Hi all, I'm a Chinese girl, here looking for help ... Thing is ... I think I'm gay though I've never been with another girl .. people have their own feelings right ? so I think I know myself. As you know ... China is a kind of conservative country ... no one knows that I'm attracted to girls ... I've never told anyone ...include my friends, my family ... cos I'm scared ... I'm afraid I would lose them if I ever let them know it. Although I also hope they could accept me for who I really am ... i just still can't try it ... what if they really don't ... sigh and I probably have to marry a guy in the future ... someone I might not be able to fall in love with... it's just for my family .. for the society ... and I feel like I don't have my own life ... Is there anyone in the similar situation with me ? gay? have to marry ? message me please
I don't have much to add but wanted to add a reply as support. I know of someone in a VERY conservative country who could simply NEVER come out and his situation is very upsetting. I know this may sound impossible and perhaps it is different in China, but there are Gay communities in very conservative countries also. It's a case of finding them, however I don't know if it's that wise to look for them because certain countries have EXTREMELY harsh laws or customs against people who are gay. I know of a couple in the UK who are from an Asian background, The expectation is to get married and what a lot of Asians are doing here is placing adverts to find gay opposite sex partners. I have no idea what the possibility of that would be in China but good luck to you and I hope you find a way to find happiness.
you go girl- fight the man. if i was you, and i wanted to tell my friends and family, the conservativeness of my country couldn't stop me. you should tell people you trust. if they dont like you for who you really are, they were never your friends to begin with.
Ok I know nothing about China, but dtrez09 I do know that in England I think about 20 years ago it stopped? But it was against the law to be gay.
