My boyfriend and my best friend

Okay, a few weeks ago I started a thread discussing a new relationship; I was very uncomfortable as the boy I was dating was one of my closest friends.
This morning my best friend admitted that she and he had kissed yesterday after school. I was so angry and bitterly disappointed that I just burst into tears. I mean, quite frankly, he annoyed the hell out of me but the betrayal stung more than anything! Not just from him but from her as well! Next thing I know she'd turned on the water works as well and was insiting that it "wasn't her fault...it just happened"!!! My friends all started gathering around her and persuading me to "forgive her" and for me to apologise! Me? She made me want to slap her (which is unlike me as I am usually a very peaceful person) I ran off to talk to him.
He denied it for about half an hour before he eventually admitted to what he'd done. I gave him back the bracelet he'd given me and ran out of the room. According to his friends he sat down and cried for two hours.
Now I've ruined everything! I've ruined things with my best friend (and all my other friends because they think I'm being a b**ch) I've ruined what could have been a great relationship with him and now I can't stop crying.
I mean, I know it was all his fault for kissing her, but I feel really terrible for making him cry. I'm angry with them both and there's no way I ever want to start a things up again because I can't trust either of them! But that's just it: If I know I'm not in the wrong and I'm glad he's gone, then why am I hurting like this? Why can't I stop crying?
I wish you all the peace and love I have to offer.

 

Betrayal always cuts deeply... All I can say is that if you can find it in your heart to forgive them and move on, things will get better. Best of luck to ya!

 

Thankyou brother. It's really nice that there are people in this world who still want to help each other with their lives.
Peace and love to everyone in this forum.

 

if it could have been a great relationship, he wouldn't have kissed your best friend, you didn't ruin anything, it's not your fault

you are hurting because your trust was broken, never a good feeling

forgive them and let them earn your trust back
*hug*

 

Thankyou Duck.
*hug hug hug*
I need all the hugs I can get at the moment and I really appreciate this one. Thankyou so much.
Peace and love.

 

you are such a nice guy and i agree with you completely. betrayal is the hardest emotion to deal with, it's easy to forgive but harder to forget. you don't need people in your life like that.

 

You have nothing to apologize to your girlfriend for, but try to forgive her. At least she came and told you so that she could make it right.

Don't feel bad about making your ex-boyfriend cry. You did nothing wrong. He kissed your girlfriend and lied to you about it for a half-hour. But try to forgive him, too. Forgiving them is a gift you'll be giving to yourself. You'll be free.

 

Thanks guys. I think you're right: I will forgive him but I think it will be a long time before I can let him back into my life. As for my friend, she did come and tell me I suppose. Again. you guys are right, forgiveness is the first step to freedom.
Peace and love

 

Guess what! I just found out, not only has he kissed my best friend but he was with another girl at the time he was seeing me! Oooh! I'm sooooo angry!
I've got to calm down. This isn't like me, I never get this mad. But just thinking about it makes me want to scream!
Peace and love guys.

 

lol... your only 14... do your homework

 

Sorry you had a dog for a boyfriend. They're not all like that. There ARE good guys out there! *hugs*

 

you may now know you don`t want to be with him, or reconcile with her, but you still were hurt. thus have to go through the process. you are not a bitch, i can`t believe nobody was sympathetic towards your stance, that is not on.. but hey this world is shit so there
i have no advice, it is tricky. with me i`d be inclined to never be able to let go, despite what morals i might hold.

 

peace and love to you then hun. Whats happening between you and your best mate now?

 

you are a very positve minded young girl. At 14 you are willing to forgive some of your closest companions for betrayal. Not many could do that, and i think you should understand that you sound like a really smart young girl. But you are young my dear, and these things happen to every teenager throughout life and chances are, you will have a future boyfriend who cheats again, or even better chances your girlfriends will betray you. Its all a part of life, and what doesnt kill ya makes ya stronger. I hope you can continue to look on the bright side of things as you are now, it is always easier that way i think. Im sure you will find a much better boyfriend than the one who is fooling around town because you sound like a really really nice and understanding young girl. And if your here in hipforums then i know your cool!

 

^^That's the bottom line.

The best thing to do is to forgive them both and move on with your life... it is so easily said but it's one of the hardest things to do in life. To forgive those who have harmed you is not a quality possesed by a lot of people now a days.
To be honest, that's one of the things I have not learned how to do. I keep things inside and I have a really hard time forgetting and forgiving. The only reason I tell you this, is because I know it's not a good thing. Keeping things like this inside of you is not healty and nothing good can come out of it. They will keep you down and will eat you inside unless you let them go.

Keep your head up and move on. That's what gets you through hard times like this 1.

 

I understand you're angry. You are letting this guy get the best of you. You are letting some boy you won't know in ten years get to you. Why did it get to you? You expected him to be different...your trust and expectations were buried when he kissed your best friend. I say forgive them sweetie. Forgive him and forgive especially her. It's not worth to lose a friendship over this. Let her talk to your more...explain her side and then rationally think about it more. You're angry...anger doesnt lead to good decisions. As for your other friends, it's not their business and you have every right to feel upset because it's easy to judge but when it's you it's all different. Don't listen to them...you don't need all this extra stuff. Forgive this guy...don't hold this grudge in your heart...hold it liek an experience....be friends with him again. Learn form it. Forgive him for their is forgiveness in your heart...however, now you know that is not the guy you want to be with...the kind of guy who you would want as a boyfriend. A friendship is all you can expect form him because he doesnt meet your expectations of a decent boyfriend...which shouldn't since he lies. But at least...you can offer friendship and maintain peace in your life. Good luck sweetie.

 

This guy betrayed you - you shouldnt feel that you have to forgive him. He was WRONG and clearly has seriously hurt you - im all for frogiveness but sometimes you shouldnt have too.

 

you seem like an extremely intelligent young lady. i am very impressed at how well you worded your original post. you seem to have a grasp on what emotions you are dealing with and at your age, that is admirable. i am sure that by now you have been over it but for future reference, use your brightness to shine other ways and forget the boys for now. 9/10 are going to be assholes and 5/9 that are assholes now will be assholes when they grow up. good luck girl. you are a star in my eyes.