I wasn't sure where to put this so i put it in the relationship section, if you don't want to read how I ended up just skip to the bottom and read the last couple of paragraphs where I ask the question on how to handle my current situation. Hi guys(and gals ). Well just to tell you a bit about myself, I'm 18 5'7 with brown hair. This past year I've stuggled quite a bit but now I am back on my feet and heading to college in the fall. I moved quite a bit this year, and now I am back where I started. Here is the story cut down quite a bit, leaving out some things that don't matter. Last summer I moved to Kentucky and would be a senior in this new school. I stayed there for about 1month/ 1 month & 1/2. After that I moved back to my old school and stayed with a friend. Just recently I moved back to Kentucky( where I am living now). Well long story short I do not know but one person currently living here. The person I know is a girl I sat next to in physics class, she is pretty and I think seems to be attracted to me. But I am unsure because I havn't dated at all( i'm a virgin and have never kissed a girl really). Anyway, this girl saw me driving, when she was going to work, and started yelling my name out of her window, so I waved. I ran into her again at the library, but I did not ask for her number because I noticed she was with a guy( I thought he was her boyfriend). A week or two passed and I went to the mall on mothers day with my mom and bought her an ice cream cone. We (mom) decided she would want to walk around the mall. She decided to walk into one store, which I followed her in. It just happened the girl I kept running into was now working there. I talked to her and got her number and we have hung out a few times. Here is where I am getting confused on what to do. She tells me she thinks I'm cute and attractive, however she doesn't want to date. She broke up with her boyfriend in March after dating him for a 1 1/2 years. Anyway we hang out a bit more and I take her to see pirates. Since this whole dating thing is new to me and i get a bit anxiety and do not know what to do. She said she was cold. I offered to go get my jacket in the car and she said she was fine. I said ok and about 10-15 minutes later she says she is cold so i put my arm around her. She then says she has to go to the bathroom( right after i put my arm around her, whats that about?!?!). Anyway the movie ends and it is about 1:00 a.m. I tell her good night and so far I havn't seen her in a week. So I ask you guys this, is she being a tease, trying to be a friend, or what? I am attracted to her and I am just very unsure what to do. She also jokes with me and touches my arm when she talks. I think she is being quite flirtatious, but it might be her personality? I find it funny how I kept running into this girl, it is a very reasonable sized town. I am getting to the point to where i just long for physical contact and I just want to experience dating and girls. :-O
shes unsure about what she wants, your unsure about what you want... neither of you are willing to take the lead and so youre both stumbling round one another. blind leading the bilnd and all
this doesn`t seem serious but i`ll respond anyway.. she just came out of a relationship 2-3 months ago.. give it some time. if she is holding back, it`s for a reason, respect that.
I agree. J-red, this girl sounds young, and she sounds like she is still healing from her break-up. Touching your arm as she talks to you is a good sign. It means she trusts you and is attracted to you. Don't be too worried she excused herself to go to the bathroom after you put your arm around her. I don't think she's teasing you, I think she's just a little overwhelmed that a new guy is interested in her! Be slow and patient, and I think you'll win this girl over. Good luck!
You're both young and curious. Make sure it's what you really want (and not some phase) and let her come around.
