Well I'm a female Sagittarius with a Leo Rising & my best friend is a male Gemini with a Scorpio Rising (Aka PMS 24/7) We're the type of friends that can joke around about anything & not be hurt by it because we know we're just joking with each other. Some people think we're big jerks because we're honest but sometimes we can just hate each other. That's my problem right now. I care about him ALOT & I KNOW he cares about me probably alot more. But we NEVER tell each other. It's like we walk around with this tension but we cannot bring ourselves too reveal how much we care. He does all these little things that shows he care & I do too but I can never outright say it. I can't give him that power over me, on the other hand I trust him with my life. So that if i do tell him I know he won't hurt me, unless I hurt him. So he won't use it against me, but he'll take little jabs at it when he's playing around, but if I do hurt him he'd tottally expose me. It's complicated, I'd do the same to him, even though I care, he's get what he deserves. So right now, he's not talk to me, & I'm defeniatly not going to speak to him first. We go threw this at least once every 2-3 months. So I have two choices. I can tell him I care about him & ask him about how he feels about me. Or tell him how much I hate him & don't want to put up with him anymore. I don't love him, but I understand him. I don't love him, but I can see myself spending the rest of my life with him. I don't want him, but I need him. What the heck is wrong with me? I have no idea what to do. A part of me wants him out & a part of me needs him there. What the heck do I do???!!??! His Bday June 20th 1990, 4:30pm, Windsor Ontario Canada My Bday November 30th 1990, 11:05pm, Windser Ontario Canada
Please ppl, I just want to know if we're even fit to be together? or are we trying to hard & this is never going to work out?
This sounds like a really complicated situation and I'm not exactly how astrology can help it. I do know that his behavior is very typical of a Gemini--they often dissappear for a little bit and then resurface just as if nothing ever changed. I dated a Gemini and found this to be very true. The other this about them is that they love their independence and will run at the first hint of responsibility or committment. Be careful and good luck!
Well I was just wondering if we're compatible depending on our dates of birth. Or if he has any significance of being in my life, depending on my birth chart. (If that could even be fingured out?)
You are still very young. You will sooner or later have to stop playing games and open your heart. You'll probably be hurt. But that is how we grow. Why do you fear others having power over you? As to whether or not you are both destined to be together, I wouldn't really worry about it. If two people really want to make it work, they will find a way. But usually what happens is that one just gives up. Enjoy what you can while you can; appreciate the other person while you can. And if you break up after being in love, remember the love and forget the hurt. Every person is unique, every person will teach you something about life. Astrology would say that your choice would be an Aquarius, while his is a Taurus. But, then astrology would say that your life view is one of having fun (5th house Sun). [ http://koti.mbnet.fi/neptunia/essays/hh63.htm ] His Sun in the 8th may make him become more of a deep thinker, preferring spiritual quests. [http://www.dkfoundation.co.uk/BookKarmaHouse8.htm ]
I've been taking advantage of too many times in my life, being kind & generous to others never really got me anything good. So I just don't trust anyone anymore, either I have complete control over them or I'll never open up completely. && Thanks for the advice , & links.
You are young too, so committment might be a problem between the two of you as both of your signs love independence. If it is meant to be, it will be. I don't think you should worry about it, because the gemini is probably in relationships until they get older. As far as knowing if you two fit together, I agree that you do. I am a gemini who tried to date a sagitarius. The problem was committment on both of our parts. It was a fun, very short lived romance that probably never would have worked. As much as we had in common as friends, he was not what I wanted in a lover or boyfriend.
Yes, you've been hurt. But your having control over others will not mean that you have control over your life, your having control over others may hurt them just as you have been hurt. So what's the gain? You can't fall in love while trying to keep control. That is not the way love works. And your not willing to allow yourself to open up will stop you from falling in love. The end result may be lonliness and bitterness. But that is probably many years away. One should be kind and generous only because that is their nature. If you are being kind and generous to get something from someone else, then it will just boomerang on you.
