Loss of apetite?

I have heard of lossing ur apetite when ur inlove....is this true? And i have been getting sick in the middle of all my meals and sometimes despite my hunger i just cant eat. Now the girl i love has this same problem, and it started happening about a month ago when we went on our first little date thing i started to get better and then after we saw eachother last week its worse than before...

 

your 14, not in love.

 

quit being a faggot and if you dont have useful information dont bother because im told that alot and i no i am...

 

i'm being serious. how can you be in love at 14? it's basically impossible.

and that thing about you loosing your appetite, it's called nerves...not love

 

There is no set time of when you find your first love...and there is not a time when u find your soul mate. Im not stupid, i no that there is a chance im not but there is also a chance i am. And if you know how it feels to not ever have her out of your head and wish she was sleeping beside you. And hope she calls just so you can hear her voice. Wait all day to talk to her even for five minutes. And sit beside her in the car and just get lost in the beauty of looking into her soul threw her eyes. Then come tell me theres no chance im inlove. And i figured its nerves but caused by love or not. Im not trying to be rude or mean so dont take it the wrong way.

 

your only 14 homie. smoke some weed and dont worry so much about love.

 

so your addicted to her then?

 

in a sense ya i am...but im not gona date her. We both talked on the subject and i dont want to think of her as more than a freind till we r older but it dosent mean i dont love her its just i want to live my teen life normal and if things happen some day they do if not oh well i just wanted to no if some one knew thats why i loose my apetite...hahahaha but we r best freinds and she can drive soon so if we do end up dating it probly will last a life time with as much as we will be together and how strong i feel for her at only age 14...and yes i put alota thought into this situation and do belive i lover her now and will till i die but dosent mean shes my soul mate.

 

I have heard of losing it from ones heart being broken but never from being in love. And Travis..the word faggot is not cool. If you feel you are old enough exp love..you should be old enough to know not to use that word and it's full of hate and offensive to a lot of people>!

 

You guys aren't being very considerate or helpful. Someone's age has got NOTHING to do with whether they can experience love or being in love. Sure, at 14 Travis being in love might not mean he wants to settle down, get married and have kids...but that doesn't mean the love is any less real or intense. Also, his using the word 'faggot' has got nothing to do with whether he's in love either (although I agree it's not a good term to use).

Travis, ignore the idiots in here! You know you are in love and that's enough!

As for losing your appetite...being in love...especially the first stages of it TOTALLY affect your body. You feel light-headed, euphoric, probably very horny...and yes you can lose your appetite. I wouldn't worry about it unless it becomes extreme or you can TELL you're actually sick (like a tummy bug or virus or something). Then go see a doctor Other than that have fun! And if you haven't kissed this girl, then kiss her already dammnit!!!!

MMM.....kissing rules....I did so much kissing when I was 14....happy memories :-D

(I still do lots of kissing actually)

 

Thanks man and i do agree faggot is a pretty harsh word i just use it alot when i get angry because of that reason haha and thanks thats just what i wanted to no and i have all thoughs other things too except i dont get horny often but i never have....but when i do its really really intense...I dont want to kiss her because i feel if we wait till we are older i have less a chance of having my heart broken...ive had it a million times with puppy love and well if it would happen with this girl idk honestly what i would do...probly go insane with rage and kill some people and get put to death...haha thats just theory but i am afraid we will get to know eachother to much as freinds to do sexual things and acctually love her and such...im a strong beliver that every thing happens for a reason and that when the time is right it will happen...Last night me and my brother were downing some scottish wiskey and were very well buzzed and started getting deep and talked...he really enjoys my girls company and likes her alot (she is a good person) and i explained how i wanted to wait and he told me " I thought i was in love...but now i know shes not what i completley wanted but its to late, dont waste ur time everything happens for a reason and if you and kelli(my girl) are meant to be u will be fine being to gether threw ur teen years along with your lives." My brother has a baby to his girlfreind now and she wont leave her family (in florida) to move with him (in pennsylvania) and her family is complete scum. But thats a whole nother story. So yeah i want to kiss her alot but dont feel right but idk how things will turn out but i do no she is my life and at only 14.

 

M'lady glowing coconut gives excellent advice! Very excellent advice indeed. Go ahead and kiss her, but I would add, do it with the foreknowledge that it is of course not going to last. When the time comes it is probably you that will break her heart and not the other way around, given what I have come to learn of you. However, it would be much better for you in the long run if she breaks your heart. The more ferociously she rips it out and stomps on it the better, as long as you don’t end up being permanently jaded and emotionally crippled by the experience, which hopefully should not be an issue at your age.

Having a puppy love affair fall apart is nothing compared to really having your heart ripped out, but for a man, these experiences are absolutely essential. Girls are ready to marry at a young age, but men are not ready to marry until they have played the field and have had their heart genuinely ripped out. Only with such experiences can you truly take the commanding dominate role with a girl that is absolutely required for real fatherhood in a genuinely healthy and functional relationship. All women are Hell cats at a certain level deep down inside and they have to be shown who the boss is. This requires a thick skin. Ultimately all women will turn their noses up at sweetness if you haven’t shown them who the boss is yet. Only after they have been man handled emotionally will they truly purr inside when you are sweet to them. Before that, they just do not truly respect your sweetness too them.

