all you need is love

all you need is love... I thought:nopity:
"but, will only love provide you food, flat, money, success....?", asked my mother.
"I don't care about that!", I replied. "All you need is love."

This dialog was said 2 years ago. Today, I'm exactly what my mother wanted me to be. And I HATE it.
I'm a law-student, dating with my excellent upper-class boyfriend and going out with my middle- class friends... I'm even engaged, can you believe it??:$

all my principles, all my old dreams, hopes, ... they don't exist anymore. I became a real 21st century fox

If only I were smarter and said no to my mother and the society. Im 20 years old and I feel like I'm 70... and what's even worse, I'm so young, but I feel life has stopped for me.

so, this is my plan- leave uni, leave my boyfriend, leave my control-freak mother, leave everything what I hate and despise... but then I'm facing the problem- what next? go where? do what?

If you feel smarter then me about this issue, please help:toetap:

 

You're right. After all, who knows things better than John, ey?

But it takes a lot of curriage to make the first step and to build a mind of my own and not to accuse everyone else except myself of making me the type of a person: "This isn't the life I ordered".
You're story and advise are really helpful, I see you're a brave, open-minded individual. I hope I will build the same attitude over the years.

 

I can agree with this, John did know best Oh John.

Anyways, I say go for it! Leave it all behind. That's exactly what I have done, and I'm so happy. =]

No one really understood, not my family [my mother especially], not my friends, and not society. No one got it. That you don't need tons of money, clothes, and accessories to be happy. Love. It really is all you need. And Peace, the little bit of it that we have today, is what keeps the world going 'round.

As for the 'what next', 'go where', and 'do what', don't think about it. Just be. Go where life takes you, whether it be to another state, or even a peace rally down at some park in the middle of nowhere. Go with the wind, seriously, I do that a lot, just follow the direction of the wind, and see where it leads you.

But whatever happens, just always remember that line; "Love is all you need." And with that in mind, you'll be happy =]. And of course, remember John, and you'll be even happier

I wish you all the best =]

 

Hey iz komsiluka

So, you're from Zagreb, right?..That's a big city which provides you many possibilities (this is related to the 'what's next' question) and you'll easily find the path you want your life to follow...You should change your enviroment and habits, meet some new people, learn new stuff (which I'm sure you can easily achieve in Zagreb) and soon you'll know what to do next....
I know how hard it is to make the first step into unknown, but if you feel that this is the right thing to do, then you should just close your eyes and jump
I just hope you'll be brave enough....
pozdrav

 

I'd say fuckitol™ too. There's always time down the road for the societal day job or picking up the schooling again.

Just out of curiosity though - who's footing your law school bill?

 

Luckily, I don't have to pay uni at all, that's the only good thing.
I wanted to study dramaturgy, but I wasn't accepted in the Academy and now I don't have any inspiration at all to start again and write new plays.

Sanja, pozdrav i tebi!

 

my mother was also an control freak.and it takes ages to get through to her not to meddle in my life and beliefs.and she still doesnt like it,but what the heck. you only get one shot a life so you got to make it how you want it.if you want to drop out of everything, than thats your choice.you go for it bumb blonde.ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE.

 

dumb blonde (dumb blonde) sorry spelling mistake.

 

Hello from someone who does NOT feel smarter than yourself, but may have more experience? Follow your dreams while your young. You only go around once in life. It would be great to have enough schooling to be able to find work when you wanted/needed it. Money certainly isn't everything, you cannot BUY happiness. But it does help to feed/cloth/keep a dry roof over your head. Maybe back away slowly, find some friends you REALLY trust that think like you do. Just be careful of those out to get what they can from you while pretending to be your friend.
Good luck and I hope you find your way....
Peaceful thoughts your way.... Farmout

 

I'm young. and yet i am facing the same problems. only i am trying to figure out wether or not to take the path with technology and modern life. to go to school or to not? to try and make it in America as something i feel i am not although i feel i am? you see??? i'm only a freshman in HS but it is time for me to conform or not to conform. So what is a girl to do? take it day by day! step by step! you cannot plan on something happening. i just go to school do my work get good grades and yet have faith and love and peace. i spread good cheer and i feel that that is all you have to do. after all the planets will not put you in a place you are not comfortable!
see you!

