well, here's the thing. my boyfriend and i started having sex, and one night we got drunk and forgot to use a condom. i was a lot more wasted than he was, and he started freaking out, saying that he should have used a condom. i was completely hammered and couldn't take him or the fact that there was a possibility of pregnancy. he started to get mad at me and i got serious and told him off for it. then i told him that my father was a wuss and ran away when he got my mother pregnant. he promised that we would stay together for pregnancy if i got pregnant. that was yesterday. today, he took me to planned parenthood to get an emergency contriceptive pill. on the way i told him i felt like an evil person for killing a baby because of how i myself was an accident and he got mad and told me that we couldnt have a child while i'm still in high school. because his mother is now giving him problems about this, and he's just trying to move out of his house and such what with his graduation, i got the pills. but what i'm really afraid of is, did this whole thing make us closer, or pull us apart? i can't tell, i don't know what to expect from the whole ordeal. anyone have any advice? anything that might help? i really don't want to lose him, because he's very important to me and we've spoken about things like marriage and our future together - we're hoping to move in together as well. is there anything i can do to make it clear that i love him a lot and to fix any messes i could have caused? thanks so much for your help, in advance. peace<3
This scenario is quite common, but, a baby would do nothing to strengthen your relationship with this man. It would debilitate you in so many ways. Taking the pill was a good choice, as you are still in highschool, and probably have many dreams to persue. Don't feel badly for taking the pill...it was in your best interest. As for fixing the problem, there is no answer to this question. You are young, and he is as well, but try to be mature about the situation. Try not to dwell on it, and move forward. You and your mate may one day have a family...but now is not a good time to start!
Take a good look at the reasons you felt like this, try and relate them in as many ways as you can. Its a good hobby to get into, you will discover new things about the people around you and yourself. Like your boyfriend freaked, was that cause he was worried for u, might have got u into trouble, was worried about the sort of commitment that he might have been in for? ect. Have a good think about why and then try and relate this, then when u have thought this through for a few days, you can ask simple questions, like, u thought what it would be like to have kids ect. Its a really good habit to get into, and once it becomes second nature you will find it makes a lot of other decisions easier to. Its one of the most important skills in life you can learn. If it seems second nature to you just ignor, just friendly advice, might help other people out there 2. Cheers Mick
Unlucky: The thing bringing us closer wouldn't have been having baby, necessarily, but it would have been the whole scenario of deciding what to do, going to Planned Parenthood, and taking care of the situation. I don't know if that in itself would scare him away or not. Mick: You're right, he's a very worrying person. He was quite nervous the whole day. I don't think it was so much commitment though... Well, we're supposed to go to dinner tonight, so afterwards we'll be able to talk. I'm positive something will come up about this. Hehe. Thank you both, I'll get right to talking to him.
drinking, unprotected sex and pregnancy??? what ever happened to schoolwork, safe sex and responsible drinking(like a legal drinking age)?????so sad
I'm in honors classes at my school, and I'm hardly ever drinking. It was also the first time without a condom, just put all of that out there.
Hey, if you take an emergency pill you don't kill a baby, the baby isn't created yet. It takes soem time after the sex, so chill abut that.
