Sacrificed sex for loyalty because i love her

sometimes people dont enjoy sex, or find a reason for it other than kids. maybe pleasure is less important than morals

 

CowboyBlue, you are a total pessimistic, arrogant, ignorant, and cold-hearted cock

do you get off giving people "advice" that only has potential to upset them or ruin their lives?
just cause you are sad and alone doens't mean everyone else should be
if you don't ahve anything positive to say, in a thread asking for help, why the fuck even post?

get the fuck outa here

 

by assuming she is fucking someone else?

you may not have been talking about yourself, but your diagnosis was quite filled with arrogance

I find it to be ignorant to be so pessimistic, however, I must admit that it would be ignorant for me to assume that as true necessarily

least we agree on something

and I'm not gonna even comment this one! :tongue:

the big deal is the crude way in which you delivered this advice

 

Also, he clearly doesn't want to leave her because he loves her. The only thing that's making him unhappy is the unsatifying sex life, which may be resolved through therapy. Leaving someone you love should only be a last resort.

 

Time to be happy.


Perhaps,the place to be happy may be somewhere & with someone else.
Realize, as an adult, you must choose how best to settle this matter.

 

Hmm...I'm not sure how my post here led you to think that I have this "crazy fantastic ideal about 'true love'". All the same, I can't find any fault in your advice for me so thanks.

Peace.

 

Im mailing this post link to her may be this will change my life.
I love you honey.

 

You don't think she'd mind that you've been discussing this with us?

 

theres a girl im inlove with and i want to have sex with horribly but not because of pleasure but because i feel like thats proving i love her...

 

to be honest, i dont know if i can completely say without knowing all your relationship details... but if you sacrifice sex for loyalty, and she isnt giving you anything, maybe she's not that loyal? there's more to sex than just sex, its about being intimate and close with someone. if she really doesnt want that with you, something's gotta be wrong... if she wont give you a reason and u cant work it out, i really cant see your relationship prevailing, no matter how loyal you are. things have to work both ways, this is for sex and everything else... try being intimate with her, yet not jumping into sex. when you two are in bed just kiss and hold her, then move from there. if it never moves on to anything, try finding out what's up. if you cant -she wont tell you or whatever else- you gotta start examining your relationship. remember there's like millions of people on earth, just becuase you found one doesnt mean she's the ONLY. but maybe she is the girl for you, but you gotta start talking. even if it seems hard or ridiculous, you feel embarassed. say it anyways, better than not.

 

This isn't a rare situation.

I stay loyal to my family (read:kids) rather than have a fulfilling sex life. My wife is utterly disinterested, and when she WAS interested it was same way every time. Nothing even SLIGHTLY racy...no oral, no dirty talk, nothing.

Loyalty is important. But so is your own well-being.

Make your choice, and be damned. DON'T choose, and be damned.

It's a tough road.