Friends that sleep together

Is it a bad thing having a friend who you sleep with rather than a boyfriend?
As long as neither of you are shagging anyone else or in any kind of relationship with someone

 

having a fuck buddy is ok as long as you are both forthright about the conditions and terms... if it's just about sex, make sure you both know that so someone doesn't get mixed up and hurt

 

already got hurt by him though

 

Heeeeeeeeey, I'm in that situation right now!

It kinda sucks! I don't advocate it!

..........I like him alot more than I should. Alooooooooot more, and I'm just hurting myself, I know this. I can't help it though. As much as it hurts sometimes, I am happy with him. If this is the only way I can have him, so be it. I'm just trying to be as careful as possible.

Damn him.

 

Friends with benefits sounds like the ideal situation, but it often ends up being the suckiest and most painful.

How has he hurt you? Depending on the situation, this could either be your green light (what the hell, he's already done something bad) or a huge warning flag (if it's gonna keep happening over and over).

 

someone post this fool a link to "ladder theory". "Friends with benefits" is everymans dream, but pretty soon the womans gonna feel like a slut and want something more, or just as likely less....

 

if you can't fuck a friend than who can you fuck?

 

fuck buddy?
lover?
an ex?
bf?

 

I personaly would never involve myself in such a situation. I've known people to do this kind of thing and it ALWAYS lead to uncomfortable situations.
But then again I could care less for sex, and would only involve myself with someone i was in love with/and loved me back.
I please my mind, not my body

 

Doesn't the Fw/B situation sound lovely? I doubt it works out very often. At least, it has not been very good for me in my history. Be careful!

 

i've done it a few times. i worked out just fine for me. we're all still friends, we're all still comfortable with each other. there was a long term friendship there, that we knew wasn't really going anywhere. it was just fun. but again, not for everyone.

 

It did it with the same friend for years, when we weren't in other relationships but if one of us found someone we liked it was no problem to stop. It really depends on the people.

 

im in the same situation, my friend and i sleep together and shes like in love with me now and shes like 25 and im 20

 

sounds like a good situation, but once you develop feelings for someone im sure it starts to go downhill.

 

OK this is going to really confuse people but here we go.

Its a friend of mine who I have had a relationship with (only for a few months) we love each other as friends, we get on really well, but neither of us wants a relationship yet.

 

sounds fine to me.

 

Well, at least we have armchair sociologists around to grossly misinterpret things they don't understand, and generalize the sexes down to two unexcepted templates. Keep up the good work.

 

so, is gjg german love machine?

 

Yeah I member seeing ur thread somewhere else lol.

If you truly believe that neither one of you want something else other than sex then it can definitely work out.

Having a "friend with benefits" can only work out if the only thing holding the relationship together is a physical attraction. As soon as there are feelings involved the whole thing starts getting complicated it can potentially lead to some1 getting hurt. I've seen it happen way too many times with personal experiences and friend's.

Being "ok" is a whole different story though. In the eyes of today's society a man that has sex with a lot of girls in or out of a relationships is a player (which is not a bad thing ) but a girl that has sex with guys outside of a relationship is a whore.
As long as you're & him are ok with it, i'd say fuck what every1 else thinks. You're the only 1 that can live your life.

 

Well Ive known girls with thier 'fwbs' and Ive observed that they arent even real friends at all.. Its just a bunch of guys who like to take advantage of insecure girls.
However it makes sense to me that if youve been friends with someone for a while and you decide to be fwb, then there shouldnt be too much of a problem I would imagine.