This isn't anger and this isnt a complaint..well maybe a little bit of a complaint. Next year Im going to go to grade 12 and there is so much pressure to choose what you want to do from everyone, even the people I dont know. To be honest I dont have a clue. I was just talking with my parents who mean well and have the purist intentions! But when I was talking about how I wanted to do something I enjoy that doesn't pay well verses something that pays amazing and I hate. I also mentioned taking a year off after high school IF I dont have things figured out.They discussed how money was important to pay bills taxes clothes food rent etc. And I understand that you need money to survive in this world. And that I would come running back to them for money, and how that I could probably never live the way i want to. How society doesnt work that way, as if I have to live with the same morals and values as society. But I feel like I have been crushed all my hopes and dreams. I tired to explain how I wanted money to pay my bills and such and not worry about it. About how I place more value on human life the soul, and not the material aspect of it. Because when I die no one is going to care how much money I made, they are going to care about the type of person I was. So we went on to talk about what my parents wanted to do... My dad wanted to be on of those guys who jumped out of helicopters to save people...but he didnt... he works with his father and he hates it. My mom wanted to go back packing through Europe but couldn't because when her father died she and her siblings had to pay rent to keep their house. It reminded me of part of a Pink Floyd song (comfortably numb) The child is grown,the dream is gone. I mean if my mom REALLY wanted to, maybe not then, but one day she could have back packed through Europe. Saved up for a few years and went. My dad could have had his dream job, but I guess (I dont know he never said why he didnt do it) he was pressured into working with his father because of this stupid honor thing his family does. I mentioned once to my mom that I wanted to be a humanitarian and help people in 3rd world countries and she said to me I CAN'T! Her reason if I went I would get raped and killed. I just wish my parents would support what I want to do with my life and not tell me how or when I should live my life.
If your parents don't support you, so what? If you truely believe in yourself and your dreams, it doesn't matter who supports you, all that matters is that you believe in yourself... Sheesh, I sound like an after school special...
one year ago yesterday i graduated from high school.... and i still don't know what i want to do with my life. i have some ideas, but i had more ideas once upon a time, ideas which i more than likely won't be pursuing. my parents have told me many things.... but i don't know if i've yet listened to anything they've said haha.
Brand New Soul: I can see the conflict your faced with. It's still a little early for you to make choices of what you are going to do with the rest of your life. At your age the idealism of saving the world and helping people in backward 3rd world nations sounds great. But in the real world what does a 18 year old girl fresh out of high school have to offer. You've never been on your own, never earn anything to pay your bills, haven't acquired a trade or skill which is marketable or any use to anyone. Yes, I probably sound like your parents, because I am one. My youngest is now 31. I had a agreement with our kids, if they went to college or a trade school after high school I would continue to support them. But if they wanted to hang out and party, they had to pick up the tab. Not to worry, a lot of things can change in the next year........
alot of college graduates never even enter the field they were studying for. but to skip college is crazy now a days. i would have given my left arm to be able to further my education. and if you don't go to school how will you be supported??? do you expect your parents to support your living expenses????the time is now.so in this year off from school what is it you plan on doing if you don't mind me asking????
I'm torn on this one. Your parents give you that advice cuz they luv ya, but I've been there, done that. There were many things my parents tried to turn me off of because they were worried about what would happen to me, and I pursued (while still maintaining a pretty positive relationship with them) and have had many amazing life experiences. They came around, and respect and admire the things I have done and choices I have made, but I had to do it for myself, with NO support and realize that I'm the only one who will really understand my reasons for whatever it is that I want/decide to do. My best advice to you is to NEVER ignore the flame that burns inside. If you want to do work around the world, there are ways of going about getting there. I must admit, school may be a safe zone to explore your interests, meet some amazing peoeple, and alot of post-secondary institutions open doors to other things that may have an impact in your life, like travel abroad opportunities, for example. You could look into International Development, Economics, Peace Studies, Sociology, Anthropology, etc. etc the list goes on. But keep in mind at the same time that school isn't for everyone and an instutionally educated person is not the only person who can make money or help and make a difference in the world. Support and love yourself, sometimes that's all there is, but also consider your parents' perspective and how they just love you so very much and don't want to see you hurt. Keep them involved in all your plans and they may come around, just by seeing how much thought and research you are putting into your endeavours, and how you are responsibly covering every corner. Good luck on your path, and enjoy grade 12, there's much self-learning ahead! Peace energy.
