so i live in oklahoma, but im moving back to tennessee, my ex and i want to get back together but i wont be moving back to the city i was first in, also the city where he lives. we'll be going to different schools and it'd take fourty-five minutes to see each other, if not more. i dont know what to do.
45 minutes is short distance in my opinion. Just focus on school and having fun and if things are meant to be for you two (your both very young) then they will happen.
45 mins distance is long enough. How often are you planning on seeing him? I've had a 45 minute distance relationship once. It didn't last as we hardly saw each other. You'll get peeved off with it eventually. You might aswell look for someone close by.
not true if the two people involved are willing to make an effort. If they can't make an LDR work, there is a 99% chance things would have failed anyways, had there been close proximity. If anything, distance is a way to strengthen a bond like none other and brings positives to the table that you wouldn't find in close proximity. Distance brings out the creative side of each person especially and emphasizes mental connection over physical. Not just you, but I hate when people doom LDR, especially when it is going on such little info, like here. "oh, you'll get sick of it."..ect. I am sick of the Dr. doom viewpoint and I disagree, LDR can be just as fulfilling, if not more so than close proximity relationships.
eh thats bad advice - jumping the gun a little too much on that one. first off - 45mins isnt long distance. if youre both committed to each other and can deal with not being able to see each other as much as youd like, then your relationship could survive. as long as you both know what youre getting yourself into with the distance thing and agree that you can handle it then, then i say give it a try. remember 45mins isnt long at all. long distance relationships are easier these days with the technology out there (phones, computers, messaging you can do throughout the day) even though its not the same as being able to touch the person
Whait until you move and try the 45-min-distance thing. If it doesnt feels right and if it's too much effort for you to make, just quit, you're young, you don't need to attch with someone anyway at this age.
I've had a distant relationship, about the same distance. It was the worst relationship I had been in. Yeh she was VERY keen and had she lived closer it would have been a great relationship but both of us got really peeved off about the relationship and then ended up going with other people. I saw her as much as I could, every weekend but it was crap. We both chose to go with people much closer. Never again will I have distant relationships, not with the options you have closer to home To the person asking the question. Go for it, by all means, but I doubt it will last.
I would say long distance relationships can work. I refuse to quit just because it gets tough, if you love someone enough it can deffinatley work. I am in a LDR right now, and yes the distance sucks, but he is the most amazing guy I have ever known, and I wouldn't give him up just because it isn't easy, or because I could settle for someone that lives closer. However you are quite young, and at that age it would be really difficult to get to spend time with each other. Keep in contact deffinatley, and maybe in a few years when you are both more independent, if you still feel the same, go for it.
Just go ahead with it until you find another decent guy come your way. It will happen and I bet you a penny you and the long distance guy will fade apart. You're only 14 bloody hell. In a couple of yrs time you'll have the men swarming at your feet and you'll find it hard to resist.
long distance relationships can make it easier to last if the people r truley inlove. they look forward and apprecieate when they get to see eachother so much more. and there for the feelings last longer and are much stronger.
i agree, 45 mins isn't that long. but its hard once you've both got jobs, and school and family. my age is mentioned frequently, sure im young in numbers. but numbers mean nothing. <3
D: sorry. my sister is in that situation..well not as far i guess. but she's in oklahoma and her fiancee is in england. if i were in that situation i'd not stay in the relationship though.
well at 14 years old 45 m inutes is a long way to travel. i'm quite sure at 14 transportation is an issue for most teens. unless you have a bus card or really cool parents who will even accept the fact you are dating let alone want to drive thier kid to visit a boyfriend 45 minutes away.although you are young if you really like this guy your love and affection will withstand the distance between you. this will be the test of your affections for one another, good luck