 

Maybe you can try it again. I mean.. to write plays. Hell, so you fell off the horse once, baby (big deal) get back on him and ride again. I mean..if that is your wish to write plays.

 

is it inevitable that we turn into our parents?

i keep telling myself, there is no way i will ever be like them, but i don't know who i will be in the next 10 years. i tell myself i will always have the same ideas and values as i do now, but maybe something crazy will happen to me

the last thing i want to do is conform


if this thread had a soundtrack the first song on it would be the subhumans' "ex teenage rebel"

 

How do we all not get sucked in?
I think you have to go wherever the wind blows you. If you think your "proper" life is stripping you of your identity, then by all means sever yourself! Follow your heart, it will show you what to do next. It might be frightening at first, but you'll gain confidence from the fact that you had the strength to do it in the first place.
You can only do what pleases others for so long. This life is too short to not love every minute of it.

 

Good for you. You should leave if you want to. Follow your dreams and escape while you can. I'm just 14 and already and my parents are making university plans for me. They want me to go to Cambridge. Cambridge? Like I'm ever gonna be smart enough to get in there! And even if I did get in all the really clever students would probably turn their noses up at me. I just want to go somewhere far away in the country. Somewhere where I can live outdoors with nature, surrounded by good friends who love me. Where I can dress as colourfully as I like, where I can bask in peace and relaxation, somewhere where I can be free.
Follow your dreams. Be who you want to be. Live your life.

 

Love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love.
There's nothing you can do that can't be done.
Nothing you can sing that can't be sung.
Nothing you can say but you can learn how to play the game
It's easy.
There's nothing you can make that can't be made.
No one you can save that can't be saved.
Nothing you can do but you can learn how to be in time
It's easy.
All you need is love, all you need is love,
All you need is love, love, love is all you need.
Love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love.
All you need is love, all you need is love,
All you need is love, love, love is all you need.
There's nothing you can know that isn't known.
Nothing you can see that isn't shown.
Nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be.
It's easy.
All you need is love, all you need is love,
All you need is love, love, love is all you need.
All you need is love (all together now)
All you need is love (everybody)
All you need is love, love, love is all you need.

 

I am a big advocate for following your heart, even if there seems to be no logic behind it. I had a transition period myself around your age.....i tried to do the things that I was "supposed" to do, but it just didnt feel right. So I took another path......My instincts and my heart have not failed me yet!!!!

....besides, whatever you decide to do, it should provide great material for a play!!!

 

Sage words from Janis:

Well I tell you that one day better be your life, man, because, you know, you can say, oh man, and you can cry about the other 364, man.
But you're gonna lose that one day, man, and that's all you've got. You gotta call that, man. That's what it is, man. If you got it today you don't want it tomorrow, man, cause you don't need it.

Cause as a matter of fact, tomorrow never happens, man.
It's all the same fucking day, man.

 

i see...
you have reached the point when your whole life seems disgusting and wrong...
when you dont feel free anymore
controlled...meeting someone's dmands...and not ypur own...
but i dont think yu should act so radically...
think it over...think what really spoils ypu life and what is essential for your new life...
good luck

 

oh yes..oh yes...

I recall this..
crazy Tiger

http://www.noolmusic.com/blogs/YouTube_Music_Videos_60s_70s_-_Beatles_-_All_You_Need_Is_Love.shtml

 

thank you all very much
these were advices I needed. Every person should follow his heart and control his own destiny, that's right. that's the most important characteristic of a human being, and one's should never forget that, because life without freedom and free will isn't life at all. then it's pure meaningless existance.

But, (there always this damn but) we live in the world in which being a hippy is a privilage, I dare to say. Afterall, regardless of frontiers, such is my mother etc., the last step is always mine. I do have dreams, hopes, ... but I still have some obligations. Obligations toward my family (which is... big:H, and I feel obligated to take care after my little brothers and sister, cause I'm the oldest, one day when my parents won't be able). I have obligations toward myself, as well. Quit, let it go, is the easiest. And I was never a coward in facing my problems.

Here's what I'll do; I won't leave the uni, but I won't leave my principles either. I'll still continue to write plays, novels, poems, and, maybe, one day after I'm done with uni, I can go to Acadamy to try my luck again. I won't be too old
It seems to me like a good compromise.