Can't do anal.

It's not supposed to hurt.

Just because you want to makeup for hurting someone doesn't mean you let them do what every they want to you. If he likes you then " I'm sorry" should be good eneough.

 

I'ts not supposed to hurt at all.. Why else would so many people engage in it!?

I love anal sex, receiving or giving but foreplay is absolutely necessary, especially for the first couple of times. If you "don't have the time" for foreplay then you probably shouldn't be having anal sex. It takes preparation and your body needs to be ready. If you're not interested in doing it that way, then it's not going to work, period.

 

If you would feel selfish from enjoying any kind of sex, you shouldn't do it at all. Sex, whether anal or otherwise, is by default a selfish activity because people have sex so they can feel pleasure. The only other reason to do it is to have babies. And if you feel the need to let your guy punish you in an uncomfortable way and he is ok with that, then he is the wrong kind of guy to stick with. If I was doing something to a girl that she wasn't having a good time with, I would stop immediately. It's the right thing to do with someone you care about. Don't do anal or any other kind of sex with this guy for the wrong reasons. Please.

 

We talked about it a little ... he does try with his finger a little first, and it never works (hurts and does not fit), so I usually just expedite things by telling him to go ahead full speed.

I think the issues are that a.) I have a very tiny asshole, and b.) I really hate foreplay. Like, I hate it a lot and it turns me OFF. So I think I will just bring the numbing lube next time

 

Your really gona hurt yourself. Really bad.

 

agreed

if you continue with this plan suncatch, well, i really hope you dont end up in the hospital from it

 

I really don't think there's anything you could have done to him to really give him the allowance to do whatever he wants to you. I agree with Allonym.

As for the pain, I`ll admit, the first time I had it, it was a little painful but you've got go slowly at it at first. You can't just shove something up there and it expect it not to hurt at all. Lots of lube and time is what you need.

 

This is going to end with a trip to the hospitol

 

Agh, I know I'm an idiot. I just want to get it over with ...

 

yes, but, this approach does not work with anal sex

 

Can you just do it already and then tell us all that we were right?

 

youre sick, and so is your boy.
a man who is having non-pleasurable for girl sex should be punished by law

 

You shouldn't be having anal sex if your attitude towards it is "I just want to get it over with" No matter what kind of sex you are having, it should be good sex.

 

REPLY TO: Suncatch - "He has a problem with foreplay -- I sometimes think our bodies make him uncomfortable, so I try my best to just "get right down to it."

Any guy who doesn't engage in, and preferably master, basic foreplay, will not be able to enjoy anal sex with most women. You should be doing all of the above ass play (fingers, rubbing, lube, etc.) during sex, preferably right before you are going to give into climax, as your body will open up in a way, and he will notice that another finger will fit at this time, and that your body's natural lubes will be at their peak. At some point in all this, with his finger in your butt and you on the verge, you will begin to enjoy that anal sensation. Focus on that first, do this a few times first. Then maybe after you have explored that area for positive sensations, do all the same stuff over, and pursue the penile entry into that open and willing backdoor. Make sure he goes slow, easy, and your body will let him know how far to take it, if he is good at paying attention.

I have helped many girls start on the path to good anal, only when asked, mind. It is a pretty fascinating subject even when considered logically or casually.

Hope this helps.