What if................

If you love someone, but you know they aren't right for you what do you do? Do you take the chance? Or do you let them go?.... What if everyones against you, nobody wants you to be together, they all say it will end up wrong, do you still take that chance?

 

I say take a chance though they may not be right for you it may end up teaching you things needed for future relationships

 

If you're a moth, and you see a flame you know will burn up your wings if you get too close, what do you do? Do you take the chance? Or do you fly away?...What if all the other moths warn you you'll be burned up, no other moth wants you to be engulfed in flame, they all say it's wrong, do you still take the chance?

You already know better. Unfortunately, that's not going to be enough to stop you.

 

You just said it. You know this person isn't right for you, so why chance it? Then again, isn't every relationship a chance you take? It depends if this person is so bad that you know in your heart you shouldn't even bother, than don't. It could save you a lot of pain later.

 

it got posted twice..

 

you are 15, she is or he is the right for you until you are 15½..at that age it doesnt last long.. eternity is today and tomorrow.
Dont bother at all and do as you feel like. What other say to you, it aint their life. If you love that person why you say its the wrong one? Because you feel that way or feel imposed it is that way?

 

a) love is not enough.
b) I highly doubt you are quite in love with the person

look at the high divorce rates of our times - do you doubt these people loved each other?
you can not go on feelings/attraction alone - it would never work out

 

i dunno what ta tellya...if i had waited for mr. perfect to come along i would have no kids and no life. how do you know if someone is 'wrong for you' or 'right for you' before you've spent some time with them and gotten to know them well? who's against it, by the way...and why?

 

she brings up a valid point

what makes you think this person is 'wrong for you'?
and in what way are they 'wrong'?

 

Do worry about what others SAY, go with how YOU feel.

 

What2do is the one that started the thread titled "Well I didn't listen to any of you..and you were all right". In that thread she describes a 19 year old guy taking advantage of her while she was drunk. That's why *I'm* against this relationship.

 

Well it depends on how "bad" he really is for you. Is he bad cus he does drugs? Is he bad cus he beats you? Is he bad because his family and ur family are rivals? or what?

I would say take a chance... it may be a mistake, but you won't know that unless you do it. Some people take chances, some people don't... but we all make mistakes at some point. What really makes us different is how we react to those mistakes and what we learn from them.

If you think this guy (or girl ) is going to affect your future in a bad way don't do it, but if you have at least a little bit of hope then go for it.

Be smart about it and good luck

 

oh great. well, 2 things: if he really forced her, that's definitely not good. also, if not...and only she knows this...and if she really cares for him, she should remember that he could end up in jail for a very long time, depending on where they live, because of his relationship with her.

 

that night he kept feeling me up the following day he said he doesnt remember anything about what happened [he was drunk] and he said he was so so so sorry. the people that are aginst the realtionship is like veryone because our age 15 - 19..... my mum definatly wudnt be pleased if she found out...


i think that maybe hes too old for me and im unsure why he chose me , a 15 year old, when he could have anyone he wanted his own age.... at the same time i do like him but i have doubts and im still a virgin and he knows this.. so why try to touch me up like that? i really dont know what to do.. if i like him isnt that all that really matters?..... thanks .

 

umm no thats not all that really matters, just ask any1 whos been madly in love with an abusive drunk

look at the facts here, you like him, yet you cant trust him when drunk
he drank enough to not remember what happened
he kept going even when u tried to stop him
and lastly, if you cant tell your parents then theres a reason, & its not just age, its that you know theres something about him besides age that they wouldnt like, maybe thats even the thing u like abiut him? the unpredictability, or something? but no matter what, hes been out of control drunk with ya once already, the only time u really hung out with him in fact.. what might happen the next time? rape? i'm not saying im 100% against it, but it brings up enough serius concernes to advise extreme caution, & i would suggest concidering the possibility of writting it off as a huge mistake...but i know you may not be willing to do that, you may need a second or third sign that its all wrong (assummimng it is which ofcourse we all may be surprised) so if your absolutely dead set on giving him anbother chance, only do so on your terms for your safety..
which id say should include some basic rules
1: never ever hang out with him when drinkings involved
2: never go anywhere with him where you'll be alone away from your freinds for any period of time
(at least for a few months with no repeated incidents, untill a real trust is there)
3:be as honnest with your parents as you can
4: any more signs of trouble, run & dont look back
5; dont allow your feelings to cloud your better judgment
6: if he ever uses any lines like "if you loved me youd do this for me" realize that hes not talking about love but manipulating you, using your nieve feelingsd to get what he wants (sex)

ok, having said all that id still suggest that your probly not able to trust him, but you may be able to hang out as freinds once or twice & get a better feel for where his real interests lie.. but do so as a group, with freinds..& without alcahol

 

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO

keep away from him.

being drunk does not excuse his actions in anyway

 

if you have a question about it walk away!

Ive been married for 7 years, it sucks, if shes not kicking me out shes taking me back, I love her too death, always have. but if shes not making you happy, its your choice to deal with it or not.

it may be a noble thing staying with her casue you love her.
my wife and I still try "to work out the bugs" the bugs just keep coming...though we still love eachother............

scripture says guard your heart for it is the well spring of life

a student came upon guatama (budda) when he was dying and said master, Im in love with this woman,
he replied, concerning women, YOU should not be trusted

love makes men do stupid shit!...yet im still doing it

 

i don't beleve in right or wrong people

you make things work, or you don't make things work, that's all

 

be thankful you see this person isn`t right for you, and feel a choice can be made (when i was inlove, i couldn`t walk away). i had certain issues that led to me falling inlove with someone So wrong, and i died because of it. i haven`t felt in over 2.5 yr. it was a slow process.

 

I would take the chance

that might just be me though cus im weird like that, but you know