Adam was too young for Eve, and let her make a big decision that should have been his instead. A pussy whipped man makes a terrible father. In order to find the right girl when you are old enough to settle down, you HAVE to have your heart *really* broken a few times, or you just won’t be ready for true love when you are older. Each time will seems worse than the last, as if you had never really known what love is before and the previous experiences that seemed so bad at the time where just nothing, until something finally snaps into place and you have conquered the inner demon that would make you a slave to some girl.

Only by allowing yourself to be open to being hurt by a girl can you truly come to understand the inner workings of the female psyche. Influence is a two way street, and only by being open to the possibly of being hurt by them, can you in turn, over time, learn how to influence and dominate them so that there is no longer any fear left of being hurt because you have finally reached a place where there is simply no doubt that you are in total control. Only then are you really read to settle down.

“The peacock thrives off of berries that are poisonous to other birds.” –A Tibetan sacred text: The Wheel of Sharp Weapons.

(Note that peahens eat the same berries, but this is intended as a profoundly masculine image.)

So the real truth is that if it turns out that she is the one that hurts you and rips your heart out, rather than the other way around, in the long run it will be even better for you. It will hurt for awhile, but as they say in the gym, no pain no gain. It really is an essential and vital thing in the psychic/emotional maturation of a man to have his heart ripped out. Not that you should walk into it blindly of course, but you shouldn’t be so tense about it either. If you are too vigilant about not letting it happen you will stunt your own emotional growth:

It's the heart afraid of breaking
that never learns to dance
It's the dream afraid of waking that never takes the chance
It's the one who won't be taken
who cannot seem to give
and the soul afraid of dying that never learns to live
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But I completely disagree with Glowing Coconuts and MatthewShane about your use of the term fagot. I found it extremely apropos in this context. An 18 year old condescendingly giving advice to someone only 4 years younger about how you cannot possibly be experiencing emotional attachment and that you can’t be anything but an emotionless robot at your age? It is pure nonsense that obviously comes from a place of jealousy. He wishes that he were in your shoes, so he was doing anything he could to try and put you down. That is a bitchy jealous fagot thing to do.

(A masculine well adjusted gay man once laughingly said to me that, "The only thing worse than a bitchy woman is a bitchy guy!" There is a difference between a bitchy fagot and an emotinally well adjusted gay man.)

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As to the subject at hand, there are two stages to love which is actually defined by brain chemistry. In the first stage you experience an intense high with butterflies in the stomach, loss of appetite and loss of sleep is not at all uncommon either. You are driven with a super-drive that prompts you to do things with an intense energy, run a four minute mile, spend all night writing poetry, drink intensely, etc… It is like some kind of stimulant drug, most of which have the same loss of appetite and loss of sleep effects. It’s great when you are young, but as you get older this part of the relationship actually gets to be a drag, wearing you out. Older people who are still looking for love want to get over this stage as quickly as possible, which becomes less interesting over time, and get on to the second stage of love, pair bonding.

While the first stage of love is associated with a whole smorgasbord of neurochemicals, the second pair bonding stage is primarily associated with only one. I can’t remember the name, but it has been found that geese and ducks have the highest concentration of this chemical in their brains of any known species, and indeed these birds mate for life. If their first mate dies they never take another.

This is why in Taosim and Feng Shui geese are the symbol of conjugal fidelity. Feng Shui consultants recommend for older couples that they place a painting of geese over their bed to help stabilize the relationship and keep the older man’s eyes from wandering to younger girls.

 

Mike you have given me alota advice about my relationship and the whole 1st stage of love is extremeley accurate. The first time we were together not counting the night we met i was completley sober but we picked her freind up first and i felt a little light headed but not to bad but then when we went to pick her up we pulled up to her house and me and her freind went inside to get her and it felt like i poped an oxy or something but its not the same as a high but its sorta like a rush and i just wanted to kiss her and hold her the whole night...and that night she called me when i got home and we talked and we both felt the same feeling like that so my phone started dieng so i told her good night and every thing and when i hung up the phone is when i realized the butterfly rush feeling was us being in love...Mike how do you know these things so good?

 

Because I am a master of love's labour's lost, of love's suffering. Not forwarned by my ancestors, who were not so masterful, I suffered much, with each encounter, and suffer still, it never ends, even if the suffering is slight.

Just now I told my a pathetic suiter of my blond girl's love to take a hike. He bumped against her in lusting desire and she did not rebuke him, but I did, outside. He rolled down the window of his truck to accept my repreoach, and I made a fool of his young soul, even as he showed me the pictures of his older lovers. I told him that he had not found true love, and sneered at his assertion that the pictures of his lovers were young, I could see otherwise and told him so. I told him with atlernating feirceness and gentleness that he was hitting on mine and that he was too young to find the true love that I seeketh. He was made aware that he must abandon the field and leave it too me, peeling off in his truck at high speed.

