So...who's ever fallen for their best friend?

I have, and it's killing me! She's gay and single so I know I might have a chance, but I'm just so scared of ruining our friendship that I can't bring myself to tell her I like her.
Has this sort of thing happened to anyone else? And how did you handle it?
Thanks!!!

 

I have and we're together. It wasnt an ideal situation as she was with someone that she had a commitment ceremony with and I was married to a man. But quickly things fell into place for us. It IS EXTREMELY scary when you fall for your friends. You always risk things going bad, and you cant go back to the way you were. But sometimes its worth the risk. Its best (in my opinion) to feel out the situation for awhile first. Try and find out if she may have the same feelings. Thats what happened with us. She casually mentioned things, and asked questions. When she had an idea that I liked her too, she made a move. It was so exciting and scary at the same time. I tell you though, I have never in my life been so happy or so confident in our decisions. And its a love that I didnt know was possible. I hope with everything that I am, that things work out for us. Cause I cant imagine my life without her.

Lilac
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Thanks Mystik. I agree with your suggestion to wait for a while to suss out the situation, but the problem is my friend and I will only be together at university for another week or so before a three-month summer break, where we will be in different cities. Part of me wants to tell her this week, so that if she's not interested, the summer will give us some time to think and will have less chance of ruining our friendship. But the other side of me wants to wait until September and see how I feel then, but I'd be gutted if she'd found a girlfriend over the summer. Aargh!

 

Ick. That sucks that you'll be away from each other all summer. Do you think she's interested at all? Of course you could keep in touch with her over the summer, talk on the phone, IM... and such. Maybe through that time period you'll be able to tell better. Absence makes the heart...

Lilac
:daisy:

 

Thanks. I think she might be interested but I'm not sure enough to take a chance right now. Hopefully you're right and I'll be able to tell after the summer. Thank you for the advice

 

waiting has always been a huge no-no for me
as it ruined many of my would-be relationships

also, there is no reason for it to ruin your friendship, as long as you don't let it
and you are going to carry this burden with you the whole duration of the friendship, so you might as well get it out there, let your emotions free, let what's destine be

 

I fell for my housemate who was straight 5 years ago and it drove me crazy. one night we were watching a movie and she started hugging me, then kissing me. I never told her how i felt; i guess you must just give of certain signals when you like someone. We ended up getting together and were together for 2 years. We have since split up but are still housemates and best friends. I'd wouldn't say anything if i were you, i would try and use different tactics, like going the cinema or having a night out and just flirt a little to see if you get a reaction. I am only telling you this because i told a friend lately who is straight that i liked her. We kissed and talked about things and then all of a sudden she ran in the other direction because she didn't want to ruin the friendship, unfortuanately we have hardley spoke since; so just be careful. I f you want this girl so much that it is worth risking your friendship, then go for it; if not just give it time and see what is round the corner. Good Luck x

 

Mm – I fell for my best friend – her str8 – me so gay!! We tried dating for a while – but me knowing her (and still loving her) the way I did – I just couldn’t think of a way for us to survive! We worked out the kinks and we’re back to being friends.. She recently asked me to stand next to her when she weds! (She has a “best girl” lol – phrasing)

My advice is – just try and spent some quality time and choose subtle ways to let her know ur into her…. The rest will follow

 

Yeah, unfortunately. We would've still been together at the moment but she ended up feeling very unsure of herself and awful about her orientation. It got the best of her. We were close after she ended our relationship. She claimed to be in love with me still; and so was I towards her...but once she got over that, I had to disappear for awhile. We didn't talk for a month. & the next 2 we barely talked and ended up fighting when we started to talk alot again. But I unexpectedly met someone amazing. And now that I don't have any leftover feelings for my best friend, we are the same as we were before we fell for each other.

 

i fell for my best last year....we been friends for 7 yrs and we did give it a try but it didnt work outt due to me bein like dat n her being str8...we're still friendss like best..we still bug out like we always did...it just hurts to know that Im in love with my best friend and it does kill me inside when she talks about finding someone right for...makes me want to tell herr...give me chance but I guess she dont want too due to the relationship we have now...so idk what to do....reguardless im still there for her

 

I understand that 100%! Cause I am now single...and my above posts make me a little sad. But its ok. We're still friends, things are weird sometimes, but we're trying. Basically...she is still in love with her ex.

 

yes it does hurt to know your in love with your best friend but its likeee sometimes you have to take chances in lifeee...cuz if you dont...your going to wonder what if dis happen....feel me....but nahhh i tried the expressin my feelings but i stopped showin my feelings even though i know she knows i still do you know because on the way i act but i just cant help it because i care alot bout her n she still is my best....i aint acting no different with her...so @ least thats good

 

Yes, it had happened to me, we actually had sex a couple of times, but we were really young then, and i know that she is straight, but then i had to move towns, so even if something were to happen it wont now.

 

i've been trying to get a piece of my best friend since we were teenagers. she's totally straight, though. she knows it's available if she ever wants it. if she and her husband need a non-threatening female presence, i'm totally there.

 

Well do i have a story for you. Btw, jus wan 2 say how gr8 i think it is that technology n shit helps me find ppl i can tlk 2 n just be myself wif, i kno im around friends here, .

Well, i fell in love with my best friend in high school, shes just amazing, i pretended friendship was enough but like, i would plan my day around her, get spots next to her at lunch, knee bumps in maths etc. N then she hooked up wif this guy, who just happened to hav a girls name, which further dug the nail in! Anyway he totally didnt know what he had and it upset me so much. But get this, i went to her house n met her older sister. God! Needless to say i got over my BfF quickly, and started 2 get 2 noe her sis ova myspace, jus jokin n shit, we had a joke about livin 2getha, and then after agez i got up the courage to ask when it stopped bein a joke and she was like agez ago and told me she luved me and i luved her and now we have been in deep love for over a year. I neva told her i loved her sista first, I HOPE SHE DOESNT READ THIS LOL LUV U GASSY (pj ) Nyway, yeah, it is just so perfect how it all worked out. I just cant help but wonda what it would be like if i told her sis i wanted her all along...

 

I've fallen for my best friend, her name is Tessa. I told her I loved her after a while crying at the same time and she said it was alright, and that our friendship wasn't going to change.​

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Ah, it'd good to have a happy ending. I can just hope one day she'll love me back.​

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I'm also in love with another close friend of mine, but I just can't choose between the two.​

 

Well....I wouldn't say she's my BEST friend. Just a friend. There's virtually NO chance of me getting with her though, but her friendship is enough for me.