Why doesn't he want to have sex?

*YAWN!*

 

LOL! That wasn't feeding a troll, THAT was baiting one!

 

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Emasculates himself? Ok, I'll tell him not to go because he's not a real man if he wants to know why he doesn't want sex. Why do you keep talking in generalizations? If a woman stops having sex, a guy has every right to complain! Who says he doesn't? If she doesn't fix the problem he has every right to break up with her because sex is a very important part of a healthy relationship. Are you not reading what I've been writing? Because everytime I validate your point you just seem to speak about how "every woman is" and insult me. I'm sorry you've had bad experiences with women in this department, but I'm not like that. But like it matters, you'll ignore this reply too.

 

Oh and just adding: If I lost my sex drive and didn't know why I would go to a doctor too, and if I did know, I would either try to fix what was wrong or get out of the relationship.

 

My boyfriend was the same way about 2 weeks ago. We've been together for a year and a half.
After fighting for ever about it, we finally TALKED about it. He's afraid I'll get pregnant again. So, instead of just relying on my pills, we're also using condoms.
Talking and figuring out a solution has worked, I guess. We do it more than we have been and I don't have to beg for it. It kinda felt like I wasn't allowed to like sex and I wasn't allowed to want it. He's working on his feelings, and we worked through the problems. Maybe if you discuss it when you're out together and he can't get away, he'll figure out the problem.

 

has it left you for 9 months? I would have concern if I didn't want to have sex for 9 months...and who's talking about condoms?

 

ahh, I see now my apologies. A couple of weeks of not feeling in the mood is understandable...everyone has those times when work, family, ect. drains you. But when 9 months has come and gone, I think anyone would be concerned...and like I said before, I did the mature thing and talked about my feelings about it. I didn't demand anything from him, I just asked questions and wanted to get his perspective. He didn't realize my concerns and yes, that is my fault for not saying something sooner. He assumed that it was something that just happens to all guys and asked if taking some herbal supplement would help. I told him not to just take something to get a hard on, he could not want sex for a bunch of different reasons. He made an appointment with his doctor, then told me. Now that things are out in the open we've moved past it. He still doesn't want sex, but at least I know that it's not because he's unhappy...which was my fear all along. Unlike the women you speak of I love my BF and don't want to have him on a leash, he goes out with friends, he can look at porn if he pleases, he can do whatever he wants (except cheat)....and if he's ever unhappy I would want to fix it, or be mature enough to let him move on.

 

I've tried EVERYTHING! Including but not limited to: lingerie, stripping/lapdances, porn, dinner by candlelight, walking around completely naked, licking chocolate off his penis...I never turn down a blow job, I don't mind being on top and working for my own orgasm, I don't expect him to make me come every time, I've tried toys, introduced different positions, roleplayed, I've tried anal...he says he loves everything I do he just can't feel a desire to do anything about it, and that makes him upset, which makes me upset because I don't like to see him unhappy. I've even tried to get rid of MY sex drive so he doesn't feel bad.

 

cn283, I forgot to congratulate you on getting your man to go to the doctor and find out what's going on. I hope everything is on the mend, and you two have a long and happy relationship!

 

What if someone was allergic to hormonal birthcontrol or had panic attacks going to the obgyn?

 

There could be a valid reason behind it. Maybe you don't look so attractive to him now than you were before. Try changing your image in a way that you will look attractive and sexy to him. But don't exaggerate things.


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Tell your b/f that if he doesnt fuck you then your going to fuck somebody else... Even if you wouldnt, just tell him that so he'll want to have sex again... But to be honest i've never heard a situation where dude has less a sex drive then the female... Thats odd, tell your boi to go see a doc... good luck tho... In the mean time you can always use those "toys" that you were talkin about...

 

Last weekend was better, we'll see what happens this weekend.

 

Speaking for myself, my libido goes down when I'm stressed or not feeling well. Depending how my work life is going, my sex drive can go from wanting it a couple times day down to a couple of days a week. My gf on the other hand has her sex dial on 10 all the time. I'm aware of this and try and catch myself during my down spells and be more giving sexually. Its not always the easist thing to do, but I value my relationship highly and don't ever want her to feel not desired by me.

 

there are also some guys that don't have a strong libedo. I know people say all men are pretty much horny all of the time, and ALOT of them pretty much are, but I have met men (a man) who didn't hold sex that high up on the pedastral, and really only needed it so much. Not that that sounds like your case though if he stopped cold turkey.

 

There could be a valid reason behind it. Maybe you don't look so attractive to him now than you were before. Try changing your image in a way that you will look attractive and sexy to him. But don't exaggerate things.

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