people people - I can't deal with people

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Why do poeple *ASK* you questions about your personal life? "How's Ben?" "Hows your job"? "How are youir sisters?" "what are you working on these days" "How is that coming" -- My life is all fucked up you know that - so don't ask me about it - trouble is - I have a really hard time finding an answer that doesn't show that getting asked about this personal stuff bothers me... and people are funny if you stop sharing intimate shit - they take it personally. But, hey its not your business. Why do you feel you are entitled to information about my personal life, & thoughts & feelings... (sometimes I think people ask this shit to feel superior, kind of like, it helps them think "Oh poor fucked up you - glad I don't fuck up my life")
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I can't spend time abound two kinds of people - people I know really well, & people I don't know very well. My life is fucked, I don't want to talk about it, and I have nothing else on my mind - that's why I go out in the woods & lite up. I'm about to run out & I can't reach the girl I usually deal w/ - so I'm paranoid she's avoiding me.

people man, people.
myself included

 

seriously, if anybody has some advice on how to be social without blabbing about what bothering you, I'd really appreciate it.

 

keep it out of mind. other people are only trying to make dumb conversation, trying to be nice. You could fill all those awkward moments with real conversation if you want. You could also lie and say everything's great, i'm fine. that's what I do.

 

Most people really don't care about your personal life, they're just trying to make conversations to avoid the awkward silence found when two people who know each other meet.

 

i have personal problems and when people ask me i'm like 'i'm fine how are you?' and immediately direct the convo towards them

 

Yea, people who make small talk and ask prying questions tend to love talking about themselves. Once you can turn the attention over to them and they take the bait you should be good. People are pretty annoying, but fortunately they're also very easy.

 

The BEST thing you can do is be yourself, i know, i know, it seems childish but it works for me. Show everyone who you are and what you stand for, and if they dont like it then FUCK THEM. Talk about what you want, what you like, what you want, what you believe, and again, what you stand for.

 

Yeah I think Metal is right....
I always get the feeling that when people ask about my personal life..its like they arent asking because they care, theyre asking to be nosey and to see how much better they are doing than me.

I totally understand where you are coming from, Layla, and because of that...I cant give any advice. Im not social..at all..but I dont have a desire to be either.

 

i guess i would be one of these people who ask these kind of questions. If i know you, i do it out of sincereness,if im first meeting you it might just be to get some convo going,but i do this in hopes of possibly getting to know you better. If ppl know your life is messed up and still ask you about it, then they are just assholes. Just tell them you rather not talk about it, it should turn them off the subject.