i am new to the idea of anal sex and my guy is a big ass guy and wants to try it with me. i want to try it but the first time i tried it it hurt to much. i was wondering if there are any tips anyone could give me. i know one major one is to relax but any others.
Start with a finger or small butt plug. It takes a lot of patience and a lot of lube (silicone based is the best if you dont use condoms). Tell you guy not to be worried if he cant fuck you in the ass for a few times. It takes time. You have to communicate and go slow. If you can learn to relax you've got half the battle won. It took me a LONG time to get me girl to be able to actually enjoy it and get off by me and not have any discomfort what so ever from it. Its great!
silicone based lube still works with condoms btw, its just oil based products (ie vaseline) that are horrible for condoms (eats through em)
My advice is to tell him to piss off ! I know I am a guy but even if I was a beanie I would not let some guy put his wodge up my ass crack
relax and take along time getting there, tbh you may just not enjoy even once there is no pain, my gf just finds it uncomfortable so i don't push the subject anymore!
Everybody already told you this but here is goes again : *Relax. There 2 sets of muscles around your anus, one set that u can control and another one that you can't (without practice that is). As soon as the muscles sense that there is something trying to get inside ur body, their automatic reaction is to close. Relaxing is the only way to change the behavior of the muscles.. if you try to have anal sex while the muscles are contracted, you may end up having internal damage. *Warm up. Lots of people make the big mistake of going "all the way" since the first time. Unless you're used to things going inside your body, you're anus will not be streched enough to take up something as big as a penis. Have him use his fingertip first, then half a finger, then a whole finger, then a bigger finger, etc etc till u're strechy enough. *Lubricate. Unlike the vagina, the anus does not produce it's own natural lubricant. You need to make sure that you're lubricated when you're having anal sex. Even if you're muscles are relaxed, the friction alone can produce pain. I use a brand of lubricant called "Astroglide", it's one of the best and most common brands of lubricant out there, pretty easy to find too. I've seen how it preforms and that's why I recommend it. Also, it's water-based so you don't have to worry about damage to condoms. *Mind Set. Am gonna be 100% honest with you. Even if you do all the things that I mentioned above, there may still be a little bit of pain (not extreme pain, but some). It's kinda like loosing your virginity... for some girls it hurts like hell and for other girls it's completely painless but after a couple of times everything is completely fine. Hope everything works out. Good luck!
thank you all youve been very helpful i will try and go slowly im starting to get more into since ive never done it before
Play with it while you're having regular sex for a while. Hop on top on pop and have him finger away. After a bit, you can do the switchy changey no problem. But don't forget to lube that bitch up. Platinum WET for the world.
