say it. You say it if you feel it's right and if you want to. It sounds very convincing that you dont want to. So dont until you know you love her and think you are ready to say those words. I thought those were words that you could just say but it does change things. It makes them better. It doesn't neccesarily put pressure on anything. She won't feel pressured to anything. You're in love, not under pressure. Talk is cheap -- depeding. I dont think those words could be cheap...those are more than words, they are an emotion. You are putting yourself out there when you say that and it's an action...an action of saying those meaningful words and the risk of not getting it in return but knowing you said what was in your heart. I dont think sex is the only way to tell someone you love them. Love isn't sex, lust is sex. Sex can be shared by those who love eahc other or just want to have some fun. An action proving your love would be sacrificing something for her...which for right now....those words are good enough, putting yourself out there ot her is enough sacrifice. It's really upto to you and your views on love and sex. It doesnt neccesarily have to be just for kicks if the deed isnt done. It's your feelings...it's just for kicks if you want to say it just to get into her pants. Well much peace and blessings!

 

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for two months now and i am madly in love with him. He makes me so happy. We are very sexually active people and we have been for the first day we met. We didnt start saying i love you until 3 weeks after we had been going out and now we say it alot. When he first said it i was a little shocked but i said it back and i didnt know why because i didnt think it was possible to love someone after only going out with them for 3 weeks but the day after he said it i was like "OMG i love him". If you truly love her then you'll tell her how you feel and it doesnt always mean that you just want to have sex with her, your just telling her that you love her and you can let her know that. Dont be scared, just tell her your feelings. Me and my boyfriend can open up to eachother all the time and say whats on our minds and sometimes we get into arguments but we end up making up before one of us has to go home. So yea just tell her it will make things alot better.

 

i wish i could hear an I LOVE YOU every once in a while. I go down with my boyfriend every time i see him...and i still haven't heard it yet. eh...

 

If you read all the posts you would know that he isn't scared to say anything.

Why would saying "I love you" make things better if there was nothing wrong to begin with. Being sexually active has nothing to do with love.

 

Maybe i did read it wrong. i thought he said he doesnt want to say i love you to her because he doesnt want her to think hes pressuring her into sex. I got confused.

 

I did mention that, but the main point is that I feel it could only complicate things at this point

 

just say you love her. thats all i have to say now. because if you love someone enough you will let them know.

 

I thought i would have told him i loved him way b4 he did but it was the other way around.I took mb a month after he said it to actually so it back to him truthfully.
And we didnt have any sexual relations until like m/b 2 months after he first said it to me.
I felt no pressure with him saying it....and i totally fell for him after all that.And it didnt fuck up our relationship.
And im happy he said it to me.

 

as I do.

 

ill tell you this much

my boyfriend & i didnt start saying " i love you " until AFTER we had sex
( which was after we'd been dating a little over 6 months )

& i kinda feel like he sometimes says it because he feels like he NEEDS to BECAUSE we did have sex.

just trying to give you an opinion from the other side.

 

oh don't worry, I would make sure to tell her exactly why I waited and such :tongue:

but thank you for the tip

 

if you love her tell her. i love to hear my boyfriend tell me he loves me, especially just out of nowhere. it makes me feel wonderful. telling her you love her isn't going to make her feel like she's obligated to have sex with you now.

 

sounds to me like you aready do love each other. You're right that you don't have to say it, but I doubt it'd be a problem. And honestly, so what if she doesn't say it back? You already know she does.