so my boyfriend and i have been dating for a while and he told me recently that he's bored with sex. we've talked a lot about anal sex and he really wants to do it and i wouldnt mind trying it too. but im scared its going to hurt really bad. is it really as bad as ive heard? is there anything i can do to make it not as bad?
Use a good lubricant, relax and go slow. Tell your boyfriend if it hurts you will tell him to stop. Try giving him a finger up his backside, if you massage the prostate while giving him head it can produce a pretty intense orgasm for him.
Start slow and small. Work your way up. Try experimenting with yourself first, use your own finger, tickle and probe around until you are comfortable. Once you are ok with one or two of your own fingers, move up to a vibrator or start letting him finger your ass (when he goes down is a good time). When you take his cock in your ass, take it slow. If you are in control, all the better, you can set the pace. Use a good lube and plenty of it. I prefer KY or a silicon base, but everyone likes something different. Just remember, it takes time to get used to and you might not be comfortable the first or second try. If it hurts, stop and try again later.
start very slowly and try not to concentrate to much on the ass as it may get painful, make sure hes turning u on in other ways aswell while he slowly lubes u up and inserts a finger then maybe a couple more depending on the size of his pecker lol
Here is a short tutorial I typed up a while back. It's how *I* learned.. The key to this is to take your time and go slow. You learn how to control your butt and schincter muscles. You learn how to RELAX THEM and you get used to the feeling of it all. Anal play for beginners Disclaimer: I am NOT a doctor and I do NOT play one on TV. This is the way *I* learned how to discover anal play. As usual care needs to be practiced. GO VERY SLOWLY. First start off with a TRIMMED index finger. You may even want to put on a latex glove first to help make it even smoother. Use KY or the drug store brand of KY and lube the finger well. Place it VERY GENTLY near the anus and lightly circle the hole with the finger. DON'T INSERT YET. Just circle it for a few minutes. After a few minutes without insert, just put the finger over the anus and gently press a bit without entering. Just apply a bit of pressure. Do this over and over a few times and after a few minutes SLOWLY begin to insert JUST THE FINGER *TIP* in about a quarter of an inch then take it out. Do this a few times then go a LITTLE further in. Repeat this until you have you whole finger in. DO NOT FORCE IT, IF HE OR SHE OR YOU SAYS STOP, STOP! Within a week or so of trying this the person should be fairly used to the finger and inserting and pumping it in and out should become easy. Also try moving the finger around while inserted, back & forth,etc. Orgasms ARE VERY VERY INTENSE when you leave your finger or butt plug or dildo in. Soon you will want to try something slightly bigger than your finger. Try your middle finger or graduate to a SMALL butt plug. Same rules apply to the new toy as did with the finger. Start off using the finger as usual then after getting loose begin with the plug. Plugs have flared bottoms to prevent them from going all the way in. If you graduate to dildos later get ones with a flared base or ones that have the balls at the bottom. This prevents them from slipping all the way in. You don't need a trip to the ER to retrieve it, that would SUCK! After a while you will become very used to anal play and you won't need much time to prep for your session. You'll loosen up very quickly after you learn how to relax your anal muscles. It takes me less than 5 minutes to go from start to riding a 8 inch silicon dildo like a bucking bronco! GITTYUP LITTLE DOGGIE! The key to learning anal play/sex is to TAKE YOUR TIME.
Sage advice! Anal, when done right, never hurts, and never should! I thnk this was mentioned, but start experimenting when you masterbate. This puts you in the proper state of mind and helps you to relax, which is crucial. Use tons of lube, and I mean tons. The more you use the more slippery you become, the better it feels. Use a thick lube too, Um, I think we use Platinum Silver. We have a lube shooter too, so it gets in nece and deep. You can have one helluva G spot orgasm through anal as well, so keep that little tidbit in mind....just wanted to dangle that carrot.
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