Trying to see eye to eye with my folks

Alright i have no clue where to start .

* When i was born i was premature... As i was growing older my mother was very distant with me because i had health problems. So now my problem lies with
* "oh well you can't do that, because your hand, (i have Cerebral palsy) doesn't work that well. Only i know for a fact if it really does right? How does she know ??

She wants a pity party for herself.
Than my sister gets everything. I have to fight for everything in my life and she gets everything VK's and all. Mind you she has to work her butt off but mom goes everywhere with her and mom won't even talk to me. I have not done anything to my mother accept come out of her and ball my eyes out when i seen her ugly face (i'm so mad at my mother right now) Than everything i try to do isn't good enough, but anything my sister does is like bow down and kiss her ass shes a lil friggin princess who's spoiled. I don't get it. What is wrong. Yes i'm 25 I'm not whining but it seems like my family can't accept me for who i am on the inside and yes i may have self esteem issues but i just can't read them. I live in one city and they live in another. They make me feel so bad for having CP because sometimes they say "well don't you think that will be too hard for you hunny, well i don't know lets see we'll ind out now won't we" Its like they know it will be too hard for me even though i haven't tried it. I took ballet and jazz, and mom was like oh no you can't do that .. that is too fast for you . Mom i'm 23 well i took it she was shocked. Its like i have to prove everything.

Advice?

 

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh god that sounds familiar..lol i'm a quadriplegic myself but i do way more then most people, but yea everytime i travel, or when i told em i want to live in a bus or teepee or everything about my lifestyle choices comes back to a negative reaction.
both my bro & sis have relatively easy lives & are constantly showered with expensive gifts while my lifes a constant struggle & i'm made to feel guilty if they buy something for $1 for me (i dont ever want anything from them though)

advice? dont worry about it..you'll do fine on your own & you dont need theyre approval, live the best life you can, dont accept limmits placed on you by those who dont even try to understand & just feel happy being who you are

are you happy with what u accomplished & the life u made for yourself?
if so, whats it matter what she thinks?

 

Thanks man. I thought i was the only one. HEEHEE. Not too sound rude but my sister gets showered with everything new beds furniture computers livingrooms sets lawns furniture etc oh btw it was leather and i asked my mom if i could get her cabinet and she was like ahhhhh no.


I was like fine than i'm putting it in your will i don't care .. lmao.
Shes like Funny.
I love her cabinet. Its HUGE!
And i asked my mom (my step mom is more the mther to me than my biological) if we can go on a trip together and she shrugged it off like "well you know i have lots of things to do you know. But shes going to Vegas with my sister. She makes no sense.

My Step mother is such a nice lady. I never thought my dad would meet a lady herself. I send her mother day cards not step mother cards just plain mother day cards thinking of you cards etc. Shes the one that got me ready for my own wedding ... <thought my bio mom was supposed to do that> no intrest. I'm not looking at the past but its about time my mom kicked in and realized i'm 25 and by the time my children are old enough they will realize whats going on and if i have any of my own than what do i do not intrtoduce them to her . That is just totally insane. I'm so hurt . I just a guilt trip Oh Teri Give it up stop complaining your such a suck all you are is negative. But its so true. All i want is my family to see me for me. And its like i have to prove to them WHO i am and i'm not going to do that i don't have to prove to anyone. My own husband knows what i am capable of and he accepts me for who i am but my own mother can't thats pretty sad if you ask me. Thanks for reading

 

i just want to say soaringeagle, you are the nicest person in this forum, you always have positive things to say and it's a pleasure to read your posts. and as for poem girl, don't live to please people who otherwise cannot be pleased . for god sake they are your family.why even bother trying to please them, please yourself first.

 

Who told you life was fair? If you continue to hold all this resentment you will be the one to regret it. You can't control others only yourself.

 

Thanks haid