Atention wise men and sages, a question...

If someone has performed an injustice towards you, and transgresed the rules
and ethics that pertain to their work, and in the process you have been abused or exploited---- as a peace maker should you take action and try to right that wrong, or instead decide to let it be, turn the other cheek even if it hurts?
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Rigth the wrong always. Do not turn away
Face it, and transform it.
Even if acknowledging it, hurts
Even if thinking about it, hurts
Turn to face it, confront the wrong doer and tell the truth.
You cant turn from it, oyu cannot go, it will just wait for you in front of you and not behind you.
Things are behind you once you have faced them.
Until you do so, htey are in front of you, blocking your way at some point, and each time you push them aside, you are in fact pushing them ahead of you, and like a garn it becomes bigger and bigger and heavier to carry and more and more difficult to push in front of you, until you finaly take it up and unknot it all and dissolve it all by taking it up.
So it is better for you to take it up now, and be done with it.
Unjustice, abuse of profession and ethics, must be confronted. It is you you are serving by doing so. By not doing so you acknowledge the other rigth of doing so and tear a part of your selfconfidence apart, and agree to be mistreated, and you are part of selfabuse.
So right the wrong, it is the alone right thing to do.
Do what is right and good for you now.
Acknowledge your need to be free from pain and free from being abused.

Shine again.

 

What will you do? You will do nothing, the law should take care of that. If there is no law that takes care of what needs to be done, Or if the law is not just, then you have to work to put a just law in place for the sake of others.

If you are the ruler then you will do what needs to be done according to the rules about those who transgress the rules.

 

There is no law when feelings are involved.
There is no law about ethic, only about money.
To rigth the wrong is always the right thing to do.
To do nothing is for the weak and unethical.
If you cannot prove he transgress the rules, the law wont help you either.
You have to confront him yourself to obtain reparation, and in the doing oyu will repare yourself inside, and anihilate the damages cause in your heart, and will coem out stronger.
If you do not do so, you will feel weaker for a very long time.

 

If time heal all wounds then why force the the wound to heal?
Of course you can apply ointment and hope that works, but when the situation is of the heart I possitively know it heals by itself.

In the case of one who faces abuse from those who are supposed to help
then I have no answers.

 

Thats what humans face everyday and the biggest problem.
Time heal, the heart doesnt.
And humans are not made of time, humans are mortal, they do not own time, time own them. Heart need love to heal, not time.
It never heal by itself. You always have to work it out.
It get forgotten by itself, but it stay there and grow with time.
It grows invisible with time and become more difficult to spot and found out, because once it was ignored.
Like a child crying inside you, it will hide, but as long as you dont consolate the child, give it warmth and love and care, you will never be whole and will nver grow higher.
The tears of the child, the bleeding heart, will keep you down drag you down, and will block your way further.
Ignoring it is ignoring life.
You cant resort to time to deal with what is primordial in your life.
Life itself
Love itself
Time is an illusion, its healing are illusoric.
The wound is true, the need of love is true, life is true.
Healing involve loving, not time.
It is what you do about it during that time that will determine the extend of the healing.
This is as true as hidding hunger in the closet do not stop famine.

 

I understand your situation because I've been there times since 200 till now.

What else can I say? I 'm very glad that it happened now, but while it was still fresh I felt like the most unfortunate man in the three worlds.

Heartbreak is no laughing matter, and nothing to undermine at any time--- trust betrayed is the worst experience anyone can go through, but everyone that has gone through that knows that if that person was not loyal, then... ....good riddance!!!

 

In answer to the original question - like most things you have to look at every separate case on its merits. Sometimes you're better off just to walk away, other times, you need to take action.

There's no one rule to cover all eventualities.

 

Right, but we are still at the original question all the way through...

 

Since this (particular)situation was not with me, but with someone else who suggested the posting of it here, my advice to her, using examples in my own life has been to see how the maltreatment could be for a better option, a better agency, another avenue that.... as we type, she is seeking.

