Why that slightly heavy girl is hot (while others are not)

haha this thread is still kicking?

 

Well, if that's really you in the picture then I can see why you don't have trouble in that department. You're gorgeous.

 

No, guys just like boobs, period. Some like 'em big, some like 'em small, but all of us like boobs..

 

You know what's crazy? I've struggled with eating disorders and a distorted self image most of my life...I am obsessed with wanting to be thin, and I know that no matter how thin I am, I'll always feel "fat".

Anyway.

The crazy thing is, despite my obsession with my own body/weight, I personally don't find super skinny women attractive at all. When I notice a curvy woman, one with a little meat on her bones, I think, wow, she's beautiful. If only I felt that way about myself, huh?

 

boobs are a great thing. maybe I think all guys like big boobs because I usually end up with guys who love big racks...I don't know why that is d:

 

Uh..maybe because you have big boobs?

 

Well I'm a women and I'm about 65-75lbs overweight and men still seem to find me very attracive.

I have a big belly but for my size, I have very toned arms and thighs and butt...I work outside a lot, exercise, ride horses...I still have an obvioius waist even at 5ft3, 200lbs.

I think many men are naturally attracted to larger women...

I'm curious as the why the original poster felt the need to specify women who were only slighly overweight.

I used to be 120lbs...and I honestly have far more men interested in me now than I ever did.

I think it's because I come across as confident, sexy, and fun.

We don't give men enough credit...they are not all little cookie cutter stereotypes looking for a super model.

Many of them like women of various different builds and I genuinely feel that when looking for a long term partner, men place a LOT of stock in personality.

I do think there's some truth to the idea of "fat chicks try harder" though. I know all of these skinny chicks that get hit on at work...but when I talk to some of them, I find out they don't suck cock, if they do, they don't swallow, they don't do anal, they don't do anything kinky at all. They want to have sex once a week with the lights off. WTF? Give it to me 3x a day and anyway ya want it!

I know my body isn't my biggest selling point...but by gods, I'm going to do what makes my man happy in the bedroom and I don't care HOW nasty, perverted, disgusting it might be. I want to please him.

Oh and just for fun, two pics of me...yeah I KNOW I'm cute. I'd slap the hell out of someone who acted ASHAMED of being attracted to my 200lbs of hotness!

 

So you judge your PLATONIC friends by their physical appearance? Yeah, that's real mature.

I understand that different men are attracted to different things...and I don't hold it against a man for preferring thin girls.

But to judge your PLATONIC FRIENDS by their appearance? That's the epitome of ignorance.

I tend to judge my FRIENDS more by the content of their characters then on how fuckable I consider them to be.

 

LOL. spooner is a shallow uni kid with a drug problem who posts in these forums. You can't really expect decency.

 

Just noticed this thread has life in it, and I couldn't resist posting my thoughts again...

Since my last post I've lost a bit of weight. I'm 5'5", and had been floating in the neighborhood of 230-240. I'm now down to about 185. (Disclaimer: I didn't do this for any interpersonal reasons, but simply because I wanted to manage my health better. I haven't even been insane about it - no portion control or calorie counting, no insane exercise. I've just been making healthy dietary decisions and staying active throughout my day).

Throughout this weight loss, my *shape* has not changed a lick. I'm naturally a large person, and because of this (probably along with the fact that all my weight gain was gradual and not accompanied by child-bearing, etc.) my fat is generally pretty evenly dispersed. As I've lost some, it's come off pretty evenly as well. So I'm still my same curvy self (44,35,45 - just checked) but a little smaller than I had been.

My love loves me as always, nothing has changed on that front except that time passing makes us happier together, always. But I have noticed subtle changes in the way others react to me. I get hit on more by random people and men (I'm in the southern US, remember) go way out of their way to open doors for me. I really don't think my attitude has changed a lick, and I've asked those I spend most of my time with - they don't think I've changed either. I think maybe I've just crossed some threshold, where most men look at me and instead of just seeing a fat girl they see those curves.


Dunno. But back t the discussion about labels and such that was mentioned earlier. Someone accused everyone of mislabeling "fat" girls as chubby, overweight, voluptuous, etc.... Now, in a conversation a week or two back, I identified myself as "fat girl". I was talking to people who know me and who know they can be brutally honest with me, and they all emphatically disagreed, saying I'm no longer a "fat girl" but have decidedly shrunken to the realm of the "chubby". What do you think of that?

 

she's FLAWED? excuse me but what the fuck does that mean? i think being 10-15 pounds over what the US considers "overweight" is actually quite healthy. there's no FLAW in being slighty "overweight". the FLAW is in what our country considers to actually BE overweight.

 

^^ I fully agree there! for my height, most medical charts, etc. found in the U.S. would say that my ideal weight is 105-120 lbs. In reality for me though, the lowest healthy weight I think I could ever achieve (and actually be *healthy*) is probably around 150. Which according to American medical standards is overweight. When will they learn that we're all different, and have different standards of "healthy"?

 

good for you!! i quit breastfeeding, now my weight is just sorta dropping off. i'm trying to get to 140. i'm an in-between sort. anything under 140 and i start looking hollow. it's kinda gross. it's always annoyed me that those silly charts say i should be grotesquely thin and totally without muscle. i'm pretty muscular. i'll just by what i see in the mirror, and i gotta say, i weigh the same as you, and am the same height, and i think i'm looking pretty damned good. if the attention i'm getting is anything to go buy, apparently loads of other people think so, too.

(and it's easier to play with my daughters at the playground now, too)

 

I've got the piece of paper, hun. It's now shallow law-school student with a history of coke abuse and a hefty drinking problem. I'm still pretty shallow though, I just do it drug-free now.

My male friends I do. Or how fun they are. Or something.

 

So you're saying that females can't be fun to hang out with unless they're fuckable? That makes no sense....I have tons of friends of the opposite gender that I just hang out with and we have a blast.

 

It isn't reversible like that. For women, weight comes with weird personality complexes that I don't like dealing with.

Of course that is a generality, but hell, I don't have to be friends with everybody. I know too many people as it is.

 

I completley agree. When I was really heavy I was not a very fun person to be around and was very insecure. The only reason i want to lose weight now is so I will be more self-assured as I am very happy with the way I look. I just associatte extra weight with people assuming I have little self-control.
I do not have any friends who are significantly overweight and the one relationship I was in with someone heavy was awful at times because of his insecurities. I think I owe it to who I am with to look good and not gain weight. I know he doesn't think that way and is super understanding, but imo it's like buying a porsche and after signing the papers walking away from the dealership with a Hyundia. When my bf and I were just friends I was 20 pounds less than I am now and I think I owe it to him to get back down to that weight, even though he totally disagrees because he is such a gentleman.

 

i don't have weight related personality complexes. i rock.

 

well you're not that heavy. you truley are just voluptous-not fat

 

well, i USED TO have issues. i will give up that much. now i just have the after-affects. but as to having problems with it or any sort of self-hate or inability to be seen naked, not a problem. but i think that would be pretty clear by now.