I am old enough to know when to stake my claim of true love. Challange me and I will beat you down with no second thought. He sensed this and left at high speed in great fear. I am 40, and have had a number of fake loves of early youth, but never the less, they were essential to my fate and development, bringing my spirit too a low weary depression, even as they mean nothing too me now.

Perhaps I should describe further the extended conflict of ten mintutes that raged between us, but all that matters is that I both instructed him in the ways of true love as well as tell him to beet it and never come back. I am a god of recompense, I give fortune too those whom I choose, if they do my bidding, and he did so, leaving in a great haste, in the observance of all who saw that I was shewing him away.

In Promethian fire, I declare that love first learned in a lady's eyes, giveth too every power a double power. But valour is not as Hercules, still climing trees in the Hesperedies. It comes finally too a man of age and recompense, who has know heartbreak and dispare, for the sake of one that you loved truly. If it is not so, then you are a slave to a stupid girl that will manipulate you in every way, for ever more.

 

I've been cheated on and lied too a million times...but this time it seems different...she pours her heart out to me when shes upset she has never lied to me that i have caught and anything i ask about her she awensers truthfully...i dont think shes going to manipulate me in anyway.

 

Her honesty is a very good thing. If she lies too you, even once, drop her like a hot potato. But as long as she does not, you are in good company.

Just remember that you are too young to find true love, even as love is something that you must perpetually seek without reservation or fear, until you are old enough to dismiss such things in pursuit of purely masculine endeavors of financial and political/social status, in order to make a place for the raising of children. You are obviously like me, a man of nurturing spirit who will someday feel a pressing urge to raise children, and as such you are required to take care of mundane financial matters and make a place in this world for yourself, but not so much for yourself as for the expensive endeavor of wanting children that will be safe in your care.

When that time comes, you will seek a younger girl, not an older woman. When that time comes you will be well aware that you are much too old to seek older women any longer. But women are complex things that must be studied in great detail, and in turn you will show this one what kind of man she truly seeks, such that it is an equal exchange, not a usage, for there are few men like us in this pathetic world. She will always be graced by the memory of her love with you that lead her to the man that she truly seeks, and as you grow older you will be much too busy to have had any regrets about what you left behind, even if she does not learn these lessons from you and does not heed the call to find an older man of great caring such as yourself… That is her choice and fate, not yours. Do not look too far ahead into the future, simply explore and enjoy, with the appropriate trepidation that you do, the pleasures, and the misery, that love brings now.

I am still wandering even now, that pretty little blond I spoke of quickly proved herself unworthy, even as I have vouchsafed her honor at this time. I have already decided that I am done with her, for she has already tried to manipulate me in ways that repulse me. Perhaps in time you will discover that your love is not as innocent as you think either, for innocence and honor are not things that come easily to females.

As I said, when the time comes, and other girls discover your enormous masculine power, even within your gentle caring soul (and such things are truly indeed that mark of enormous masculine power) you may find that she is more manipulative than you had imagined. You must play the field, even as it hurts to think of breaking any heart, but their hearts are not like ours. They are creatures driven by instinct, that is both their power and their weakness. This gives them enormous emotional power, such as young men can scarcely imagine, and so the breaking of our own weak hearts is nothing that they can imagine, anymore than we can imagine the enormous emotional power contained within the unruly instincts of the female psyche. Only after you have done a thorough study of this alien feminine psyche will you truly be ready to find one that can properly raise children of your own.

It is an ancient knowledge, agreed too by all caring ancestresses, as my grandmother drilled into me over and over, that a man must marry a younger girl, and must play the field. Caring ancestresses know the evil that lurks in the heart of every untamed girl, and so warn against being taken by the first that crosses your path. With great emphasis they do warn as such. If you have shown her, unquestionable, who the boss is, then it is a relationship that will last, otherwise, she will turn on you when you least expect it, at your worst moment.

 

This is one of the saddest things I've ever read. I pity you, I really do, because you'll never really understand any woman. Maybe you're trying to rationalize your own heartache. That's human nature, we all do that. But if that's the case, you've taken that rationalization way too far. Whatever started this horribly dark way of thinking about and seeing women, I hope one day, in some life, you figure out the truth. Right now you're just sad. This is BEYOND sexism. It's just sad.

 

(The above was directed towards mike, not travis-- travis, it sounds like you know whether or not you're in love.)

 

damn why arent all guys that deep.. eh idk about the appetite loss but about being in love with this girl - you are DEFINATELY infatuated with her and just let it stand and grow k my aunt and uncle are in their fifties and have been together since she was 15 and he was like 16 so who cares about what people say if you really feel this deeply about this chick and she feels the same way then sweet deal you are on your way to something amazing. but that appetite thing really probably is nerves of wanting to impress her which may not be related to love ..could just be an insecutrity or soemthing... well best of luck to you two tho!!

 

I used to have that feeling for my b/f too when i thought about him.
I couldnt eat or sleep well.
I was falling pretty hard for him.
But after a while i only felt that way when we fought.
But now it never happens again.