I have discovered over and over that when we tie all ends, we see a certain pattern, and we learn that all things work for good, because the evidence is right there, that if you had taken that turn, the new turn now would not be possible, and you would've missed on a greater fortune.

Most if not all events that we name curses or misfortunes are in reality blessings, even if we were hurt, offended and lost a great deal.

 

I don't agree that everything tends towards the good, or the desired outcome to a given situation. Some things just have to be seen as misfortune.

It may be comforting to think it's all for the good in the end - however, victims of bomb blasts etc might not see it that way.
In that particular case, the solutuon might be to do away with the philosophies that lead to such outrages, rather than 'punish' the individual bomber.

Personally, I've all but given up doshing out advice to people.

 

This "feeling weaker" and "feeling bad" or "feeling good" after doing certain actions does not pertain to our real selves. They pertain to our egos.

The ego needs constant fueling, it tricks you into thinking that there is something outside of yourself that will give you happiness.

It is possible for us to remain unaffected by whatever good or bad happens to us. The person who can do this is called a sthitaprajya or a man of steady mind.

Moreover, the rightness and wrongness are also your own perceptions, the actual physical world is bereft of right and wrong.

I am not saying there is no injustice in the world, ofcourse there is injustice in the world that we need to battle. For instance, when some one takes away your property or something else... that is against the law , therefore it is injustice. But there are laws to protect against that.

But most of the times, we think in terms of ego. We think in terms of the "I". In other words, you feel "wronged" by others or you think something is wrong because of the way it makes you feel. Therefore, "right and wrong" are not real entities. they are part of the illusion that our own ego wishes to project.

 

I think everyone needs to transcend his/her own shell to stop the abuse from happening. If you see God's light in all people, how can you abuse anyone?

 

I know that. but does the other one know and realise that?
That is the question.

Then you will be abused and defenseless.

And if the one abusing you do so because he sees evil in you due to his blindness, how are you to convince him he is wrong, and make him see the light?

Thi, every individual reach awareness on its own and awareness cannot be given to one unless he is reaching for it.

I do not see God in you, I see You.
I do not see God in him, God make me see Him.
Awareness makes me see the light inside him, the shinning, and it is this diamond I know i am to connect to and to awake.

 

you misunderstood your teachings.
any properties taken from you doesnt exist at the end and has no worth.
Love and joy really has worth.
And that alone should be your focus.

 

I know that, but does he know it?
Does the other one know and realise that? That is the question.

 

I don't get it, what are you talking about?

 

About that:

And love is steadier than all sthitaprajya.

What i mean is that you do not know of love and do not embrace love.
You forgot it.
You conveniently leave it outside.

 

Sthitaprajyatha is a sanskrit term that means steadiness. Having a steady mind in happiness and distress helps us live a life of peace. Love is an another matter entirely.
You are right, when we realize God in everything, we just simply love everyone.

What I was trying to say earlier is that when you are not affected at all by any adversity then "abuse" does not exist. We recognize abuse only to fuel our concept that we are this thing or that thing ... and we fail to see the larger picture.

 

I choose to examine and study the combination of all events transpired in many particular situations in my personal life, and I will not determine that
something was for good until I see that somehow the last terrible event helped create directly or indirectly the present blessing.

I know many people can fool themselves, and try to believe that all is for good, but I'd rather wait and see what effects are produced from earlier causes. Not all is for good.

There is the law of cause and effect, and there is also the law of karma..are they different? perhaps, but once thing we cannot deny at any time in this life...we are reaping consequences left and right, and all around, truly-- nothing ever comes out of nothing.


Yes, we can also choose to see thing the way we foolishly desire, to make ourselves feel good and to protect ourselves from depression, but that is not the path of the wise. The wise will choose to listen to experience, and then examine personal life according to the wisdom of the scriptures that point to the laws of the universe, and how we are either following the laws of good karma and grace, or grossly ignoring them, and paying painful consequences daily for that recklesss error.