Overcoming psychological problems

Okay everyone, I'm about to reveal the big secret. It will only be helpful if you *Think* about it.
I cannot vouch that this would work for EVERY problem, but I know it works for laziness, fear, anxiety and depression. I have suffered (horribly) from all of these. There were times that I was just rolling around in bed holding my head suffering from headaches because i thought life was so hopeless, and a nightmare<< especially that. I thought i would maybe wake up, but i didnt.
so anyways, i tried using some anti depressants for a bit (not very long)
I've always been someone who thinks ALOT. Which is probably why I had most of these problems. I overanalyze EVERYTHING... but this has also done Alot of good for me, I've learned alot of things that people had to study for a lot of time to know, and just from thinking of it. When i went to councellors i started to notice that I knew more about psychology than they did somehow.. like i would ask questions about the human mind that i -semi- knew the answers to, but they were just blank..

So anyways, I'll get to it. When you feel depressed, or anxious or ... most anything else i can say, though i wont be completely positive on it... the thing you have to do is, is simply stop yourself and think.
I find people with depression (like myself) spend alot of time thinking about how they are depressed, how they cant do things, how bad life is... but all you need to do is stop... and... for lack of a better saying "Shet ep!" ... i dont mean that to be cruel. It's just that i have a funny way of talking outloud... where as i have a bad sense of humour
so whenever you start to think life sucks, just stop yourself and think, what's wrong?
a very grounding method, (meditation) is just counting your breath in and out. then you will become more clear. (in your head) count your breath -in, as you breath in. and -out, as you breath out.
then you find that you're able to talk to yourself in your head, and just look around you. You're probably just in your bedroom or outside somewhere. and that's all there is, what's there to be depressed about??
okayokay, i know what you're thinking, you got a bunch of things going on that suck, of course - everyone does. << i find this didnt help me at all, hearing everyone say "everyone has problems" in fact i would spite people who said it and scowl at them.
but what you have to think is, okay I'm here in my bed room. I can iether get out, walk around, get a glass of water, read a book, do some homework -whatever
If you're still young (and even if you arent) what's the worst thing that can happen? dont kill yourself, want to know why? ... okay, worst case scenario, you become a homeless person or something, right? so then you have no more responsibilities, YOURE FREE! just because you're homeless doesnt mean you need to sit on the side of a building. you find yourself homeless, get up and walk around and do shit, do anything. go in and ask ofr a job, and if they say no, then what? oh well... im sitll homeless, go do something extravogant.
In the WORST case scenario, you get old and hopeless, but then on the bright side you can do ANYTHING you have no more responsibilities anymore...

so anyways, i stopped taking my meds, i started to get alot more anxious, but then i just grounded myself and started to think, there's nothing wrong with it.... if anything meds seem like a bad thing to me becuase then suddenly i'm dependant on some pill instead of just living my normal life.
You always have the ability to think for yourself and do whatever you want. if you think you dont, you're just stuck in some odd loop, but you can always overcome it. The less you have, the less you have to lose, and the more freedom you have!
if you're in your room, you're depressed about sitting about... guess what?? get up! go do something then.
stuff in life will ALWays suck. but if you dont think about it and turn it in your own favor itll only get worse, just make yourself feel good, think about it. Where are you? in this EXACT MOMENT, what's wrong? you're feet aren't warm enough?!?

Good luck! And remember, just think -everything's okay- it's a much better substitute for everything sucks!

 

Hey everyone, i know that post is long.. i really tried to cover everything, and get you all to know that i was feeling the same at one point... If you REALLY dont want to read it all, then the jyst of it is just, stop and think about ur problems, realise you're just where you are right now, and whever, and there's nothing wrong. try just thinking of positive things as apposed to negative things. Yes this can seem like the hardest thing, but it's really not.. think of how many hard things there are in the world, just start with things you're grateful for. maybe you live in a bigger house than some people, you get good food. just start off that way. just try thinking positive as apposed to negatively, if you think negatively it starts to become everything. becuase if it's in your mind, its in your mind and there's nothing else but that.
anyways good luck!

 

sorry... didn't really have time to read it all, but I thought you might be interested in "mindfulness." It's along the lines of what you seem to be saying.

 

i don't want to go too far into what i've experienced, but meditation really can be key to overcoming certain psychological obstacles, like you said in your post.

buddhism and learning about the four noble truths and then about the eight-fold-path made me want to understand what buddha was talking about and meditation just calmed me down totally and i could sit and just observe, or sit zazen and as i meditated, true thoughts became clearer, and i I DID see through the things that were holding me down.

so meditation can be key

i never wanted meds, though. cannabis always leveled me out and made me stop and think about things from a different perspective and gave me insight into what was really going on. i agree with you, meds will make you dependent on them, and in the same way, cannabis will do that too. just develop positive thinking, positive action, positive vibrations everywhere to everyone and you will definately feel better because, like you said, you DO have to remember that you can do whatever you want to do.

yep.

 

you just discribed me. i understand but is it okay to abondem our emotionality. it is a plus at times. just a big minus at others.

I analyze everything

 

That is the most incredible post I have ever read,
on any board, anywhere.

Thank You

 

I recently was going through the same thing, depression , anxiety and life long low self esteem. For me the most crucial aspect of my slow recovery from a recent major depressive episode was therapy. Everyone is different in coping with their problems and it is best to evaluate YOURSELF and understand what makes you tick. Perspective is definetly the bridge between sickness and health and i agree with the earlier posts. I believe that things happen for a reason and we are in control of our own destiny. Realization and intention are tantemount to emotional well-being/stability. Family, Friends, therapy, cannabis, music, spirituality, determination, reading, excercise, mindfulness/consciousness are pieces to my emotional/spiritual puzzle. But we all have to put it all together, or else who will?

 

i over analyze EVERYTHING think all the time i think so much my head falls in my hand . hee. i ponder all day day dream.


Thank you very much

 

So true! This is exactly what is working for me. I thought it would be hard, but it's really not. By focusing on your probelems your just giving them more energy and feeding them. It's so simple really. The only airy thing is to not turn your negative thoughts into sugar and spice and go to the extreme positive side. Example, "I hate my life", don't say to your self the opposite "I love my life", Think and feel every little thing you have to be grateful for and then say an affirmation that you can really belive, such as "My life could be a lot worse, and I'm getting stronger every day. Things have to get bad before they get good."

 

That was a beautiful post Lemon_WashingMachine. Getting up and doing something beats complaining and feeling bad about why things suck.

Your post natural_philosophy also makes alot of sense. Positive thinking, actions, vibes seem to make a miserable world perhaps break out from its sulking in the corner and perhaps crack a giggle

 

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This right here is particularly good advice

stuff in life will ALWays suck. but if you dont think about it and turn it in your own favor itll only get worse, just make yourself feel good, think about it. Where are you? in this EXACT MOMENT, what's wrong? you're feet aren't warm enough?!?


Those of us that have experienced anxiety and real depresson often jump into the future I believe and you may have sad emotions and/or anxiety but if you really get in the now and realize there are always good things, it can help. Anything hope wise you can grab onto deserves focus.