Well i now i had sex with this girl 3 times, we like eachother alot and all that good stuff..i please her alot when were doin it, she tells me when she had an orgasm but she gets concerned about me, because i havent once "came" when we had sex. Its just not constant enough to make me have an orgasm myself, which i dont care about at all. But she cares and she thinks im not enjoying it like she does, when i really am and im having the time of my life. Is it normal to for a guy not to cum always during sex? Is that the whole point of sex? Because i dont see myself having an orgasm during sex, like i said its just not constant enough like masturbation. Maybe we just need to do it longer? idkkkk Thoughts?
masterbate less or not at all awhile but no orgasm isnt the point of sex except anamilistic sex theres differing schools of thought on this, tantric sex is about giving, loving all you can not about banging away till you cum like western sexual attitueds tend to be but if your not orgasming durring sex cause its not like masterbating then you should try not masterbating awhile & see if that improves
I have had sex without ejaculating but it doesn't happen very often...usually because alcohol is involved. I wouldn't call your situation abnormal. Sometimes it just takes a little while before you can completely relax and enjoy the sex.
It is in fact a very good sign that you are not coming. Better than those coming too soon dont you think? As long as you are having a swell time, i wont give it too much concern. Coming is not a must.
Everyone who posted here is right -- the point of having sex with a partner is not necessarily to orgasm but to enjoy the other person and the bond (whatever type it may be) you share. Eventually you might relax and orgasm during sex. Pausing in masturbation might work. But either way, probably nothing is wrong.
most guys do orgasm from intercourse. try not masturbating as much for a while, see if it helps i have had sex with my partner and had him not cum. the first time we had sex was like that, actually. i felt like i had compeltely and utterly failed at sex. it takes a lot of reassurance for a woman to be ok with that. well feel too loose, too unattractive, too.. anything. weve done it a couple times without him orgasming from the intercourse since then without issue - but thats because he came within a couple hours beforehand with me heh
yess but she thinks it bothers me, when it doesnt i try telling her it doesnt but she just thinks im trying to be nice. she hears about guys getting blue balls(when guys balls hurt from sex and no orgasm, if u didnt know) but i didnt expirience it at all..i never have. Shes happy, and really, thats all i care about. Shes just been with selfish guys i guess
Concur re: cumming aka ejaculation. The event is what is to be shared and being hard is soothing & fantastic so why climax. Your mate wants you to climax because she wants you to feel as good as her. Bring her in close, make her a part of your body as if you are one - as she has her orgasms, build off each one as you build to your own extreme high but Lorna is correct, this is far better than being pre-mature (which just sucks). Good luck - explore, find that extra extremity of your own body - your partner and enjoy as long as you can.
