Polyamory anyone?

I never said that, you did. You are judging me based on your past experiences. She called my cellphone for him and hung up on me, and He DIDN'T want to have anything to do with her after that. If some guy, or anyone for that matter, was my friend and disrespected my man I wouldn't have shit to do with them either. What is wrong with that? Yes I told her off, but what she did was rude as hell, and he backed me up 100%. He dosn't want any trash around him.

Why are you so angry? I am not judging you for it, I am just curious. This is the first day we have ever talked and yet you keep attacking me, it seems. Normally I wouldn't even bother with this, but I got in a car accident today that I'm totally shaken up over, and your distracting me from that panic. For that I thank you. But still I am intrigued by your anger. What brings it on?

 

Cowboy Blue, I am starting to love you

but yeah
polyamory is ok with me, as long as it is all up front and honest
but definently not for me

it seems to me like it would be quite a lot of hollow emotions, good times, but just not sincere (and I mean especially to yourselves)

like, the girls the couples that start saying 'I love you' within the first week
that's what a polyamory seems like to me

 

god! it was both of us. I told her off when it happen and reported it to him. He agreed that was downright bitchy of her and took my side and told me he doesn't want to hang with anyone that doesn't respect our union. what more do you want. I took care of it and he agreed! It's mutual!!!!

why didn't you answer my question? are you scared too?

 

Why are you so angry? I am not judging you for it, I am just curious. This is the first day we have ever talked and yet you keep attacking me, it seems. Normally I wouldn't even bother with this, but I got in a car accident today that I'm totally shaken up over, and your distracting me from that panic. For that I thank you. But still I am intrigued by your anger. What brings it on?



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Am I a bitch then? or are you putting a mask of bitchiness on my persona to deal with your personal life? What have I said that makes me a bitch? other than I'm free thinking or believe in equality, which it seems like you don't.

I'm smiling while I write this b/c the thing all my friends say, or people in general when they deal with me, is I'm the nicest most caring person they ever met. Not to say I'm great, but bitch isn't something I usually hear

I mean come on. Is it religious, or what. Why do you come off like this?

 

haha cry. maybe I should post what I said... hold on I will.

"you seem to have alot of negativity towards me. perhaps its only b/c I'm woman or perhaps your acting for some other reason. Whatever it is it's not needed or productive towards any gains or insights that I can see. If you want to be like that, fine, it's only the internet and your not hurting me. But whats the point? are you angry?"

does this really sound like crying to you?

p.s. you still didn't answer my question... and not the bitch one

 

I agree, I can understand it on a sexual level, but not on an emotional one
when I am with soemone, the only things I feel emotionally for other girls is a friendly sorta admiration at most

they have their heads so set on finding love, that they convince themselves that every little thing is love
social conditioning brought through dramatic accounts of love they see in the media, mixed with the impatience, gullibility, and anxiety of youth

I agree with that last part, but why do you feel a multiple-people relationship should be male dominated??

 

typically you cna't be jealous person and a poly at the same time :tongue:

as far as society goes, these people obviously don't care too much about society's view of things

and I disagree very much with your views of gender roles

 

that they are mostly based from society and extremely flawed

I mean, gender roles change from society to society, so they are obviously not naturally inherent in us

as far as a relationship goes, how exactly it plays out all depends on the people, but each member has to make their own contributions

in my relationship, so far, I am mostly the provider, I am also typically the more openly tender one, where she is caring but far less vocal about it, I am probably slightly more sensitive, and she is typically more grounded and balances out some of my more radical thoughts/actions, and we both provide reasoning on different levels
as far as physical relations go, I am usually the more dominant, and also typically the initiator, but I have to remain flexible, because at times she likes to take over these roles

I feel that instead of society attempting to force gender roles, it should be something treated more liberally
where as there are clear differences between the way the male and female work, both are human, and both are multi-capable

 

lol... polyamory is filthy.. id slap the fuck out my wife, spit on her face and leave her on site, if she ever came close to kissing another man, yet alone fucking his dick... thats straight filthy.

 

America, in many many ways, not limited to, but including this, is in a period of transition
we are in between conservative and liberal gender roles
I feel that, the turmoil lies in the confusion of a melding of two ideals
there is currently no balance, just a whole lot of rocking in every direction

 

my friend is of the same opinion: she says she can love two people at once
well...maybe...maybe it just depends on the person i dunno

but for me it's sorta weird...
no i dont think i can love two people...

 

Such chauvonistic male ego's. Sounds similiar to hard core members of islamic or christians beliefs.

 

You seem to have this idea that anyone who disargrees with you about polyamory is not a hippy and shouldnt be on hipforums.com...people who believe in romantic sexual love between two people only arent hippies? Uhm, no...

 

Hmmmmm.... and physical abuse and degrading acts aren't filthy???? Go figure that one!

 

what's the point of marriage??????

 

To the OP: I'm curious about the dynamics of your relationship with these men, particularly when there's conflict within the group. Let's say you and your husband quarrel, does the other guy take sides or does he try to stay neutral and let the two of you work it out? ALso, if you have or are planning to have children, what will you tell them? Being in a polyamorous relationship isn't exactly common, so they will wonder why they have one mom and two dads unlike most kids.

 

that is so not what i said at all. i was refuring to the person that was being harsh to every comment made here.

 

When there is a quarrel with the husband and I the bf stays out of it completely. And same if the bf and I argue the husband stays out of it. I have 2 children they are toddlers so right now they do not understand anything and the bf is refured to as uncle. When they get older and can understand i will tell my children about it. if they chose to agree with it fine if not fine also.

 

I could quite easily love a few
men....3 or 4 !!!

Having a relationship with them
all is a different matter...

I must say the thought of having
two men to have sex with is a
very exciting one...

Couldnt do it at the moment cos
we have an eight year old son and
i dont think it would be good for
him..I remember my father saying
his parents were part of an eternal
triangle and it really grossed him
out as well as fucked him up......

Maybe one day...

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