so the guy im basically with has a lowered sex drive. He usually doesnt want it and I'm just the kinda person whos up for it anytime. Usually he has to have some kind of buzz to get him in mood...alcohol does the trick but usually he drinks himself stupid and passes out...and when I drink I want it more and when he gets stupidfaced he complains if i try to put any moves on him. But when we do it, it's awesome, it's just that i would like it more. Soo does anyone have any suggestions or advice?
well i have been married for 21 years and when we were younger she wanted it like i did but now if i get it every 4 or 5 months im doing something so i have had to start trying to find it other places so my advice to you is think about it before you marry
I think you should talk to him about it, tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels. I think things are always made worse if they arent talked about as all kinds of thoughts get mixed up by keeping silent.
my guy has a pretty low sexdrive as well, we fight about it a lot actually. But yea whenever i am in the mood i try to get him in the mood to. What i did about a week ago was stopped asking him for sex, i didnt try to get him in the mood nothing, maybe a kiss here and there but just stopped grabbing and stuff. I dont know if that would work for you but in the end i got it 2 days in a row which is pretty rare in our case.
I dont know if this may count as an advice but... That happened to me in my previous relationship. Just the exact same thing you're telling up there. After the breakup, i found out he was gay. note: sex was amazing when it happened, how is it that he's gay? i dont know. This may not be the same situation (hope not) but you should talk to him about this and find out what's really going on. I dont think it's normal.
